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Thank God it's Friday! (it won't let me do it in caps)

rob333 (zone 7b)

13 years ago

And it's New Year's Eve! I wonder what everyone is doing? Happy New Year!!! And Happy Friday! Raising my glass of icy milk (been in the mood for it lately)!

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susie_que
13 years ago
Clinking with iced green tea!!

No plans for me except WORK!!!

I have to work til 10 and a neighbor invited us over but truth be told this job really wears me out so I will most likely pop oen a miller chill, get into my jammies and watch the ball drop under the blankets LOL!!
However it is right acrossed the street so maybe just maybe I will go.

Tomorrow starts the Deconstruction of Christmas here in casa Fardone...lots of stuff to pack away till next year.

I am going to eat smarter in the new year however I am giving myself till Monday to finish all the sweets and treats. Tuesday is trash day here so whatever is left is getting chucked!!

I for one will be so glad to see 2010 go. Honestly its been a year from hell!
I lost my job, my Mom, my dog and several good friends but 2011 promises to be a good one with a double graduation, a new fun job with lots of new friends and oh yeah....POOL PARTIES!!!!
Not to mention a few new fur babies to snuggle with!!

I would like to resolve to trying to have more get togethers!!
Anyone traveling to Philly or thru Philly plz look me up!!

So Happy New Year to everyone and please make it a safe one!!

Cheers!
Susie
annie1992
13 years ago
Elery will be here tonight about 5 pm and my mother will be here any minute so I can load her pictures onto the computer and send them in to be developed. I created a monster when I bought her that digital camera, I swear! I have a batch of vegetable soup in my new 6 quart Nesco made with some of that leftover prime rib and bread rising on the stove.

Elery's birthday is Sunday, so I'll make him dinner then, and tomorrow we'll go to the farm and do the chores there.

Nothing planned for tonight at all, I doubt we'll even stay up long enough to watch the ball drop!

I have the day off, because New Year's Day falls on Saturday, so I'm home and clinking with my second (or is it my third?) cup of coffee.

Happy New Year, everyone.

Annie
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Hello all How nice to have advice, I tell ya, My kids are grown, and I am really rusty at this stuff. I have got so much comfort from this help. To Sweeby, I can't get away with nothin, lol very observant of you. Thank you for the time you have taken here. And, I am starting to believe that, yes there is something a bit off, when a child is told the permission has to be recieved for the computer, but only for supervision, not to say no, and 5 minutes later, she sneaks again, and we have another talk, and the next 5 days are all the same. That is just amazing. The places she goes are all pg healthy disney type sites, so that's not the incentive. I have to say I am wondering if just being defiant isn't the jolly she is looking for. And if you look at just this disobediance, and not the rest maybe its normal, but I would have never pushed an adult several times a day, day after day, and it's important to point out, I am NOT a comfortable auntie she has known all her life, I am a new person in her life. That concerns me because of the problems she will have if she is like this with teachers and other parents. And it appears she is. So I think , like you probably do,Two or three talks is alot, but maybe normal. This was was 9 or 10, To put me in a place to do that, must have been some of the power she was after, I just don't know, but It will never happen again. Trying not to rock the boat, left my about to sink the ship i think. Don't laugh, but I honestly believe she purposely didn't let the dog out so I would have to clean the carpet from urine for a week back in the beginning.. She was sitting 3 feet from the door, where her dog peed, and it was the third time that morning, So I reminded her every half hour. I didnt make the lunch she requested, and she was a bit peeved about it. I had told her mother I felt she should clean these oversites, because we have all been clear she is responsible for letting her dog out. But mamma quickly said no, she would clean it when she got home from work. I knew right then, I may be heading for a real power trip. Plus, I believe she got this fairy tale notion, that at my house, she would be a princess, with control of the days, and that I would not be like another adult/parent figure. From what I have read, 10 year olds didnt know they didn't necessarily have to mind, just a few months ago, and so defying is a bit of an experiment, that we have to endure till they get sick of consequences, they may pay a price, but they need to learn it the hard way, just in case you are not going to follow thru, so I imagine, when I was telling her to pick up her shoes, close the door, no wet towels on the rug please, she was disappointed. And a bit angry too. 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Stacie, for you to get his tags replaced, wouldn't you have to get a power of attorney signed first, then go back and get the tags? You do in Ohio. We have to sign for them, and it has to be the signiture of the person to whom the vehicle is registered. For me that would mean two trips to the DMV. Yep, his responsibility. I thought I had renewed mine in April, just before we left for Utah. I didn't! In August, I got followed thru town by the sherrif. I couldn't figure out why he stopped me! Here, with getting ready to leave, and having plated the new motor home, I thought I had done it! He was nice enough not to give me a ticket. He said "You are going right now to get them, right?" I said, " as soon as I pick up my son from work" He said" You are going right now, right?" I said, Yes sir!. He knew what I was going to do, but as long as I gave him the answer he wanted, he was satisfied! I hope you have a great day today. Tami
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doucanoe
13 years ago
I am working today, too, but may duck out early if the pace doesn't pick up!

