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Annie Deighnaugh
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Comments (55)Wow Lesli, a Live oak, I love them. I'm trying to grow a Live oak here in Pa. It is the Quartz mountain Live oak, the hardiest Live oak, probably in the world. It did good last winter, which was a mild one. Your's is likely a Texas Live oak, but, if you are in Eastern Texas you could grow the plain Live oak that is usually grown in the more humid (rainier) parts of Texas. And is usually found in the moister southern states. Either way that is a beautiful tree, and good sized, well, you did say it's 500+ years old. I hope mine can handle my winters good enough to get some size to it before I croak....See MoreIs There An Area In Your Rose Garden, Dedicated To Someone Dear?
Comments (16)All of my gardens remind me of my mother and my grand-dad, both of whom loved all kinds of growing things, especially roses. I have lamb's ear because I can remember my mom telling me how it reminded her of the pet lamb she had as a girl. Coleus, petunias, and shasta daisies because we always had them in our yard while I was growing up. Vegetable gardens because each of them considered a yard without a garden incomplete. For a long while, I called that 'heritage' or 'nostalgia' gardening. We planted two oaks in memory of dh's dad when we found a 'buy one, get one free' sale. There's a funny family story concerning dfil and the phrase buy one get one free. It seemed to fit. When my sweet, white mare died, I couldn't bear to look at her empty pen out my back windows. With some serious digging and tilling, planting and watering, we've created a white garden called Amy's Garden. I've filled it with all kinds of wonderful white blooming plants. With the converted metal frame from my childhood swing holding a more modern porch swing, it is a delightful place to relax. I spend a lot of time swinging, thinking and praying for friends and family. One day late last summer, I took my laptop out there. While sitting and typing, a dove landed on the arbor. A rabbit rustled out from hiding. Butterflies fluttered. Enchanting. Then The beginning Horsey garden art Later This spring I planted a Cecile Brunner rose in memory of my much loved sister in law who died in January. Her middle name was Cecile and she'd hate that I found a rose with that name (big grin) but she would love the pink, fragrant sweetheart rose. I love gardening in memory of others. It brings a sweetness to the area that can't be duplicated. Here is a link that might be useful: Creative Soul...See Moreso lost without my dear husband
Comments (19)Don't know if I can be much help but I lost my very special husband in 1985. Kissed me goodbye & went to work, I found myself at a hospital that afternoon, waiting only to finally have someone come in & say, I'm sorry, do you have a mortician(at least that is all I heard)So my trip has been long,24 years. He had a coronary & died instantly. We had 15 yr old DD & 17 yr DS.It was like being put on a stage & handed a script & told you had to play the part. Nothing was real until after everyone left. I had visited a lot of elderly people from church & knew what happened to some of them. They very nearly "crawled in a hole"(under the cover in bed) 1 lady had newspapers all over the yard, shades or curtains drawn, didn't look like anyone home, we had turned to leave when she opened the door. She told me that was the 1st connection to the world she had found since her hubby had died, our visit gave her courage to get out. I remembered that & told myself, what if he were sitting here, would he want to see me crying, would he be torn apart to see me like this, so I just put him in the picture when the going got rough. He was always supportive & loving, we didn't fight in the 22 years we were together because we didn't want to hurt each other. We did have I think 6 times we were silent when each of us thought we were right. Those few times ended with us talking it over & deciding together what to do. I did lot of locking myself out of house(carried extra car & house keys in my purse) ran washer without any clothes in it, couldn't spell 4-5 letter words, couldn't look them up as "when" didn't seem to compute in my brain. I'd write woo, woen,just couldn't write small words. Eventually that stopped but it will start up again for short periods when someone close dies. I carry extra $20 in case I forget gas in my car. I learned to do a lot of compensating. I learned that I could stay in bed 1 day if it was rainy or very cold but then I must get up & fix myself some hot choc., read a book, listen to favorite music, couldn't let it continue into the night. I had to have very good reason for that day off. Rest of time when I wanted to "disappear" I forced myself out to a strip mall to watch people leaving the grocery store, did small errand to get it done & not feel useless, maybe just dropping letters off at post office. If things got bad I called my bro. & he listened & that was a great help. I had people wanting me to pay for headstones when I hadn't ordered 1. I got cheated by ins. company as they didn't leave me amount on their letterhead so I wrote it down & had him sign it but they told me I was wrong,lost about $500 on that. Got so I only cried when something good happened. So have a trusted friend or relative as a witness to anything legal you have to do. Time passed & I kept busy. People think widows have all kinds of time!! Right, I had to do all things I always had & what he did also. Putting gas in car was very upsetting, I had never done it. I had handled the bills & such so didn't have to learn that. My kids left home & after a few years, with some wandering & number of jobs, they are great kids(they felt pretty lost, too)Am I over it after 24 yrs??? No, most days I just think of him several times, lovely memories, but seeing a couple holding hands, leaning on each other, I feel cheated out of that. I'm very grateful we had 24 wonderful years together & hope someday to see him waiting for me.Good Luck folks, the pain & rawness does get better & the memories are sweet & worth holding on to & will get you through....See MoreDH got paid and said - go buy yourself something dear
Comments (17)I hate to say this, but I went out to get some dish organizers from a local home store - been waiting for cutlery to go on sale so we can replace our set that you can bend with your fingers....... Normally $99 - this weekend $49. 18/10 gauge stainless steel 8 x 5 piece sets plus the hostess set. They were waaaaayyyyy up top but the red sticker caught my eye and the overall pattern is a classic so I know both hubby and I can live with it. I'm done now until we go furniture shopping in the spring to replace our Sanford and Son couch and chairs... I can't believe the sales this week. I'm shaking my head in disbelief. It's really been worth waiting for these items. Wow. Happy b'day to me, happy b'day to me!!!!!...See Moregyr_falcon
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