Does my BF’s son come first over my family for Christmas?
Evangelina Becerra
6 years ago
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Comments (20)Dream, are your dogs leaving your property? They're not killing chickens or sheep or something are they? I just can't imagine why someone would shoot one, let alone two! Have a story to share: My DB was a country school bus driver and his neighbors at the end of the lane had several dogs who would run out into the road barking and biting at the bus tires everytime he drove past--one of the dogs got run over and the Sherriff came to question my DB. Of course my DB told him he would never intentionally run over a dog, but if he did hit one it was because they were running out into the road chasing the bus as well as any other vehicles that came by. Guess the Sherriff then went back to the neighbors and told them it was their responsibility to keep the dogs out of the road and not to call him again. DB felt really bad to think the bus might have run one over, but knew he had no control of whether they got in front of a tire while he drove by. I just hate to hear about things like this, dogs are so trusting and loving, I'd watch out for that guy--takes a really mean person to kill a dog I think. Hope your back was feeling lots better today and that you had a good day back at work. Hope you will feel like creating more tables soon, your's are always so pretty. Take care. Luvs...See Moremeeting my biological son for the first time.
Comments (13)Just wanting yall to know reading this has gave me courage. I recently met my 18 year old son for the first time. Also, in tears because he described how his Mother and her boyfriend had abused him. All started off great. He called me asking for help, he was going to be homeless. Not being financialy stable myself....didnt matter. I went and took out a loan so i could buy him, his girlfriend, and my new grandbaby across America with minutes notice. My son is a little taller, and bigger around then me, but otherwise, we look like twins. I arranged for him to have a home, since my apt isnt very big, and arranged for him to get a job. Like I said all started perfect. Soon I begin to notice that other family members trying to help him are calling me complaining that he was rude to them. So, i took it upon myself to readvise him in the ways this side of his family treats each other. He blew up at me completely saying many hurtful things. Which spurred me to say a few things myself that I will forever regret. I havent given up on him. I never will. I just need to find a different way to build his confidence. While doing so I need to protect my new family. My parents are in their 80s, and my new Son is 4, so it is tough. Seems everyone has a set plan as to how we should progress this relationship, but no one has the patience. So before any more feelings are hurt I gave him some space to think. Ultimately, I think I figured out that things will be great, even if scary at first. I plan to take him fishing in 2 days. Just me and him if i can convince him to leave his family behind for a few hours. I have told him how proud I was of him for knowing better then to follow in his moms footsteps. Since his brother is only 4, we share alot of the same fears. I tell him everyday I love him, and I`ll always be there for him when he needs emotional support. To be completely honest though. I have never been so terrified in all my life, scared I`ll say something stupid. Anyways. It always feels better knowing then spend even more years wondering. Going on day 6 of no sleep over this though. It`s tough because I was adopted. I met my Bio Dad, he hated my life, and got arrested driving home, because he stopped at a bar down the street. I may never talk to my dad again, but at least I know now why. Atleast I felt better knowing I had the choice, but decided to protect my family from him....See MoreWhy does my mother come over & voice her opinions?
Comments (40)I've really been enjoying everyone's stories in this thread. You can see a lot of love here! Clementine, if you tell your mom to butt out, no matter how politely you say it, it will hurt her deeply. She advises you because she loves you and wants to give to you, and she needs to feel needed. I had sort of the same problem with my mother. So I sat down and thought about how she would love to feel that she had done something nice for me. Then I did a little mental inventory of her skills, and she had no shortage of those. I wanted to sew new living room drapes, pleated. This was an area where I really would love her help. So when she was over, I took her to the fabric store with me and we picked out something pretty. Then she helped me measure and cut, I sewed, and together we hung them. It turned out to be a really nice mother-daughter time for us both. I got help with something I needed help with, and she got to feel needed and appreciated, which she was. I learned to think of things to ask her opinions and help with, and she learned to relax. Everybody won. If you think about it, maybe can you find a way to put your mom to work helping you sew, or can, or something?...See MoreNo Christmas, today, my son is in the ER
Comments (30)Hope he's feeling better. For years, my hubby always got a gastro infection around Christmas. Every Christmas in the Air Force he spent in the hospital with a "bug". When I first knew him, he got sick and asked me to temporarily move into his apartment and take care of him. That was the beginning of our relationship, tho he was too sick for anything "physical" if you know what I mean. But it started our deep friendship, which later became a true romance. We found we could rely on each other....See MoreJenn TheCaLLisComingFromInsideTheHouse
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