It hasn't been a great year here, either, so I am really hoping the new one will be better!

We just had two beautiful 35-40 degre days, but that all ended last night. Yesterday's rain resulted in lots of ice when the temp dropped overnight and there are more winter storm warnings for the weekend.

We are going over to the neighbor's tonight for a celebratory cocktail or two. Much safer than going out.

Tomorrow I'll be making my lobster dinner. Hope I don't cry when I have to drop the little buggers in the pot of boiling water! LOL

Happy New Year to all of my CF friends! Stay safe and warm tonight!

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lindac
13 years ago
Having a couple of friends over tonight....they don't live more than 3 blocks away so even if it does get nasty they should have no problems.
then Sunday I am having 8 for brunch to celebrate anotehr's birthday.
Monday, I'm sleeping!!
shaun
13 years ago
Happy New Year Friends~

I have a pot of black eyed peas with smoked ham hocks cooking now.

We're eating dinner at home and then going to a friends house to ring in the new year.

Tomorrow we're going out on the boat with good friends to celebrate the New Year. Weather is perfect - should be about 79 degrees tomorrow and bright sunshine. We'll stop at a restaurant on the water to have a nice lunch.

Have fun no matter how you celebrate the new year!

xoxoxo
User
13 years ago
Happy New Year everyone!

Been a crazy buzy Christmas, chock full of the 4 F's ( family, friends, food and fun) so no complaints but I am bushed!

Tonight we will have dinner , just the two of us, in front of the fire place, a bottle of wine and some simple Italian fare. I'll try hard to stay awake until the "ball drop" but suspect I won't.

Tomorrow we will probably laze around but by Sunday we have to get our act in gear. We have decided to list the house so there is lots to do in terms of "showing" prep.....I'm not looking forward to it one bit! The photographer comes Wednesday and the agent open house is next Friday....ugh!

Big changes for us in 2011!

Stay safe everyone!
doucanoe
13 years ago
Whoa! Back up Sharon! You're moving? Where to?

I wish you all the luck!

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canarybird01
13 years ago
Yes, Sharon tell us more about your move!

Just the two of us here and we'll be having shrimp cocktails with salad, nuts, chips, blue cheese & crackers, cava (Spanish champagne) and we'll be watching the midnight celebrations on TV from Germany and Madrid where they are an hour ahead of us.

Then for a second glass of bubbly an hour later, when it's our turn to reach midnight at the same time as London, so we'll be tuned in to British TV as well as a local channel broadcasting from the south of Tenerife.

The Spanish custom is to eat twelve grapes at midnight. Called "las uvas de la suerte" or the grapes of good luck, they have to be eaten one at a time on each stroke of the clock and rinsed down with mouthfuls of cava in order to have a coming year of good luck.

So from this custom arises the gathering by the masses in the Puerta del Sol, or main plaza of Madrid, dominated by a huge clock which is visible to all and televised throughout the country. Of course smaller cities and towns also have their main plaza with clock, where the locals gather to eat their 12 grapes and drink their bubbly.

