Proper response to housewarming gift
igloochic
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Comments (5)What a wonderful gift you and your family gave to your surprise guest, and in turn, she gave one to all of you by her acceptance and enjoyment at what must have seemed strange to her. Shy, I, personally loved the part where the "daugter of the Matriarch wants to take on the part of doing the feast." Now, that I think of it, I, too, am the Matriarch of my family and will gladly become just a guest--welcome, I hope--at family gatherings! :>)...See MoreOn giving gifts
Comments (7)With my siblings and Mum, we are very sporadic about gifts. Most years we skip the gift part of Xmas, and birthday gifts are experiences (restaurant meal, a performance) or let me give you the money to pay for (whatever) that you just bought yourself. With my husband, we both buy what we need or want when we need it so we don't give each other gifts. With my in-laws, I have to provide a written list of what I might want. They rarely purchase from the list so I don't know why it's required. Since I refuse to play the game anymore, my husband provides a list of ideas for gift cards (restaurants, gas cards) for both of us. My husband dislikes the gift exchanging, although he's actually quite good at it, but he doesn't fight it because it's important to his mother and sister. Xmas is now basically an exchange of gift cards, occasionally for the exact same thing. My longest term BFF doesn't like to exchange gifts so we don't - perfect! We usually treat the other to dinner. My 2nd longest BFF is a gift giver; I give her kids money and something I think she and her husband would want. I don't routinely exchange gifts with anyone else. Once in awhile I'll get or give a gift to another friend. The best gift I ever received was when my husband was sick and a friend would drop off wonderful salads for me. I would come home from being at the hospital all day and she'd stop by with it, all freshly made with interesting ingredients. It was nourishing to my body and soul....See MoreQuestion about Gift Giving...
Comments (16)Thanks...I like all the reasonable replies here and it is interesting how everyone has a different way and reason for giving as they do. I am almost glad I don't have a whole lot of money or I would overdo it, I'm sure. Some of my favorite gifts given to me have nothing to do with how much was given or spent...that's a good thing to remember as I do the giving, too. nola_anne...See MoreNarcissistic Mother-help with response
Comments (98)Obviously, you can. In my case, my mom had her good moments and was a great grandmother. As they became adults, the kids all saw how she treated me and my sister differently than she treated them and it bothered them but she treated all the grandchildren and great-grandchildren wonderfully. I would watch her interact with them and wonder why she can't give my sister and I the same unconditional love and support she gave them. At the same time, she no longer had any power over me and, for most of my life, was unable to hurt me or bring me down as I wouldn't allow it. It was not worth it to me to cut her out of my life because of the way that would have impacted the other family relationships. Seeing the loving relationships she had with her grandchildren and their happiness interacting with her gave me joy. All my statements are in past-tense because she has very advanced Alzheimer's and no longer knows any of us. If someone is toxic enough where they cause pain for the entire family, it's a different situation. If she had caused emotional harm to my children, I would have cut her out of our lives in a heartbeat. I think, in the end, the decision to cut out someone has to be based on how you will feel about it. If you will feel better and feel free, do it. If it will make you feel guilt or regret, maybe not. In that case, I'd suggest counseling to help you determine if the guilt or regret would be mitigated by the happiness cutting ties might bring. In any case, a good counselor can help you sort out the best course of action, if all contact should be cut or if it simply means better boundaries....See Moremcmann
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