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Comments (16)I went for a haircut last weekend. Decided that I was going to get it ALL chopped off. I was thinking whatever was the equivalent of a flat top (or, in these parts, a "high-n-tight"), basically an inch on the top and that's it. Then, because of the impending interview, I relented and decided upon something short but professional in a girlie way. It would have been over 10 inches and I was going to donate it to Locks of Love. I walked into the salon and got my favorite girl right away. I was in the chair describing what I wanted, watching her face for signs of shock and horror, when all of a sudden the elderly lady in the next chair over shouts "NO!" We turned to look at her, she was half way out of the chair, and she said "if you cut off all her hair, I'm leaving here and never coming back! And you can bet I'll tell all my friends, too!" We were all stunned. I looked at my hair dresser, she looked at me and shrugged her shoulders. I got as far as saying "But, Ma'am" and she cut me off with "you have the most gorgeous hair...the color is like honey mixed with strawberry jam...you can't possibly want to cut it all off!" She then proceeds to tell my hair dresser to "trim off a couple inches, but not too short". So, that's what she did, under the watchful eye of this little old lady. When I was done, this lady just about had tears in her eyes and kept touching it and telling me how beautiful it was. I probably should have thought it was freaky (I kinda do now), but it was just the self confidence boost I needed. Nothing changed except for 3 inches in length, but I felt like a million bucks! That biblical passage crosses my mind a lot, too, Rob. Especially when soldiers or one of my Project Managers ask me if I want one of their ball caps that promote their unit or equipment. I always tell them I don't need a hat, God gave me hair......See MoreWhat makes women look 'good' when they're 'older'
Comments (150)jt...that is a worrisome description you give of your friend. The combination of eating the french fries and then describing how thin she is and the condition of her teeth leads me to think that she is purging by vomiting, known as bulimia.The stomach acids eat away the enamel on the teeth. It is very very common. I ran with a friend that did it. I finally confronted him after hearing him in the bathroom. We would eat lunch and he would have all of this stuff that one wouldn't think a runner would eat. Then he would always have a reason for going to the bathroom. i followed him and listened. So sad. He also would stop by the trail to supposedly urinate but he was actually vomiting the snacks/lunch we had eaten. He was able to finally get it under control. As an aside he is a clinical psychologist Phd. My DD had a friend in high school who also purged. Her Mom found glass jars of vomit in the girl's closet. Really really sad. The Mom is an MD and did seek help but it was very hard for this gal to accept help. She had to go away to a facility in order to get well. The disorder is extremely addicting and consequently very hard to get over. Here is a link. c Here is a link that might be useful: bulimia and famous people...See MoreProvocative dress for school moms?
Comments (41)"Doesn't matter to me whether I'm staying home to do yardwork & housework all day, am out running errands, or meeting someone for lunch; I pull myself together to the best of my ability everyday. Maybe no one else notices or cares what this almost 50 year old woman has on her face and body, but making an effort and playing with color and style gives me a lift!" Stinky, I SO get that!! This is instilled in me from my grandmother. She was exactly as you. Even at 95, in her assisted living villa, she still makes sure her hair is combed, etc. before leaving her room. She doesn't do much makeup now, just a bit of lipstick. I agree, it DOES make one feel better to know you are looking your best. An added plus is my husband appreciates the effort. Why wouldn't I want to look as good for him as I would if I were going out to meet/see others??? But back to the original question - I've never seen an outfit worn like you've described out in public. Not that I can think of. Not even on a our college campus LOL!! Although I did see a gal last year with short-shorts, a fitted man style shirt and those patterned RUBBER BOOTS! heee!! I don't have children, but have on occasion picked up a friend's daughter for her and most moms I see are dressed casual. Nothing provacative although like someone said - there's one in every crowd, I must just be missing her. You can say the same about the workplace, there is usually one there too....See MoreWhy do certain women tend toward this?
Comments (76)There is an HR. And several women talk about going to HR on a regular basis, but mostly how they are treated by two women higher up in seniority (and perhaps rank to some extent). There were three women at the top seniority wise, the current department head and two others who had been department head at one time. (it is supposed to rotate between people). Two of the women have hated each other for 20+ years and the third woman has always really been the puppet of one of them. One of the really negative angry ones in the 20 year standoff finally retired, and currently the other is on sabbatical. But the current department head (3rd person) feels a bit vulnerable I think because the one who just steamrollered over everything is on sabbatical. Honestly I feel as a male, I kind of get through all of this unscathed because I don't get involved in the interpersonal dramas. But there are a couple bullies at the top, to some extent, it's clear who they like and don't like; it's clear which students they like and don't like--it's just not very professional. But really... I can't imagine going to HR over this in my case. What am I supposed to say? "They give me repeated, unsolicited advice about my haircut, my facial hair, my weight and some of my clothing". I just don't know what good it would do. Believe it or not I have a relatively good working relationship with everybody there and a somewhat friendly work relationship with some of them. I felt one great relief when the one angry woman retired and another great relief when the other went on sabbatical. And yet, they were really two of the people who never said anything like the above to me. They were professional in that respect. They were just difficult to work with because they were always right, always the best at everything and uniformly condescending to the students. Most of the women who have said the stuff to me are generally fairly nice people all things considered. Not always to each other. So I don't think going to HR and tattling about the running commentary would do anything to improve relations with anybody. This is a blip on my radar, really. But despite the fact that it doesn't really bother me much (these are not the types of comments I actually mull over, believe me)...I just can't help noticing that there is a gender-biased double standard ( albeit probably one of the few against males, really ). We are trained to say absolutely nothing personal about women coworkers and to tread very carefully with questions or comments about race, socioeconomic status, sexual orientation, transgender status, appearance etc. of our patients. But I bet if I went to HR about the "unsolicited advice" and commentary it would be treated as trivial...and maybe it is. Maybe we've become ultra-sensitized to take offence at the most offhand comment. I know some people whose favorite pastime seems to be dissecting everything that was said as to real meaning, ulterior motive etc. and so forth and finding something to be offended about....See Moreandreap
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