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Comments (22)Sorry in advance for the long post, but here is my personal story about bully neighbors, and how to deal with them: First, you have to understand what kind of people you're dealing with. These people are classic "wealthy bullies." They think that because they have more money than you, they can do things you and the others can't. If they can't do things their way, they will not know how they are better than everyone else, and this motive preceeds their every action. Start messing with them every way possible. Call the town and report the sign as a nuisance. I'm sure the deed restrictions have something in there about what kind of sign you can display. Keep thinking of ways to mess with these people. That's the best way to get rid of bad neighbors. If you persist with calling the town code enforcement, they will eventually get tired of your complaints. If your complaints are legit, they will cite your neighbor. Keep it up and they will award your neighbor with a red tag. If you make yourself a problem, this kind of bad neighbor will eventually go away. These people have a little bit of financial wealth, and major attitude of entitlement. They are classic "wealthy bullies" I have dealt with this kind before. I'm not the kind of person who starts stuff with my neighbors. When our shared fence needs replacement, I pay for it and build it myself. I do not ever ask my neighbors for anything. That makes for good neighbors. If neighbors are noisy at night, we put in ear plugs. If they park in front of our house, we park in front of their house. No problem. We put out the trash cans for each other, we watch out for each other. Thats how neighbors should be. When we first moved to our current house, there were some BAD neighbors behind us. The people started all kinds of problems with us. The other neighbors warned us about them. They started a property line dispute. They did it with the previous owners, too. We knew this, as it was disclosed upon purchase. The county records even showed a long history of dispute over this property line. Many surveys were conducted, but the people behind us still believed they owned half of our back yard. To improve our back yard, which was built on a steep slope, I took out a building permit to install a retaining wall. I informed the neighbors about the planned construction and permit. (I did not know how bad of neighbors they were yet) The retaining wall is about 5 feet tall at the property line, and makes our back yard flat. With the reatining wall in place, there is no question about the location of the property line. Well the neighbors called the building department and claimed I was building on their property. This stopped the permit, after it was in process. The city building department required that I build the retaining wall 1 foot on my side of the property line, thus giving a sliver of my land to the bad neighbors. I obliged without hesitation. But the city also required that I hire a surveyor and have markers installed, due to the property line dispute. The surveys on record already indicate markers at the corners of my property, which I located. I sent everything in with my engineer's calculatoins, and the city approved the permit. I started working, removed an old chain link fence, and started grading the earth for the retaining wall. Within a few days, the neighbor hired a contractor and had him build a new wooden fence on my construction site, about 2-3 feet on my side of the property line. When they did this, they dug soil away from the foundation of my shed, thus undermining the footings. The new fence, which was built 2-3 feet on our side of the property line, made my shed look like it was actually hanging over their side of the fence. The undermined footing made it look dangerous, and the lowered grade made the overall height of the roof too tall. Our city has a 12' height limit on sheds. When measured from their side of the hill, the roof was about 13'6", because they dug 3 or 4 feet of soil away from the foundation. So they called the city and re-disputed the property line! They got my permit suspended, and the city stuck me with a nuisance abatement citation. The shed was now, apparantly, in violation of several codes. The city basically told me that they do not get involved in property line disputes. They told me that they must follow the fence line or survey markers if they are visible. Well, the neighbor had tried to destroy the survey markers with the grading. They covered them with dirt. The new wooden fence made it so I could not locate the markers without going into "their yard" It seemed as if I had no recourse, and would have to pay for another survey, pay to have the courts submit it as an official survey of record, or lose a significant part of my property, including my shed. The last option I had left was to use my lawyer friends for help. Never underestimate the value of a good lawyer. At this point, my only chance was to think of ways to mess with these people. They were clearly in the wrong, and I was clearly in the right. The problem was that it would cost me thousands of dollars to prove I was right, and it would cost me thousands more to use the courts and the city to enforce my rights. So I started writing letters. I sent each one to my lawyer. He edited it, endorsed it, and sent it to the city, county, and my neighbors. In one, I stated that a survey of record indicates their fence is constructed on my property. The survey of record I referred to was the one on file, and the same one they had covered up the markers with dirt. The neighbor responded by calling the police and reported me for trespassing in their back yard! They told the police they saw me lurking around suspiciously inside their fenced back yard. They assumed I had gone there to uncover the survey marker. I didn't go in there, I had seen the survey marker months before before they covered it, and I had already measured from the benchmark monument in the street, to verify it's proper location. They were ignorant to this fact, and falsely accused me of trespassing. The next letter I sent stated that they had to remove the fence onto their own property or face legal action. It reminded them that destroying a surveyor's marker was a crime, and the survey on record had identified an existing marker from a previous survey, with different surveyor's ID tag. I actually talked to both professionals, one a surveyor, the other a