Is it wrong to bring something spicy to a communal get together?
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Comments (45)Alotofplants, often what happens with many ideas about clematis is that what was initially thought about them came from the British and their experience with them. This information is parroted along by everyone and it often takes a long time to get the information corrected. (As far as googling to get information on the web, you can probably find information out there that will support any position.) As an example about info that is parroted about clematis, take for example the idea that clematis are difficult plants to grow. Nothing is further from the truth especially if you give them what they need and you choose a variety that is suited to your area. The same is true about how some types of clematis are better suited to growing in a conservatory. Clematis fremontii and other similar types are grown in England either inside or in containers because they have trouble with them dieing off over the winter. I took this information to heart and planted my fremontii in a pot based on that information. I then learned of quite a few people here in the states, some in the cold north, who have been growing theirs outside in the ground for several years. As a result, mine are now in the ground and are doing fine. Yet, another myth out there circulating is that clematis need cool root runs. What they like is the moisture that is associated with cool root runs, that is moisture. The plants can exist in pots that get quite hot in the summer if they are provided the moisture, which is what they really need. Janet, if you look in Edith's book, you will also see that she says the following: "The only exception to the rule of not adding lime would be if you live in an area that has a major calcium deficiency. Have your soil tested by a professional soil lab and add lime only if their findings reccomend that you do so." Perhaps this is your issue lotsofplants. Perhaps a soil test would show that your soil lacks calcium that it is getting from the lime and that is what your plant is lacking, not the affect the lime has on your soil pH. I garden in acidic clay soil, have tons of clematis, and have never added lime to my soil. How can I grow them in acidic soil and you not? Perhaps the issue is calcium or some other deficiency in your soil that is being helped by a microcomponent in the lime and not the pH affect caused by the lime. Edith goes on to say: "I have found that in this country it is better to grow clematis in the more acidic planting situation of a pH of 6.5. Growing clematis in an acidic location is important for gardeners who live in areas where there is little rainfall." In another section of her book, Edith states that lime can inhibit clematis from utilizing essential nutrients such as iron, manganese, and zinc from the soil. The bottom line is that unless you have investigated your soil conditions via a soil test, you don't really know if the lime is doing anything for your clematis or whether it is really needed. Something else may be the actual cause of clematis failing to thrive and lime may be just adding that extra ingredient. The pH affect may be totally unrelated. Excuse my insistence on fact and investigation, but it comes from graduating college with a chemistry major and biology minor. I am a science nerd and proud of it! LOL...See MoreSomething is wrong with this room...lots of pics!
Comments (113)Wow Bodica you have me dreaming :) If you look at the harbor room pic, you can see water out the window, that's the bay, just down the hill and the house has excellent views on that side. The opposite side view is the gorgeous stone court house. In front is a large park owned by the city, and behind is the carriage house now a private home separately owned. I am fairly certain we can't have cows in the city limits :oP But we can walk about six blocks to a fabulous farmers market on the weekends. The furnishings are 85% real antiques (victorian) and a few have come from the original owners (meaning they've always been in the house). A few pieces are spectacular, the balance are your typical eastlake style, but still quite lovely (just not rare). There are a couple pieces not incuded with the purchase that I will ask for anyhoo as part of the offer because they're unusual and special. I'd guess from a rough count it's about 50,000 in furnishings and fittings. The lighting is generally fabulous, with a few changes needed..but I adore antique lighting so that will be fun. It's a state and national landmark home, as well as registered with the national historical society. I'm just starting to look into how that effects our life. In general, because it's such a special home historically, we're not planning on doing anything inappropriate. The only big change would be the kitchen, which has been remuddled over time as a professional kitchen and will be returned to a semi unfitted kitchen when we want to put the money into it. And all of the bathrooms (I think 11?) need to be redone in a more appropriate historical period (they were done in the 80's with formica and cheap tile). A few fireplaces also are hidden or have been replaced with wood stoves. We'll fix those. The three we can see all