Update on our neck of the woods....things aren't looking up

17 years ago

Thanks guys....I am just about shot. Don't even want to go into the family drama that happened tonight resulting in me refusing to go to my sides Christmas, but if you have been around the last few years it is the same crap another year so I am not going to subject my family to it this year. Nope not gonna happen.

Good news Peyton' cyst is a thyroglossal duct cyst and should go away on its own. Hayden is starting on another 3 weeks of antibiotics and Rhiannon goes in on Christmas Eve and has her throat scoped to look for nodules on her vocal cords( the 3 were at my folks and went to the ENT dr for Peyton and had them look at the others too) Hudson is only congested in his head and they gave him another 4 days of prednisone. The poor little monkey is also in the middle of his 6 weeks of age growth spurt so wants to eat all the time, is croupy, gagging and sneezing.

We get to go back for a recheck for Peyton's cyst, scop Rhiannon's throat and if Hudson is still sick look him over too on Christmas Eve and for the first time we will spend Christmas eve and day at our own house not at my folks. I can't put my kids through the stress from my family and I am at my wits end as it is. Add to that I am in the midst of a gall bladder attack, and won't have surgery til the first of the year, I just want to spend a couple days at the hospital. The middle two are at my folks but I want to get them back asap because of family issues and just will have to muddle through things with health and happiness needin our attention at this time( being typed with tears in my eyes)I know that it is just something that we will have to wait out, but enough is enough already:)

Stacie

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carol_in_california
17 years ago
Stacie, I will be keeping you and your kids in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry about your gallbladder attack.....no fun at all.
(((((Stacie)))))
donna_oh
17 years ago
You need some hugs!! ((((Stacie))))))

Donna (^_^)
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Stacie have a nice quiet fun Family Christmas, with all your very loved ones.

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((((( Stacie )))))) you poor dear. I hope things get better for you real soon.

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nodakgal
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(((((Stacie)))))
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(((Stacie))
stephanie_in_ga
17 years ago
I'll send a big hug, and I'm not a hugger. ;o) I wish I could help. I have been-there-done-that with sick kids, sick self, just want life to be normal again! And right before Christmas, when there is so much other stuff to do. I really wish I could just take some things off your to do list. Focus on a time in the future when this will be behind you, the light at the end of the tunnel, and take it one day at a time.

We always spend Christmas just DH, me and the kids at our house. It is the best way to go! It will be a wonderful day.
gadgets
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Stacie, face it....you are just totally worn out...physically, emotionally, etc. Give yourself a break, girlfriend. You just had a baby. You have 4 little ones to care for everyday. It's the holidays with shopping, wrapping, putting up a tree, cooking, and on and on. And on top of that you have to contend with your gall bladder attacks and upcoming surgery. Just typing all of this makes me feel tired enough to want to go back to bed. And you are -living- it!! I hope hubby is doing all he can to help you.

I have added you to my special prayer list. Come on here and vent all you feel you need to do......sometimes that's a stress reliever. I guess the mom in me just wants to wave a magic wand and take all your problems away right now.

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sjerin
17 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear how tough your life is right now, Stacie. I know I would be bawling my eyes out all day long. I sincerely hope you can get some rest and not stress about your family-- now's the time to hunker down and get everyone well, without difficulties from your family. Keep Christmas simple and feel better!
caroline94535
17 years ago
((((Hugs and Love and real Christmas Joy from me to you))))

You're very wise to spend a happy Christmas in your home with your family instead of somewhere else with a drama-rama going on.

I have a friend, with two children, that has been married for 29 years. They have never, ever, once had the Christmas holidays in their own home. It's always been pack up the kids, pack up the gifts, drive half-way across the country, spend exactly the same number of hours at first his "family" and then her "family" (and reverse the times and meals for the next year, AND keep a diary so you can prove that they didn't slight anyone) and then rush home to get back to work.

Their kids are in college now, and don't have a single memory of their family having a Christmas in their home with their parents and tree of thier own.

I don't understand it all. I'd rather be by myself, in a hotel room in a foreign country, than have to deal with my bickering, stressed, angry, hurtful, at-each-others' throats extended family. There are a few family members I'd love to share a holiday, any holiday, with, but they are few and far between and most of them are under the age of 10 or over 80.

You hang in there. Tell the people you love that you love them and make happy holiday memories for you, your kids, and your home, and your hubby.
camp56
17 years ago
Stacy, many years ago when I had to have my gallbladder removed, I had to postpone the surgery for a few weeks. I went on a diet and avoided foods that caused problems and made it through fine. I am including a link to a site that lists foods to avoid. I hope all your problems are resolved soon. Good luck and best wishes to you and your family.

Here is a link that might be useful: Gall bladder diet
grammahony
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Stacie, I'm sorry your having so many problems with everyone's health. As well as your own. I hope things turn for the better soon. Yup, just stay home with your babies and your DH and enjoy not having to put up with the same problems of years gone by. Make your own memories happy ones.
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sheilajoyce_gw
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Our kids had no grandparents, and though we regretted that they never knew my parents, our holidays were here at home. My sister and her husband joined us, and it was nice and homey. Everyone is pleasant, people are happy, it's a little noisey for our spouses who came from quieter homes, but we have a good family experience every holiday. I would NEVER subject myself and my kids to anything but a nice holiday. I don't know your story, but I assure you that you are doing the right thing. Let this be the beginning of happy holidays for your family.
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wantoretire_did
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Hudson is only congested in his head and they gave him another 4 days of prednisone. The poor little monkey is also in the middle of his 6 weeks of age growth spurt so wants to eat all the time

Golly, your plate is overflowing!!! FWIW, the prednisone will increase the hunger factor drastically. Once he is off of it, the hunger should ease up somewhat.

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