Expressing sympathy at death of toddler
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Comments (18)Coping With Grief “All his [Jacob’s] sons and daughters came to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. ‘No,’ he said, ‘in mourning will I go down to the grave to my son.’ So his father wept for him.”�"GENESIS 37:35, The Holy Bible�"New International Version. THE patriarch Jacob grieved deeply over the loss of his son. He expected to grieve until the day he died. Like Jacob, you may feel that the pain of losing a loved one is so deep that it will never go away. Does such intense grief necessarily indicate a lack of faith in God? Definitely not! The Bible portrays Jacob as a man of faith. Along with his grandfather Abraham and his father, Isaac, Jacob is commended for his outstanding faith. (Hebrews 11:8, 9, 13) Why, on one occasion, he even wrestled all night with an angel to get a blessing from God! (Genesis 32:24-30) Evidently, Jacob was a deeply spiritual man. What, then, can we learn from Jacob’s grief? Deep feelings of grief and sorrow when a loved one dies are not incompatible with strong faith in God. Grief is the normal and natural response to the loss of someone we love. What Is Grief? Grief can affect us in various ways, but for many the overriding feeling is one of intense emotional pain. Consider the experience of Leonardo, who was 14 years old when his father suddenly died from cardiorespiratory problems. Leonardo will never forget the day his aunt broke the news to him. At first, he refused to believe that it was true. He saw his father’s body at the funeral, but it all seemed strangely unreal. For about six months, Leonardo was unable to cry. Often, he found himself waiting for his father to come home from work. It took about a year before the full impact of the loss sank in. When it did, he felt terribly alone. Ordinary things�"such as coming home to an empty house�"reminded him of his father’s absence. At such times, he often broke down and cried. How he missed his father! As Leonardo’s experience well illustrates, grief can be intense. The good news is that recovery is possible. However, it may take some time. Just as a severe physical wound takes time to heal, so it is with bereavement. Recovering from grief may take months, a few years, or even longer. But the acute pain you feel in the beginning will lessen in time, and life will gradually seem less bleak and meaningless. In the meantime, grief is said to be a necessary part of the healing process and of learning to adapt to the new situation. There is an empty space where before there was a living human. We need to adjust to life without that person. Grief may provide a necessary emotional release. Of course, not everyone grieves in exactly the same way. One thing, though, seems to hold true: Repressing your grief can be harmful mentally, emotionally, and physically. How, then, can you express your grief in healthy ways? The Bible contains some practical advice. Coping With Grief Talking about your feelings can bring a measure of relief Many bereaved ones have found that talking can be a helpful release. Notice, for example, the words of the Bible character Job, who suffered the loss of all ten of his children and endured other tragedies. He said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Notice that Job needed to “give vent” to his concerns. How would he do so? “I will speak,” he explained. Paulo, who lost his mother, says: “One of the things that has helped me is to talk about my mother.” So talking about your feelings to a trusted friend can bring a measure of relief. (Proverbs 17:17) After losing her mother, Yone asked her Christian brothers to visit her more often. “Talking helped to ease the pain,” she recalls. You too may find that putting your feelings into words and sharing them with a sympathetic listener will make it easier to deal with them. Writing can be helpful in expressing grief Writing can also be a helpful release. Some who find it difficult to talk about their feelings may find it easier to express themselves in writing. Following the death of Saul and Jonathan, the faithful man David wrote a deeply mournful song in which he poured out his sorrow. This emotional dirge eventually became part of the Bible book of Second Samuel.�"2 Samuel 1:17-27. Reading about the resurrection hope can be a real source of comfort Crying may also serve as an emotional release. “For everything there is an appointed time, even . . . a time to weep,” says the Bible. (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4) To be sure, the death of someone we love is “a time to weep.” Tears of grief are nothing to be embarrassed about. The Bible contains many examples of faithful men and women who openly expressed their grief by weeping. (Genesis 23:2; 2 Samuel 1:11, 12) Jesus Christ “gave way to tears” when he neared the tomb of his dear friend Lazarus, who had recently died.