have fabulous tile...not Morovian, but they have that feel. The whole joint needs to be deflowered! (this thread will now pop up in some unusual searches on google LOL) I mean there are flowers on top of flowers with flowers on the bed and flowers in vases (fake) and flowers in the lace....egads flowers. I'm sure I'll be having nightmares about those flowers for years as I slowly remove them. When it comes to the decor, we'll be historically sensative. I believe that in a softer way, the victorian style is an easy style to live with. The sofa's will be softer, but still elegant, but I'm totally into the heavy draperies and lush carpets :) It will be a "home" but still be appropriate for charities to use for the victorian home tours and special events held now annually there. We plan on allowing that to continue. I grew up in the town in another special house there (Smith house, which was the first cabin in town and is now a modest victorian home). It's not my dream home (French house in Duluth) but if one has to "settle" this is one heck of a home to settle for isn't it? :) (Believe me I'm not feeling deprived at all LOL). It will provide us with a wonderful home for my son and his friends in the future, and if we're lucky a baby or two. And if we're not, the three of us will muddle on just fine there :) The only downside to this is I have to move away from my husband (he'll do one week with us and one week here). But we have to do it for our son. PBJ they can't get me into all of the rooms until the end of the month, and I'm not flying down until I can see every one of them, so we've agreed on the last Sunday of the month. I'm working on my checklist for the visit now :)...See MoreDid I do something wrong?
Comments (26)cynic's comment on my comment made me think. Of course I wouldn't expect my parents to cancel a night at the the opera or expect to be invited to a business dinner they were hosting...but we have always been welcomed in their home... because, well, it's our home too; it will always be our home. Our family is close knit and would always include other family members. I don't think it's about being spoiled; I think it's more about your family dynamics. When we have relatives come in town everyone always go over there to see them... not stay away to give them alone time. I have a feeling your son would have totally understood if you were busy with something else (like a church function or a wedding, etc). I just don't think he thinks your entertaining a grandson should be something that he would be excluded from or made to feel he was interrupting. There may be more to the story, but I doubt it. It would be like if I called my mom and told her I'd be close by and could I coome by to visit and she implied it was a bad time because my brother was coming over that night... I would be like what? ...That makes it a good time, not a bad time? I really wouldn't understand. Again, family dynamics are different but I hardly ever see a reason to exclude family members, especially your son from his own house when he is coming in town. Heck, even if you were having a work dinner party, I'd invite him. Inclusion is almost always better than exclusion. Even amoung friends and even when people think they want to be alone. Bottom line, it never feels good to feel left out especailly amoung family and espiecially when you could have easily been included. Alone time is nice, but unless you're lovers, it's not needed at someone else's expense....See MoreWrong Sink Installed - everyday it's something new
Comments (26)Hi Donna, So I'm really sorry that you are having these kinds of problems. Based on your comments it was a mistake to keep the GC / PM. I understand you are in too deep at this point to make a change. I get that. The thing is that once roles start getting blurred, it can be really difficult to sort them out again - both on a practical level and on a legal level if it gets to that. If you start managing a job and taking on a role that's not yours, it makes it really difficult to hold the appropriate party responsible. In retrospect, the right answer is to have a discussion about roles and responsibilities as the problems happen and become apparent. (As in, "Mr GC, your job is to make sure this job is done properly, on time and on budget and to supervise your subs. Mr. GC you also take financial responsibility for mistakes on this job. I will go after your bond if mess this up, so I suggest that you stay on top of it." ) There should be very little direct communication between you and any subcontractor. They work for the contractor, they don't work for you. None of the issues with the kitchen sink is your problem, nor is the financial part of it your problem - It's all on the GC. BTW: Again keeping roles clear - you should not be purchasing sinks. You should have been talking to the GC / PM about what type of sink / faucets you want based on an agreed allowance $ for that item. It should have been determined ahead of time so issues with sink base cabinets / countertop / plumbing could be completely worked through by the GC /PM. He is responsible for ordering the item, making sure it's on site, and that everything works together, not you....See More- 2 years ago
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