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17 years ago

I have just received the most wonderful parcel from Deb! Deb you are so very thoughtful and so generous!

One little glitch....Clive took the camera to the lake so I'm not able to shows pics until Monday. I did email Deb so hopefully she has some pics to share but if not I'll be sure to post Monday.

My words won't do justice to this special parcel but I'll try. Deb used 4 clever themes for the parcel, Stoneware, Wood, Regional and Bags (yeah bags bet I'm the only one who ever got a bags category!!! LOL)

The stoneware is gorgeous. A beautiful blue cruet for oil, the colour is fantastic kinda mauvey blue with some brown accents and a lovely size, not too big. Deb also sent a great square stoneware bowl, the size is perfect for everything from a small casserole, any side dish and I can really see it as part of an appetizer buffet It is an oatmealy colour with great accents and a lovely scalloped edge. Both are going to sit proudly on my shelves at the cottage along with some other lovely things I've received in swaps.

For the Wood Deb sent me the most unusual wooden spoon I've ever seen. The bowl is very large in relationship to the handle and the wood is gorgeous. Deb mentioned it being perfect for something like Pasta Salad, and it would be. I imagine I'll be getting lots of comments about it and I'll be sure to tell how I came to be the proud owner!

I was also lucky enough to be blessed with some special things from Virginia (Deb was thinking a horse but the postage was prohibitive!) I love getting things that are local to the area my swap partner is from, it's always so special and personal. Two great Virginia cookbooks. One looks like it will be a great bathtub read, it describes and provides background on the historic restaurants in Virginia along with their famous recipes. The other is a Junior League Cookbook of real Virginia recipes but with a twist, not sure what the twist is but I'll know before the day is out. Along with that was a can of Virginia peanuts, I'm pretty sure I never mentioned that Clive was the peanut king, but he is. So much so that a friend gives him a Costco size jar every Christmas. So guess I'll share!

Somewhere along the way Deb seems to have gotten the notion that we like wine and sent us some local Virginia wine, a red and a white, both dry. Deb described the one winery and I think it may have to be a stop we make when we are in Virginia next year. Can't wait to uncork but will restrain myself until Clive gets home....at least I'll try!

Last but not least, the bags! Clever Deb packed everything into a great big woven basket that will be perfect for hauling all my "hooking" supplies around in. It's perfect because the uncut wool can lie flat and it opens up really wide so I can easily see everything inside. Perfect! She also sent a produce bag and a cooler bag for my trips to the market. Deb suggested I may want to use the woven basket for the market instead of my hooking but I'm going to use it for my hooking, 'cause my hooking is special and so is Deb!!.

Deb I can't tell you how much I appreciate the things you picked for me. They are all very much me. You were very thoughtful and very generous and I shall think of you every time I enjoy them.

Thanks so much

Sharon

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riverrat1
17 years ago
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Chase, I know how special Deb's packages can be as I was her buddy last swap. Enjoy your goodies and I can't wait to see pictures.

Deb, Great job, again!
User
17 years ago
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Wow, who needs pictures. Your description of each item is so good I can almost see everything.

What an amazing swap box. Deb you really put a lot of thought into what you sent Sharon. You would think that you had known her for years.

Sharon, I know that you will think fondly of Deb every time you look at or use what she sent you.

Ann
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compumom
17 years ago
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That certainly sounds like a super swap! Deb sure did her homework on you, ex-swap buddy! Enjoy it all, I'm anxious to see the photos, but concur you did an awesome job of describing it all. Great swap!
Lars
17 years ago
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Durable goods are really nice to receive in a swap because they keep giving. I don't collect stoneware, but I can appreciate how it will fit in your cottage. I do collect wooden spoons, however, especially when I go to African craft fairs. Most of them I do not use, and I occasionally give them as gifts.

Good work, Deb!

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jessyf
17 years ago
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No wonder Deb's been MIA - she obviously has spent a lot of time researching you, Sharon!

Very nice.
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17 years ago
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Atually I just had an email from Deb and, because of the storms, she has been without phone and stable internet for almost two weeks. She was hoping the telephone guys would show today.
granjan
17 years ago
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Evrything sounds incredible. And the bag category is incredibly original. But i still want to see pictures!!! Janet
dedtired
17 years ago
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Lucky Sharon and Clever Deb!

What a thoughtful package. Deb really spent time getting it just right. The Virginia collection sounds especially appealing. One of the things I love about travel is getting local specialties. You've had a trip to Virginia without leaving the house.

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doucanoe
17 years ago
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Wow, Sharon, you got one helluva great swap box of goodies!
Can't wait to see photos, the stoneware and wooden spoon sound beautiful!

