Help please. Do I Kick him out?
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Apt Building owner tried to kick us out.
Comments (9)I don't get why you're so angry. You can't just up and move into a unit and start doing all kinds of renovations to it and then tell the owner 'oh, by the way, I moved in and remodeled...'. Maybe he wanted more rent for the unit you took over. Maybe he had the place already leased out to someone else and by you moving in he had to cancel the other lease (which could cause him a lot of grief and land him in court). Maybe he had plans to do improvements or repairs while it was vacant. Who knows, there could be all kinds of reasons why he's upset, but the bottom line is you need to remember that this property is owned by someone else and it's their right to do with the vacated unit as they please. You had no right (nor was it legal) to simply swap units unannounced and without agreement. LLs/owners have leases with occupants. Binding contracts with conditions including assigning a specific tenant to a specific unit. Breaking the conditions of a lease can and often does land parties in court. So you broke your contract (by moving out of your unit without notice) and basically encroached on a different unit by simply taking over without advance agreement. Just because you know someone who moves out of a place doesn't mean it's up for grabs and you can take over. It simply does not work that way. As far as not taking cash, nothing wrong with that. It's a way to track payments made and have it recorded through a bank. Highly doubtful there is some scheme. But would recommend you be on your best behavior now. Don't make any further alterations to his property without his express consent. Do pay on time. And lay low. The guy did you a huge favor by letting you stay, legally he could feasibly have evicted you from the premises altogether. Sorry if this comes across as harsh, but you really crossed a line that you should not have....See MoreMy partner treats me so bad , but I love him, how do I fix us?
Comments (7)We have a few addicts in our family. You probably know these things, but in case you don't... The first things drugs do is destroy a person's conscience. Right and wrong mean nothing to an addict--they only care about finding the money for their next fix. Addicts lie. MOST of the time. NO ONE can 'fix' an addict or their relationship with one. As long as you're trying to help him (paying for life's essentials, letting him get away with abusing you, etc), YOU are keeping him an addict. Most addicts really don't change. The few who do usually do so only after they've totally hit rock bottom. Helping him as you are, is keeping him from deciding to get the real help he needs. Look, as the others have said, YOU cannot fix this problem. All you really can do is save yourself. Get out. Take some time to heal, and find a real man, who truly loves you, and won't abuse you physically, verbally and financially. And just in case those words don't help you make up your mind--are you prepared to go to jail for this man? If the police find drugs in the car while YOU'RE driving it, YOU could be charged with the crime. And do you really believe this guy would step up and claim ownership of them to get you out of trouble? I doubt it. Whatever else you decide to do, please start squirrelling money away for the legal fees you no doubt will be paying sometime in the future, because one or the other of you will probably need to be bailed out and defended at some point...See MoreShould DB kick his son out? Very long
Comments (52)wildchild, it sure does seem as though there must be some chemical imbalance that could explain DN's inability to ignore a sudden impulse, but they're frustrated because so far no combination of therapy and medication has been successful. No, DN has never been seen by an actual psychiatrist. He has seen a school psychologist, a regular psychologist and is on his third therapist (only because they were relocated to different cities). He did see a neurologist, but that doctor only evaluated him for his Cat Scan, it wasn't a psychological evaluation. So they are really looking forward to DN seeing the psychiatrist in a few weeks. DN seems to have a pretty normal social life. When he isn't grounded, his friends come over or he goes to one of their houses. They do the normal teenage stuff, movies, bowling, etc. He's between girlfriends right now. Some of his hobbies are playing guitar and writing music, woodworking and skateboarding. He has a pierced eyebrow and likes to wear funky suspenders, so I guess that would qualify for how he expresses himself? lori, yes my DB and DSIL know I'm asking my 'forum friends.' I've been keeping in touch with him regularly so I could ask about specific questions many of you have posed, since I didn't know the answers to all of them. I sincerely hope no one felt slighted after making a thoughtful suggestion, if I had to explain that it had already been examined and eliminated as a possibility. It's just that pretty much everything that has been brought to the table so far has already been explored except for the advice by a few posters that DB push for an M.R.I. (which DN has never had) just to rule out anything medical that may have been missed. DB and DSIL are basically all out of energy trying to figure this out and the appointment with the psychiatrist on June 5th can't come soon enough as far as they're concerned. You mentioned that since everyting seems to have been explored, what else could there be other than that DN is just choosing to do what he does. Believe me, DB has confided to me that at this point he doesn't know which he fears more...that there might really be something physiological wrong in DN's brain that is causing this behaviour, or that the psychiatrist will conclude DN is just some kind of master manipulator who by all appearances is a kind, loving son, brother and friend, but gets a weird kick out of acting deviant once in a while and pulling the wool over everyone's eyes by acting so contrite and ashamed afterwards! DB hasn't tried to put his son into military school because DN is well liked at his current school and gets good grades. He's already been to 5 different schools in as many cities, so they don't want to enforce another change unless it's the last hope. As well, DB feels that typically, military schols are best suited for young people who have problems with aggression or defiance, in other words, kids, who need a major attitude adjustment. DN is amiable, respectful, and kindhearted, so they actually don't want is attitude adjusted, just his behaviour. Your suggestion for some kind of alternative school or behavioural modification school is a good one and that will most likely be DB's choice of action, pending the psychiatrist's assessment. I will for sure let you all know what the psychiatrist concludes, because everyone has been so thoughtful in bringing forth anything they felt might be of help....See MoreOMG ladies, I can't believe he's kicking me out!
Comments (19)I have my 8x10 "art Room" but thats just for a supply room!lol! I work in the dining room and living room! DH actually likes his 4 days of working 14hrs outta the house!ha! Then I try and clean up for a few days, but lately I've been so BAD! I've left stuff out as I am bugging him for moving near Cindy! to a rancher the same size but no land,(would loose 1/2acre) but has a sunroom that is 15x23!!!! DH is wanting to move to that lil town but that did not work out soo....I'm sooo bad, will I ever behave??!!!Closer to Cindy(5 min drive!!) AND a workshop, hey does it get any better???!!!!I'm sooo selfish! ha! BTW: I still am trying to get over the tittle of this post! I thought, OH NO! He(DH)is kicking her out for her mosaic addiction! (Too close to home!lol) Yup, it's an eye catcher of a post!!! heh heh!...See MoreSylvia Gordon
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