My 90 yo Mom's Covid Test.....
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Heart surgery for 90 YO Mom - good idea or not?(LONG)
Comments (31)Clare- I am so sorry that you are dealing with this especially since it's long distance. The POA and the DNR are important documents and I think all the siblings should have a copy. I'm responsible for my Father who moved in with us when my Mom died 3 years ago. He made out a new will and POA and DNR and I gave copies to both of my brothers. I didn't want any misunderstanding if something were to happen to Dad and I had to make important decisions. You mentioned surgery but you didn't say what the doctor's opinion was, what the risk factors are or how much improvement might be achieved. I think you need more information before you try to help your Mom. Exactly what surgery has been proposed? If your brother is withholding information maybe you or your sister could visit and take her on one of her appointments. Maybe you would feel better if you were able to spend some time with your Mom now. My Dad just had a pacemaker implanted. His heart was only pumping at 20% because the lower 2 chambers were not pumping in the proper rhythm. Plus his valves are worn out so half of the blood that was pumped out fell right back into the chamber. He has terrible circulation, can't walk without a walker, can only walk about 50 feet without resting, one carotid is completely blocked and the other only has 10% blood flow. He was so short of breath he couldn't dress himself. The pacemaker has made a huge difference - the shortness of breath is completely gone, his heart is in correct rhythm, his fingertips are no longer blue, he bathes and dresses himself, and his skin tone is pink again. He still can't walk far but that's because of peripheral artery disease. Mentally he is very alert, the procedure was short and fairly low risk. So it was an easy decision. However no one was in favor of more extensive surgery especially my Dad. And he is a 'ticking time bomb' but as he says 'who isn't at age 89?' I hope everything works out for you....See MoreCovid testing . . .
Comments (11)I'm concerned, or at least curious, about the amount of (or lack of) testing being done in my province. We're a small, mostly rural province with a population of about 775,000. As of yesterday, there have been 10,742 tests completed. The provincial government has recently expanded their testing criteria, and now have provided a list of symptoms saying anyone exhibiting 2 or more symptoms is eligible for testing. But the demand doesn't seem to have jumped as much as I would have thought. With the new testing criteria they're doing about 400-500 tests per day which is significantly more than they were doing earlier, but still doesn't seem like a lot (and is comparatively less than most other provinces). Part of me worries we're missing a big part of the picture by not testing enough, but on the other hand, the hospitals are empty and what testing they are doing isn't turning up many new cases. There have only been 4 or so new cases found in the last week - - the last several days have actually been 0 or 1 new cases. Our total stats are 118 cases, 26 considered active, 92 recovered, 5 in hospital - 3 in ICU. Best of all, no deaths....See MoreCOVID project - Dealing with moms things
Comments (68)Like others I can relate to this thread. We are in the process of settling my mom’s estate currently. Want to move most of her things along. Many items are in storage. Better than my house, but it is getting expensive storing all this stuff. I think my biggest space wasters are photos, 7 decent sized moving boxes of family photos. Very little family interested in having any of these. What to do with these, no idea. Then the 5 boxes of genealogy research, Grandma was a librarian and this was one of her passions. I do plan to move this information onto the computer, so the boxes will go away eventually but it going to be a big project. Also have china and silver plate, that I need to figure out. Sterling, I will likely sell one of the two sets. Love the other one. Everything on the estate front is such slow going. My grandparents collected Chinese art, sculptures and such. Most pieces are 19th or early 20th century. My mother kept them all. There are probably 80 pieces,. They are not particularly valuable but worth the effort of auctioning over donating to a thrift store. Contacted an auction house, they are so slow. Over a month waiting for estimates, but supposedly soon. The auction house is fairly close and reputable so I am being patient but I am really just wanting to get this done. JJ - I have the ivory problem as well. While I am morally opposed to the ivory trade, the artistry of these antique pieces is just incredible. Would love to donate to a reputable museum rather than just have the pieces destroyed. However, my understanding is that there were several billion dollars worth of ivory in private collections when the law was passed making it essentially illegal to sell any of it, so probably many others in the same boat. Again, no idea what to do. Asked the auction house if they have any recommendations. Thankfully, most of mom’s things were sold in an estate sale last year when she moved into an assisted living complex....See MoreYour Covid testing experience
Comments (55)My dh and I were tested at the end of June. It took 2 full weeks to get the results. More recently, my dh has been tested every week for the past month. Those results have taken 3 days to receive. Same location, drive by testing in our local Walmart parking lot. They test 1 morning every week. Easy to register, only identifying data is name, dob and email address. No insurance information needed. I assume they are reimbursed by the feds. My MIL is 95 residing in assisted living. She is very mobile and social. Like others, the months have passed with no visitors at all. My dh has been pressing management for visitation rights. Finally they offered an 'essential caregiver' option. He filled out some paperwork and as long as he provides a negative test within 3 days, he can visit in her apartment for up to 3 hours a week. His sister does the same. It's been a blessing for his mom....See Moretvq1
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