Amiee picking up my bad habits Haha

She is beautiful! She's blessed to have her grandparents step up and become her parents! You are special Mamapinky!

Is there anywhere she would be able to volunteer? I know you said she uses a wheelchair but I wonder if she could volunteer at an animal shelter? Often they need people to play with cats. If she'd be able to walk a dog while in her chair that would be awesome as well.

I volunteered for years at my local humane society and made some of the best friends of my life there. And countless hours of joy spent helping brighten a shelter dog's life.

Good luck and God bless you both!

She is absolutely gorgeous! Her spirit and tenacity are amazing. How old is she now? Opps see her birthday. Do you have a nextdoor forum for your neighborhood? If so join it and possibly find some similar aged young people near you that would be interested in some get togethers. Hobbies are a great way to make friends with the same hobbies. I just know there are others that would appreciate her sweet disposition and want to share a friendship. Does she have email friends? Like the pen pals we had back in the dark ages lol. That would be a good option.

You've raised a beautiful daughter. If only more people had her wonderful attitude. She's truly a treasure.

Hey what about fantasy gardens if she likes fairy stuff. Little fairy sized container gardens. She could make them, sell them at flea markets and farmers markets and find others that have the same likes. Google fairy gardens. Over on the garden junk forum there have been several over the years that posted pictures of their gardens. It would give her a fun hobby and a great way to meet people.

https://homebnc.com/best-diy-miniature-fairy-garden-design-ideas/

Im not a regular on the KT forum, but I stumbled across this and I just had to comment. Aimee's and your story both broke my heart and inspired me. I wish I could just hug you both. I know I will pray for you.

Perhaps Aimee could join a writers group somewhere nearby? It's an excellent way to meet people and if she has even a slight inclination to write, please encourage her, her story, perspective and attitude could make for a sublime book.

A church youth group is another option too. I can't help but be certain that there are many who would love to be her friend, if they just had a chance to meet her. Honestly, I'd like to be her friend, but that's probably too creepy. Lol.

She is truly a beauty..inside and out. When I started reading this, I began to cry and

felt great sadness. When I finished, the tears are still coming, but the sadness is not.

I feel such joy that this beautiful girl was raised with such love and understanding

and joy at just having her in your World. You are blessed...and so is she. God Bless

you for being the true person you are. Hugs and a prayer to continue to keep you

safe, happy and loved. Thank you for sharing this great love.

Amiee is so blessed to have you looking out for her. She's a beautifuI girl!

I remember turning away male "friends" when I was young. I wanted to go to college, not start a family. Does she have hobbies? There are clubs for all the people with hobbies. Quilting clubs? Online gaming clubs? Chess clubs?

Maybe a part time job would get her out and about? Someone suggested volunteer work.

She is a beautiful girl and brought tears to my eyes! She is so lucky to have you...bless you. Is there a children's hospital nearby where she could visit the patients.? what an ispiration she would be!

What a lovely girl, she is. What is Amiee interested in, mamapinky?

Maybe you could start by narrowing down her interests to the top three and then search out groups or clubs that specialize in her interests.

Thank you for sharing Amiee story. I had some of it pieced together as you have shared a few details about your daughter.

You are amazing. You also take care of the two young boys.

I wish that there were support groups for people in a similar situation. We discussed ideas in the other thread that will hopefully get you started.

You have & your husband have done fantastic raising her. She has a beautiful spirit!

She is beautiful.

A great source of community is your local library. Aimee could volunteer to read to the little ones. She could join a book discussion group. My library makes a room available for a knitters/crocheters group to meet. I'm sure one of the local churches has a youth group. While kids will be kids, I've found that the ones who seek youth groups at religious institutions have kinder hearts. I cannot believe that there isn't one young woman with whom Aimee hasn't established a bond through school. While mobs of kids hanging out at the mall sounds enticing, the reality is it only takes one girl to sit and giggle with and try the newest makeup with in her room is all that she really needs.

You are a treasure Mamapinky. Words fail me.