�"John 11:33, 35. Working through grief takes patience, for you may feel that you are on an emotional roller coaster. Remember that you do not have to be ashamed of your tears. Many faithful individuals have found that shedding tears of grief is a normal and necessary part of the healing process. Draw Close to God The Bible tells us: “Draw close to God, and he will draw close to you.” (James 4:8) One of the principal ways to draw close to God is through prayer. Do not underestimate its value! The Bible makes this comforting promise: “Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” (Psalm 34:18) It also assures us: “Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you.” (Psalm 55:22) Think about this. As we noted earlier, many have found it helpful to talk about their feelings with a trusted friend. Would it not be even more helpful to pour out your feelings to the God who promises to comfort our hearts?�"2 Thessalonians 2:16, 17. Paulo, who was mentioned earlier, commented: “When I just couldn’t endure the pain anymore and felt that I could not cope, I would get down on my knees and pray to God. I begged him to help me.” Paulo is convinced that his prayers made a difference. You too may find that in response to your persistent prayers, “the God of all comfort” will give you the courage and the strength to cope.�"2 Corinthians 1:3, 4; Romans 12:12. Here is a link that might be useful: Watchtower: Coping with Grief...See MoreDeath in the family
Comments (78)Ginger; I am so very sorry for you and your family. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain they, and you, are experiencing. I'm holding all of you in my prayers. (((((Reiley))))) ...forbid them not to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven......See MoreNeed advice, expressing sympathy
Comments (20)Bless you, Stephanie in Ga, for your concern for these recently-arrived neighbours in their sorrow and for how best to express your concern. How about just going over, ringing the doorbell, and when they answer, to express your concern and empathy for them in their sorrow? If you feel so drawn to, especially if it's the mother and she seems to be accepting your kindness in a certain way, maybe to open your arms to offer a hug. After the initial discussion, how about saying that you'd considered taking up a neighbourhood collection, or offering food on a rotating basis, assuring them that your desire was to offer whichever service would be most meaningful/helpful to them? Greetings Sue VA, I feel distressed that you were so troubled by the generous gift from your neighbours/friends on the death of your husband. Sometimes the huge pain of death of a loved one causes us to react to events in unusual ways, and I regret that you laid this extra suffering on yourself at that time: you had enough to contend with as it was. Almost certainly their gift indicated their desire to express their sincere concern at your time of sorrow and pain, not to judge that you were needy. Sometimes, it seems to me, we are more willing to offer a gift to others than to accept one graciously when it is sincerely offered to us. Is it a function of our desire to be independent, to pick up our own marbles, to not need to depend on others for anything, I wonder? You spoke of the difficulty of forgiving them ... and I am wondering ... what was there to forgive? They had expressed their concern, in what they felt to be an appropriate way, a tangible one, in a good, generous spirit. Whatever the reason ... I am sorry that it has caused so much hurt and trouble for you ... and for so long! Is it still troubling your heart? Have you talked it over/out with a counsellor? If it is, I hope that you will consider doing that ... please get this painful boil on your back lanced, so that it can heal and the pain be gone! Life is too short to carry around a load of pain like that ... especially when quite a few would consider it largely unnecessary, I think. I hope that you will not consider what I have said as criticism of you ... it is intended only as regret at the way that you chose to react to this event in your life and the resultant pain that it has caused. Good wishes to you during the coming days. ole joyful...See MoreHow to express sorrow at this late date?
Comments (15)I would not send a card or letter. To me that's so canned. I'd make a personal contact either by phone or in person and I would just say something to the effect of I just heard about your daughter and wanted to express my condolences... (Put in your own words of course.) If I knew the daughter I might say something about her, (she was always so cheerful when I'd see her, etc) but only if it's something true and from the heart. Never force things like that. Then just see what the reception is. If he wants to talk about it, fine, if not, wrap it up, wish them well and move along....See Moredeeinohio
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