Etiquette--how to address a widow
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Comments (7)Thanks, kj. Now I get to get the Windex out and clean the tea off my screen. LOL!!...See MoreHelp Needed - You asked for it!
Comments (16)Just a few things off the top of my head: Pre-arranged trades should be arranged BEFORE THE DAY OF THE SWAP, and marked as such before they ever leave home. I also think these swaps should be taken care of BEFORE the general swapping begins, so there's less of a chance of someone's pre-arranged trade getting lost in the shuffle, grabbed by some uninformed newbie, etc. I agree that the deal with the notepads needs to be worked out in better detail. Maybe we'd be better of with two pads each---one to remain ATTACHED to the table where folks can write down what they'd like, their name and table number, etc. and a second one to carry around and note that same info on, so no one forgets who's pad they've written something on. (Hey, I'm getting old and forgetful, okay?) I love the idea of pre-registration, and BIG numbers for the tables. Tables should also be in strict numerical order, IF it's possible for someone to mark off the spaces before people start arriving. And it might be a good idea to put your table number on your plant tags, too, along with your name and the name of the plant. I'd also like to suggest that if you have a plant to share that needs to be DIVIDED, please divide it BEFORE bringing it to the swap. A couple of things I really wanted I was told "This needs to be divided since there are so many people here" and when I went back for it, it was all gone. Granted, in previous years this *probably* wouldn't have happened, but... Doorprizes---maybe we could just do away with this? In past years, where the swap was smaller, it worked okay, but as things have gotten larger---a lot of people either don't donate a doorprize at all, or donate one and fail to register for one, etc. I think some were left over this time, too. And this would be just one less thing to have to organize... Speakers---I really hate that I missed Mary's talk this last time, but I had to leave early because we had out-of-town relatives on their way. (Who didn't arrive until WAAAAY late, but...they're family.) Maybe Norm could tell us all about 'maters? (*grin*) And I do like the Q&A idea, too....See MoreFIL widowed
Comments (24)neesie- you really need to take a few steps back, and look at how much of the mess is your responsibility - and how much of the stress you're obviously under is your own fault. you have the idea in your head that this is your responsibility, and you 'know' what to do about it... so much so that it's become more about having your way than it is about taking care of a man who you clearly don't understand very well. yes, packratting is irritating - but instead of coming off like a busy body, why not tell him that there's a class project, and one of the kids ( or your local church, or an impoverished daycare) needs a bunch of cottage cheese containers, like a shopping bag full? I'll bet he'd be willing to spare them for a good cause, yes? you're creating 'win or lose' situations that are sure to cause strife in a family that's got to be all tied up in knots already - if you think you're worn out, frustrated, and at your wit's end...think about how people who were actually raised in this family are feeling...and then add the weight of guilt for every mug that lost its handle, every broken promise, and every letter of phone call someone was too busy to attend to. it's great that you're trying to clean up the place - but it took us two YEARS to clean things up after my father's death. two YEARS before we sorted out the papers and the trauma and really got the house cleaned up... and for the first year, a puzzle sat unfinished on top of the piano, and not even my brother, who's as practical as the rest of us are superstitious, could bring himself to touch it. this is part of the healing process, and you simply cannot rush it. instead of starting with the photographs - why not start with the curtains, which I'm sure need laundering? when you DO get around to the pictures - start by buying a large 'collage' frame, or a big album, and get your FIL to help you (or someone else) make sure that the photos are documented (who, when, why)before they're stowed. that will help it be about rememberbering, and honouring the past, instead of creating the impression that you do not actually consider yourself part of their family, and find it all so much stuff and bother....See MoreSome Funnies
Comments (1)LOL Thanks so much for the giggle Summer. Sue :)...See Morekacram
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