Courtship, marriage and cheesecake
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Comments (22)I think that your problem is much more serious than taking a longer shower. If it were that simple, then it I don't think you would end up arguing when you discuss the issue. You seem to be willing to take positive action here. You said, "My wife is very critical of me and my body." This implies that there is much more going on. Initially you had sex during the courtship, but then she "suddenly" wanted to wait until after marriage. So, that was the first sign that something was wrong. I think that a counselor could help you both resolve this issue and take the appropriate steps. Three key questions come to mind in this situation: Is your wife attracted to you? What is she dissasfied with during sex? Why did she marry you? I think that it would be wise to stop having sex until you resolve these issues. If she is only participating "out of duty" then that only reinforces the negative feelings she has. It's not healthy for you either. I hope that you can work things out, and I think that a counselor is the best option....See MoreSexless Marriage x2
Comments (18)cindy pond, Your comment about my doctor discussing it with me made the think back. I've been on the antidepressant since my mid-40's. At that time my doctor told me she figured my sex life was pretty much over with anyway. Now that I think about it, that wasn't a very nice thing to say! I still go to the same dr. office my particular practitioner has changed twice since then. Perhaps I'll talk to my new dr. about this. The thing is, Zoloft has worked very well for me for a long time so I hesitate to mess with that. Also, per my first post I never did have a strong sex drive in the first place. Now that I'm going through menopause I doubt it would make much difference even if I could switch drugs. Part of me wonders then, if I have no sex drive why am I complaining about not having sex? Because even though my husband assures me he loves me, and I believe him, I still feel unloved because of a lack of intimacy. I don't think he really needs intimacy honestly. So then I feel like I would just be making him do it to appease me, and that's no good. If I try to talk to him about this it will only put more pressure on him to again appease me, so I don't say anything. I have asked him a couple of times why we don't have sex anymore and he says "sex isn't everything" and mentions the hormone and drug interactions and says he just doesn't think about it anymore. But then I wonder if that's a lie because of the fact that I accidently caught him masturbating so he MUST think about it. When I think along those lines I think he's just bored with me or with our routine or maybe I just disgust him. But those tables could be turned so I can't be judgemental there. I realize all of you have made suggestions and I am making excuses. I guess this has become my venting place for my frustration because I am afraid to talk to any of my girlfriends about it....See MorePlease give me a push!-Pumpkin Orange Cheesecake
Comments (11)This one is T and T.....notice it has half the amount of pumpkin and more egg....I would be concerned about the one you posted being a little hard to cut....the orange flavor sounds wonderful....but again the strings of orange peel found in marmalade might make it hard to cut...if you want the orange flavor....just add some grated rind. Also the one you posted calls for low fat cream cheese....in my experience that makes a softer less dense cake. Cheesecake Factory Pumpkin Cheesecake Bonnie Benesh Prep time: 30 minutes Serves: 10-12 Cooking time: 65-75 minutes Crust: 1½ cups graham cracker or ginger snaps (I like ½ of each) 5 T. butter, melted 1 T. sugar Filling: 3-8oz. pkgs. cream cheese, softened 1 C. canned pumpkin 3 eggs ½ t. cinnamon ¼ t. nutmeg ¼ t. allspice Topping; 1 C. heavy cream ½ C. sugar 1 t. white vanilla ½ C. chopped pecans Mix crust ingredients together, just until coated and crumbly. Press onto the bottom and two-thirds of the way up the sides of an 8" spring form pan. Bake for 5 minutes at 350F. Set aside. Combine cheese, sugar and vanilla in large bowl, mix until smooth with an electric mixer. Add pumpkin, eggs, and spices and beat until smooth and creamy. Pour into the crust. Bake for 60-70 minutes or until the top turns a bit darker. Remove from oven and allow to come to room temperature, then refrigerate. Just before serving, whip the cream, sugar and white vanilla. After cake has thoroughly chilled, add the whipped cream topping and sprinkle nuts over the cream. Remove the pan sides and cut....See MoreA recipe out of the past.
Comments (4)This is similar to my late mother's cheesecake recipe, except hers calls for heavy cream. I know she subbed sour cream. It is the stuff of family legend, which I wrote about in 2019 on my blog. Linked below. The title of the post is "Courtship, Marriage and Cheesecake." The recipe, copied from a local community cookbook, is listed at the bottom of the blog post....See More- 7 years ago
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