WWYD family etiquette question
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Comments (66)The Pretty Lady & Two monks Once upon a time a old monk and a young monk were traveling together. They came to the bank of a river and found the bridge was damaged. They had to wade across the river.There they found a pretty lady stuck at the damaged bridge who couldn't cross the river on her own. The young monk offered to carry the pretty lady across the river on his back. The lady accepted. The old monk was shocked by the move of the young monk. "How can my disciple brother carry a lady when we are supposed to avoid all intimacy with females?" thought the old monk. But he kept quiet. The young monk carried the lady across the river and the old monk followed unhappily. When they had crossed the river, the young monk let the lady down and they parted ways with her. All along the way for several miles, the old monk was very unhappy with the act of the young monk. He was making up all kinds of accusations about the young monk in his head. This got him madder and madder. But he still kept quiet. And the young monk had no inclination to explain his situation. Finally, at a rest point many hours later, the old monk could not stand it any further, he burst out angrily at the younger monk. "How can you claim yourself a devout monk, when you seize the first opportunity to touch a female, especially when she is very pretty? All your teachings to me make you a big hypocrite." The young monk looked surprised and said, "I had put down the pretty lady at the river bank many hours ago, how come you are still carrying her along?" This very old Chinese zen story reflects the thinking of many people today. We encounter many unpleasant things in our life, they irritate and make us angry. Sometimes, they even cause us lot of hurt or make us bitter. But like the old monk, we are not willing to let them go. We keep on carrying the baggage of the "unpleasant memory" with us. We let it keep on coming back to hurt us, make us angry, make us bitter and cause us a lot of agony. Why?...See MoreOff topic question about gift etiquette
Comments (9)so she expected you to store the shoes until & unless she called for them? How much was she paying you for storage? People are downright odd... my aunt gave me a sewing machine. she's 88 years old & she has a much newer model (this machine was one of the old heavy black metal Singers that sits in a cabinet). I couldn't get it to work right, but I figured I'd tinker with it when I had time. then my aunt called me & said, "sylvia, I want my sewing machine back." well... what're you gonna do? so I took it back. & she said that that wasn't her machine, & she wanted me to go get *her* machine. She refused to acknowledge that that was her sewing machine & that it didn't work right when she gave it to me! She told me she knew it wasn't hers because she had put a mark on hers (right, I always mark my heavy appliances & furniture, too), *& that this machine didn't work right*, & hers did. Now she's told her kids that I took her sewing machine & brought her this other one that doesn't work well. so everybody's mad at me. I should have told them the machine was broken & I'd put it in the trash. & my ex "gave" me a set of homemade stereo speakers & a big ugly waterbed that I couldn't stand (but he balanced the account by stealing several things). I traded the waterbed to the 15-year-old boy next door for yardwork. Then the ex showed up one afternoon & told me he'd come by "to pick up my speakers & the waterbed". & he was *offended* that I'd gotten rid of the waterbed! I let him take the speakers. What was the question? Take him a token sackful of baby clothes, whatever you can put your hands on fairly easily, & tell him these are the only ones you can find, if there were others, they must have been in a bunch you already gave to someone who needed them....See MoreEtiquette question—-WWYD?
Comments (23)We have done renovations before and people ask the cost. I tell them if they're interested I'll give them the name of the contractor and then left it to them to follow up. So, when you're thanking for the dinner, just mention that you liked the screen porch renovations and thank-you for the name of the contractor and leave it. Right now, a lot of us are doing major landscaping jobs, us included and we are all sharing contractors and costs. All of our jobs are different with different constraints and problems and we have no problems sharing information....See MoreNot to beat a dead horse, C-virus manners, etiquette, WWYD?
Comments (43)You're right Daisy. Running, you said, " I think people responding were simply trying to give you some additional options, the most logical and effective of which is to prevent possibly exposed or infected people from coming into your home until this crisis passes. It's the micro version of why many public gathering places and events are being cancelled-avoiding other people is how to hopefully stop the spread of the virus." But you and others in this thread are still having your house cleaned by someone who could very well be carrying the virus. The client who came over was a one time thing. The person who will be constantly going to your home and other's homes, will be ongoing. Why are housekeepers safer than the one client who came to my house? My head is spinning at the hypocrisy. Those of you who have housekeepers have no idea where they've been, where their families have been. I agree with everything posters have said, but I'm not understanding why some posters are being contrary to my one and hopefully only situation....See Morecyn427 (z. 7, N. VA)
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