Is she a member of any online forums or support groups? Those can turn into real life,lasting friendships,as evidenced by some of the people here.

I can hardly type because of the tears in my eyes. She is not only beautiful on the outside, she is beautiful on the inside......and you are, too!

What a beautiful story, and a very beautiful, strong girl. She has an incredible outlook on life. Do your daughter and husband even see her, or she want to see them?? You are one in a million, Mama, your husband too. I think you look after two grandsons too, don't you?

I'm crying too. What a beautiful girl she is and obviously inside as well as out. I know where she got that from!

What a story and what strong women you both are. So inspirational! I wish the very best for Aimee and your family.

It seems to me that Aimee (whose outer and inner beauty match) would be an amazing blessing to children who have medical issues as well. Is it possible for Aimee to find a hospital where she could work with children and young people, reading or helping with a playgroup or such? All sorts of people volunteer at hospitals, so she may be able to meet like-minded individuals there. Hospital chaplains might be a good resource to see where a need exists that Aimee could meet.

She's so cute, and photogenic! And more importantly, a good person.

Regarding her alone-ness, does she get out of the house much? How is her physical stamina? If she needs or would appreciate a physically low-key environment, maybe look into volunteering at a retirement home or nursing home. So many people would welcome someone to listen to their stories, read to them, help them color, lightly clean their room, etc.

Loving a child who is going through a rough patch can be harder than bearing it yourself. Take care of yourself too.

I Thank everyone of you for your kindness, I was about in tears myself reading your bitter sweet empathy. And so many great ideas to explore. Thank You. As many of you know I am a regular in the laundry forum, and there have been times I went off topic and talked about my life...I was very kindly reminded thru email by another member whom i greatly respect that its a laundry forum and not the best place to discuss personal things..I'm glad I found the KT with all you good folks...I found a place to share my ups and downs..

Sometimes its the simple common sense things that get lost to me in my crazy world. As I read some of your suggestions I had one of those **wow I could have had a v8** LOL. I will be exploring your suggestions which all sound great. Some of the issues are Amiees stamina, fatique is problematic and seems the older she gets the worse the fatique, but the doctors warned us of this years ago. And dang it they also warned us that puberty would bring on a major problems, so wwouldn't you know she went into precocious puberty at age 7... weight gain has been an ongoing problem although she's up to I think its 88 pounds now, most she's ever weighed, I hope it stays on this time as her history is usually gain 2 pounds lose 4 and she eats omg this girl can eat. Its nothing for me to fix her a huge plate of pasta at 3am, she eats off and on all night LOL. Cardio says its because her heart rate never goes below 145 even at rest.

Amiee does interact in the hemo/chemo department at Pittsburgh Children's hospital about once a month, she reads to the kids, plays Disney Trivia and has had a ton of tea parties. Once she dressed up as Snow White and read the book to the kids.. She has a special interest in children, but never really wanted a career dealing with kids lol..for many yesrs she wanted to be a OB/Gyn. We always supported her her dream, when she started her senior year she cried and told me she just can't do it..she felt med school would be to draining and she would not be able to keep up...cute story...when my 8 year old grandson was born Amiee and I were in delivery, the doctor talked to Amiees PCP and they pulled some strings to allow Amiee in as she was 12, but what Amiee didn't know was the surprise in store for her...she was secretely dressed as a doctor, and stood at the OB's side during exams of mom to be..once it was time to deliver the doctor stood directly behind Amiee and ask her if she would help bring this baby into the world...Amiees dream of being a OB came true.

Well I could just go on and on but I'll stop Haha...Thank you all very much for listening to me ramble and for all your grest suggestions. (((HUGS)))

Wow MamaPinky--- She has faced many obstacles with bravery and she sounds so sweet and determined. I do not really understand why the lack of friends to be so total..... I know there are many, many mean kids, but I have witnessed numerous examples of challenged/autistic/"different" children at our (public) elementary school--our school has buddy programs, mainstream opportunities, and all kinds of occasions where accommodations are made to help out many differently-abled kids. I know that many/most/all? of these surprisingly different children do indeed have friends, parties, invitations, etc. Perhaps I don't know the real story there, but I have not ever heard of a child unincluded because of a difference (not saying there aren't any, of course, I am sure there are....) ... and our school is the district-designated location for many of those kids.

