ARE YOU UP FOR MORE FAMILY DRAMA? THIS IS A TRUE STORY

10 years ago

Mother, 80s, bad health, no awards for mother of the year but did the best she knew. Loves her children. not fully cognizant these days.

Daughter: first and fave child, career oriented, self-centered. Loves mother. Accuses brother of mispending mother's comfortable pension as she has to pay shortages. Lives out of town.

Son: Took back seat to sister. No education, no career, no job but lived with mother all his life. Feels entitled to mother's money for "hanging around".

Siblings hate each other (Cain and Abel have nothing on these folks) and are feuding over finances with daughter threatening to stop $ and son calling the bluff. These people are playing chicken with mother's health. Who should blink first and why? I know it sounds absurd but this is for real.

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nanny98

10 years ago

last modified: 10 years ago

Wondering how the mothers' health is part of the problem. THAT is the most important part of the crisis. Added: How can one 'play chicken' and 'blink' etc. Guess I am just thick not to understand.

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lucillle
10 years ago
Sounds like a soap opera. If it is 'real' remember that the perspective about the situation of each party differs, so it may not be what it seems. Also, if it is 'real' any perceived crisis didn't happen in a day, so solutions by family must have been suggested.
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User
10 years ago
My opinion...If I were the sister, I wouldn't pay any more money. That will shake itself out as the pension needs to go towards the mother. Mother is reaping what she sowed. It sounds like she enabled the situation with the son. If daughter doesn't think mother is being properly cared for, then she can either contact adult social services or step in and take care of mom herself. If the siblings are going to fight, they are going to fight. Might as well cut ties now and get it over with. If sister is truly self-centered she will end up alone anyway. Son needs to get a clue, he will have to support himself at some point.
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bossyvossy
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10 years ago
last modified: 10 years ago
Sorry nanny, I wasn't clear. The lady is diabetic, heart problems, had a stroke, and crappy insurance so if bills not paid, she is in danger. The latest scandal was that son has a new girlfriend and was spending the night with her. Found mother on the floor the following morning and was rushed to hospital where she stayed 3 weeks near death. who leaves an infant or an elderly unattended? On the other side of the coin, he's trying to have a life and found somebody he likes or loves.

I know these people. And you are right, the story is like a soap. I tried to be succinct about characters and not add my personal opinion. I've lost my patience hearing the story. just wanted to see that people thought of these characters. maybe theyre the kind reality shows are made of.
bossyvossy
Original Author
10 years ago
adella, you don't make any of them very likeable. I sort of agree....
nanny98
10 years ago
last modified: 10 years ago
OhMy...I don't doubt that you are concerned about the situation you observe. Since the mother was found in that condition, I am surprised that the hospital didn't find out about the situation before she was released....or immediately after. Broke my shoulder 2 years ago...OMGosh....I had all kinds of professional people talking to me and being assured (by me) that it was an accident etc.etc....I was blown away by the 'attention'. senior services was giving me as Son and DH were my caregivers. I was only in hosp. two days. So....I think that I would contact the senior services folks/ ombudsmen at the hosp. and let the professionals check the situation. (or Elder abuse) That is their job. BTW I do think it is serious.
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Jak Perth
10 years ago
Hmm..wonder what will happen to the son when his mother died and the money stops.
User
10 years ago
1. The mother needs proper care.

2. The money needs to be accounted for, book keeping.

3. The brother and sister need to come to terms about how 1 and 2 are accomplished for the sake of the mothers health.

4. The paperwork for end of life wishes needs to be in order.
Aprile
10 years ago
It sounds like a situation where a 3rd party needs to get involved, A Guardian Ad Litem type person for the mother and possibly a power of attorney for health and finances.

This way brother and sister have no control over the finances, therefore can't fight too much about it. The Guardian will do what is best for the person they are in charge of without regard to family drama.

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