We will be awake and staying up for this as there are also some firework displays in the town which are visible from our front porch. I could never miss a good show of fireworks! Besides with the noise of them going off outside, one could not get to sleep before midnight here anyway.

Have a safe and Happy New Year's Eve everyone!
{{!gwi}}

SharonCb
wizardnm
13 years ago
We are staying home tonight and having some friends in tomorrow to enjoy football.

I think Sharon's plan is... live at the lake house, sell the house in town and after it sells, think about buying a condo in town. Cuts down on the work, so one can enjoy life in retirement.

Nancy
lakemayor
13 years ago
Happy New Year to everyone! We are now in Florida enjoying the beautiful weather! We arrived yesterday and will live here until April. We are watching the Notre Dame game as I type. DH has a cold beer and I'm thinking about pouring a glass of wine. However, if I do that I will never see the New Year come in!

I wish all of you a prosperous and happy New Year.

Karen
tami_ohio
13 years ago
Adding my wishes to all for a Happy, healthy New Year.

We will be driving about 10 minutes away to our DD's for the evening.

Tami
KatieC
13 years ago
Happy New Year everyone! No plans here. There are a couple of parties in the neighborhood, but it's going to be below zero, so we're opting to stay home and keep the fire going.

It's cold and sunny and the trees are heavy with a thick layer of snow... sparkly and gorgeous. The kids will be up to go snowshoeing tomorrow or Sunday. I plan to stay close to the stove, make some bread and a roast beef dinner, and put away Christmas. A nice peaceful start to 2011.

Be safe, all. Clinking with a hot eggnog and rum.
trixietx
13 years ago
We are having our annual New Years Eve bash, me, DH and the 3 and 6 year old grandsons. After dinner we usually pop fireworks and then get in the hot tub, but it is so cold that we may just have to do dinner, popcorn and a game or several of crazy ates ( the 6 year olds favorite game.)
Wishing all my CF friend a Happy New Year!
loagiehoagie
13 years ago
I always think the new year is on your birthday....to me that is the 'new' year vs. the flipping of the calendar. Nothing special here....never was one to make a big deal of New Years' Eve. Laurie has to get up at 5am for work and we have the new pup and a handful (Eight still here!) of doggies...so just a low-key night...nothing out of the ordinary. On the plus side...no hangover tomorrow!

Duane
dedtired
13 years ago
Tonight, nothing much. This has to be my least favorite "holiday" of the year. I'll be looking at the back of my eyelids at midnight, I'm sure.

Tomorrow Niece #3 arrives with her DH and two darling little girls. They will be here until Sunday. After that, I am through with the holiday season. Next week, I undeck the halls and untrim the tree. I always feel bad for it as it sits by the curb waiting to be chipped up.

Happy, Healthy New Year, one and all!
jessyf
13 years ago
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!!

We stayed home as well, had the inlaws over for the usual Friday night dinner. DH and I are watching a basketball game, and I think we'll record the Rose Parade and let the kid watch the Marching Bands tomorrow, speeding past the floats LOL. We got a couple of invites but prefer to stay home and off the roads on NYE.

Hey will the folks who have a real birthday tomorrow chime in? Jan 1st is the default and I can't remember who is real and who isn't! If I miss you, send me an email, thanks!
User
13 years ago
Nancy has it right.

We are at the cottage so much that it is becoming a real chore to manage the house and Gardens here. I can only take a week or two at a time at the cottage during the winter. so we intend to buy a condo in Toronto, right in the city, in an area called Bloor West Village.

We will be at the cottage from April until September, and plan to travel September/October. The condo will be home base from November to April with lots of trips to the cottage.

Well that's the plan anyway but first we have to sell the house.

Big change!!!!
annie1992
13 years ago
Sharon, that sounds like a great plan, I loved my trip Toronto so a condo there would be very convenient to some great markets and lots of activities.

Plus, it would give you more time to focus on the cottage and spend time there on the lake. Yup, big changes...

Good luck on that house sale.

Annie

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