Perhaps she is interested in reaching out to children with her situation? Or schools? Or perhaps she has other ambitions, it sounds like she has all the capability she needs to accomplish so many things!!!

All I can say is, that there are many warm-hearted folks out there, and the world is not off limits for her. Hugs from me, too., for you and for her.

I am struck by what a wonderful human her boyfriend Kody of 6yrs was/is.

It is very sad that her parents rejected her. Are the grands you babysit her brothers?

She sounds like a very lovely girl.

What a true treasure she is! You are both so lucky to have each other. You are both/all quite amazing and inspiring.

I really admire that you stepped up to make Aimee your own and I am terrified for her future.

I wish I had some ideas as good as the ones already mentioned for getting her out and involved in something.

Aimee is a beautiful young woman with a beautiful and kind heart. I'm disheartened by hearing that ALL the kids have shunned her. It seems these days the kids embrace differences in other kids and try to include them or at least are nice to them (well, maybe not all the kids are nice all the time). At least that's what my HS-age grandkids tell me. Congrats to you and your husband in raising and caring for Aimee to be such a wonderful girl.

Ditto the suggestions for volunteering a few hours somewhere. Maybe the local library? Also recommend some young adult groups via a church where the kids have a chance to interact and just be themselves and watch movies, talk, etc. Has she considered furthering her studies online?

I really don't have much to add to what's been said here-when I saw the photo of Aimee I couldn't stop saying omg she is BEAUTIFUL. (duh). And, Mamapinky you truly are a most special woman.

I never read long posts. I open them up see a book, then close it. This one I read from start to finish. What wonderful parents you are! Terrific grandparents!!! I'm so glad Aimee has you in her life. She sounds like a beautiful young lady who was raised not to feel sorry for herself. It must break your heart that kids treat her that way. What comes around goes around. She will find that right person.

Like Debby, I usually avoid long posts. And Lyme has made it difficult to read long paragraphs. But I'm glad I read this one. Lovely girl, wonderful grandparents. Many good suggestions above. Thank you for sharing Aimee with us.

Of course Aimee is amazing, she modeled herself after YOU!!!! You've been given lots of ideas and I will just say "you are one amazing woman!!!!!". I will pray and ask for a new friend to come in to Aimee's life and make it soon. lol. Faith and fun.

I'm sorry about such mean-spirited kids; you would think in this day and age parents would pass on compassion and kindness, not hurtful actions and attitudes. And I'm sorry her bf couldn't "wait." She sounds like a truly wonderful girl and I hope she finds some good friends (great suggestions above,) very soon. Thank you for posting about your beautiful girl.

She is beautiful and blessed to have you!

She is lucky to have you as a grandmother. Raising a child is such hard work and many would not take on that responsibly once their kids are grown.

Wishing good things for the very lovely Amiee.

What a lucky thing for Amiee and you that it was love at first sight. So glad you and your DH are able to walk through life with her. Thank all that is good for you and your DH. I'm glad she was able to have love with her BF even if it couldn't go any further. It sounds as if she has experienced life well.

I'm curious how is her name pronounced. I say Ah mee eye but think I'm wrong.

Again thanks be for what you do.

She ended up with the perfect parents for her after all! her story is inspiring! Amazing girl! See if there are any volunteering opportunities that might work with her physical limitations by looking online at volunteer match. Maybe answering phones or sitting at a receptionist desk for an organization could work. Joining a book club or how about taking her to bingo? Churches might have some young adult activities. Many have websites now so you can check on those. I'm not really sure, but hospitals seem to have volunteers running the visitor desk. She might like that atmosphere since her dream was to be an MD. Not sure if being there would be risky health-wise? Micheals offers craft , cake decorating and sewing classes.