Great job, MT4K! (Who started that? It's sticking!)

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momto4kids
17 years ago
last modified: 9 years ago
Oh! I have internet at the present moment!

Sharon, your post and detailed descriptions have me so excited even I want to see pictures! LOL! And I didn't take any pictures, though I did consider it, because I knew you could on your end! Wouldn't it figure you'd get your package while your camera is away for the weekend!

I'm so excited you like everything! I guess I can stop all the hand-wringing and teeth-gnashing now! I read cookbooks like novels, too. It's cool we have that in common! You'll have to let me know how those wines were! I was delighted to have you as my partner! Enjoy!

Deb (or MT4K!! I like that, too!)
sheshebop
17 years ago
last modified: 9 years ago
Sharon, M24K did an excellent job. I cannot wait to see the pictures! I love bowls, and I can imagine how gorgeous the bowl is. I also love bags, so I am eager to see those. Your descriptions, however, are excellent, so if I close my eyes and imagine until they get posted, I can see them. Great job, Deb...OUR NEWEST KINDA LAST-MINUTE CANNY CAMPER!!!
teresa_nc7
17 years ago
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A wonderful selection of goodies, Deb!

Enjoy your nice swap box, Chase! I hope we can see pics soon!
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chancesmom
17 years ago
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Wow sounds like some pretty special stuff. Can't wait for pix. Great job m24k!

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finally
17 years ago
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Christmas in July! Such fun items for M24K. I can't wait to see the pictures too. Enjoy Deb!

~finally
paulines
17 years ago
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The wooden spoon sounds so interesting and wood stuff just gets better & better (I oil mine after washing, but I'm obsessive).

Sharon, I didn't realize you were a hooker, that basket sounds perfect!

Great job, Deb!
robinkateb
17 years ago
last modified: 9 years ago
The descriptions of of the contents of your goodies Sharon were so good that I am eagerly awaiting the photos. Having to wait is kind of fun though, leaves me time to imagine. The stoneware and the woven basket sound wonderful. I have a bag thing (much to DH's sorrow) and who can have enough beautiful serving pieces. Good job M24K!! I know Sharon will enjoy everything for a long time to come.

-Robin
craftyrn
17 years ago
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Oh I love those selections-- can't wait to see the pictures-- clever idea those "bags"-- everything sounds so fun & useful -- enjoy Sharon-- nice going Deb.

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shaun
17 years ago
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Wow that sounds so great! I can't wait to see pics too!
kent4489
17 years ago
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Sharon, I'm ooohing and aaahing over that great swap package. You described very well, but I too, am eager to see your pics.
Deb, you did some excellent shopping! Nice!

Jayne
Terri_PacNW
17 years ago
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Wow it sounds to good to be true..Can't wait to see the goodies.
annie1992
17 years ago
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Oh, wow, that sounds just wonderful. I'd really like to see that wooden spoon, and the dish with the scalloped edges.

OK, so I'm the only one that caught the "Canning Camp" reference? Are you coming Deb? OMG, that would be so great!

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trixietx
17 years ago
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Everything sounds wonderful, can't wait to see the pics.
traceys
17 years ago
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I can't wait to see pictures. That package sounds amazing. I love the theme.

Sharon, Enjoy your goodies. You could still hide the peanuts from Clive.

Tracey
Carol Schmertzler Siegel
17 years ago
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What a fantastic package! looking forward to seeing the pictures.
lowspark
17 years ago
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Sounds like a wonderful group of gifts! Can't wait to see the pix!!
alison
17 years ago
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Sharon, that sounds like a wonderful package! And so many things that will be around for a long time -- and even away from the kitchen! What nice reminders of a generous swap partner.

Good job, Deb! And clever to "wrap" it all in a basket.
homesforsale
17 years ago
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I am so visual..I need la photo:)
But I can tell you love it:)
dlundin
17 years ago
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What Monique said! But it does sound incredible. Good work, Deb, and lucky, lucky you Sharon! I do hope you enjoy your bounty.
mustangs81
17 years ago
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Annie, Good catch--she is coming!

Great imagination Deb, looking forward to the pictures--being the visual person that I am.
goldgirl
17 years ago
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Can't wait to see the photos, but you did a great job describing everything!
bubbeskitchen
17 years ago
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Hi, I just got back on the computer and looky what I get to read! Wow! Such great planning went into this special swap package, Deb. Good going!
Sharon, I can just picture everything you described, you are very adept at this.
I don't know who had more fun, the giver or receiver.

Sweet!
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Great sleuthing Deb - you put together a wonderful package - can't wait to see it, Sharon.
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17 years ago
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I can't wait to see that spoon! What a great package. Very creative - I love the bags.

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