Alcohol as Gift...What to Do
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Comments (14)Once upon a time, a lot. When I was young and single I was out at the bar up to 6 nights a week! Having to do laundry was the only reason it wasn't 7. I played softball (hence the moniker) and we all celebrated each victory and drowned each loss. After a few CLOSE calls I restricted my drinking to close to home; no more than 5-10 minutes away. As for now that I'm married with children, I might have a few at a family picnic or special occasion; my wife is a one-and-done person, so she drives. As I write this I haven't had a drop in maybe three weeks. The fact that it now takes me over two days to get over a moderate bender is also a deterrent....See MoreDo you drink alcohol?
Comments (52)I love a glass of wine when I go out for a meal or have dinner with friends. We always have wine at my book club. I truly enjoy the taste and the relaxed feeling. I certainly know my limits and never have more than two glasses. I enjoy some mixed drinks, but only have one because of the caloric intake and also because I am usually out somewhere an have to drive home. Wine always wakes me up in the middle of the night, so I drink plenty of water along with it. I was camping for a night with friends and we had vodka and cranberry juice -- one drink each. It was very pleasant. I almost never drink at home. I just don't enjoy sitting by myself and drinking. I'd have a glass of wine from time to time but I end up pouring out most of the bottle because it goes bad before I finish it. I don't like beer, never have. I would absolutely never force a drink on anyone else. I bet the person who did that was three sheets to the wind. Lots of people have good reasons for not drinking and I respect that. I am sorry your vacation was miserable, Olliesmom....See MoreEtiquette - bride's family wants alcohol, groom's family says NO
Comments (12)I agree with Gellchom. This is not an etiquette problem, but an issue of compromise between families. There are numerous issues that need to be considered before a definitive decision can be made. If the groom's parents object because of religious beliefs, I would be more inclined to accommodate them than if they were objecting for some other reason. As a wedding planner, I have had to deal with this issue several times and someone is invariably upset with the final decision, no matter what occurs. What you don't want is to have relatives or family members who drink to excess and ruin the reception. If the decision is to have an alcohol free reception, the bride's family might choose to host an after party for their relatives and close friends where they serve alcohol. That way, they can do what they want without offending anyone. As an aside, someone mentioned that the groom's family usually pays for the bar. That is a regional tradition and is not etiquette nor generally accepted or practiced in most areas of the country. Neither set of parents is responsible for any costs that they do not volunteer to incur....See MoreAlcoholic Brother, Car Insurance - What Do I Do?!
Comments (30)From the time my oldest son was less than 2 years old, I have seen the influence an unrelated girl of a similar age can have on behavior. Maybe his drunken behavior chasing off the very one he sought to impress can be a catalyst you or your family could not provide. I hope it will be a helpful step for him. Perhaps you can help him by reminding him that alcoholics in recovery are not the only people who don't drink. Many people chose never to drink and others cannot drink for other medical reasons (past illnesses liver or kidney issues, medications they take), religious issues, etc. I doubt most folks would press for an explanation if he chose not to drink, but there are better ways to deal with the situation than to get drunk. He could simply say he took some allergy medication earlier and can't drink on top of that, ate something that didn't agree with him a day or two ago and is taking it easy -- nothing that commits him to a long term story. He can reveal himself if and when he's ready. He just needs to be prepared so he can handle the situation. Though I'm surprised that any treatment wouldn't include discussion about handling those situations, he obviously wasn't -- or he didn't want to believe that he needed to be. Maybe he needed some proof. Hope he see that he got it and that he's ready for it now. Cautiously hopeful for both of you....See Moresephia_wa
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