civil engineer. They both remembered the case as unusual, because many different surveys were conducted on the same property line. They remember the wierd people who kept paying for more surveys, and never believed any were correct. So I had located professional witnesses that would prove our case 100% The next letter stated that I intended to have a contractor remove the fence, sue them for the cost, and keep the materials. A week later, I look out back and notice the fence had "moved" to exactly one inch inside their property line. I look closer, and see NEW survey markers! They hired ANOTHER survey! What can I say about these people? They spent thousands of dollars for nothing! This had gone on for a year and four months. With the fence where it should be, the city closed the "nuisance abatement" case against me, and re-issued my permit for the retaining wall. I built it and finished my yard, repairing the shed foundation and raising the grade of my yard. At this point, the bad neighbors were defeated, but they were still around. I would not rest until they were gone. All my other neighbors had warned me about these people at first. After they saw them defeated, they were extremely proud and respectful of us. I kept thinking of ways to mess with these people. The lady was so ashamed, she moved out. She went to Sacramento. I kept tabs on her whereabouts, just so I could send certified letters from lawyers. Getting a certified letter from a lawyer seemed to be these people's kryptonite. The husband had emotional outbursts when I would see him around town. I would go right up to him and say "Hi neighbor! Thanks for moving your fence. I'm so glad we worked things out!" This was the ultimate insult. He ran at me once, screaming "why don't you have your lawyer come see me!" I just chuckled and jogged out of his way. I wasn't really worried about having to defend myself, as his emotinal rage was a pathetic attempt to engage me physically. He was ready to fight me, but he had no control of himself. I avoided the fight, because I had prepared myself to remain cool, even though I had planned to push his buttons. I would have even let him hurt me a little, and used minimal self-defense, just to see how deep of a hole this jerk was willing to dig himself. He called the police and reported me for trespassing again. This was his attempt to justify his aggression, as he probably thought I was going to call the police on him. The police contacted me, took my statement and closed the case. I never saw them again. The next month, the house was for sale. They disclosed to the new owners about how "bad neighbors" (we) live in our house. That was perfect. The new neighbors made every effort to not piss us off. When we finally met, they were surprised to find us as pleasant, private people. They made a comment about how they bought this house from some crazy bit-ch, and what a nightmare she made the transaction. I just smiled and said "hmmm." Good luck. Hopefully they will follow the predictable course of behavior for their personality type....See MoreKitchen magazine back issue challenge
Comments (11)I found it! It is also in Dream Kitchens display until January 2007 by Meredith Specials for BHG. It is Volume 3, no. 2. Their email address is kitchenbath@meredith.com The article is called "Stunning Recovery" on pages 94-99. The house is an 1895 Queen Anne house. I'm not ready to part with this as I'm helping a friend who is building a house. I can copy the article for you, but I know you want the colors, too. The kitchen designers were Ed and Nancy Hillner. Kitchen Classics, 519 Fourth St., Wilmette, IL 60091; 847/251-9540 The designers probably have reprints of the article. Here is a link that might be useful: Meredith Publishing...See MoreAnother Kitchen Magazine Back Issue Challange
Comments (27)Hi Mistergreen - I have also searched high and low for something similar - as I think a few others on this thread have done. I did call Lester Harry's and their price is around $800. That is just too hard to justify with all the other expenses for building a new home. I have found some similar items but most all are in the chrome/polished finish, not in bronze. I am not sure if that makes a difference to you....but if you want to check out Schonbek Geomatrix line, James Moder Tekno line, & Elk Lighting Optix line. There is a pendant by Quoizel - the Lisette Piccolo - which has the bronze finish, but it is 9 1/2" in diameter which is pretty large. There is a bronze finished pendant from Elk - Victoria line - it has red accents and can look great with a white kitchen (which is what we have). And, there is a beauty by Framburg - Empress Series 1499 - but it is about $500-$600. It has the bronze finish, but with amber crystals and it is round, rather then square. It took me a little while to try and warm up to another crystal pendant after seeing those Chandi beauties, but since they are out of my price range, I think there are some other alternatives which will give the same effect and look beautiful. Unfortunately, the Schonbek, Moder and Elk that are similar, don't come in the bronze finish and all our lighting and hardware are bronze. Hope this helps! Please let me know if you find anything else.......See MoreTransition days...anyone else have issues?
Comments (14)"Well my son has become picky now..so it must be a boy thing." It totally could be a boy thing! I think for SS some of it is just getting used to eating a certain way w/BM and then having to switch over to our menu. After having been with BM for 10 of the last 14 days, he wasn't adjusted to our food yet. He's in camp this week and the lunch I packed for him was NOT a hit b/c he's used to BM or grandma's lunches. When he came home on Wed, his trash was all in his lunchbox, and some of the food was leftover---I was shocked to see the lunch. A ham sandwich, which is fine, and he had eaten most of it. Then a Hi-C drink, which isn't great since it's just pure sugar. A fruit roll-up wrapper. Half-eaten bag of king-sized M & Ms. And a pop-tart wrapper. ????? So the lunch I packed---and this is very typical what the kids eat at our house for lunch--I packed him a PB&J on whole wheat bread. Fresh blueberries. Small stack of low-fat Pringles. Apple & Eve 100% juice box. And two fig newtons. I just try to keep things balanced---I am totally fine w/the kids having "junk food" so long as it's in moderation. I don't mind them having a small serving of chips or cookies w/lunch, esp. when it's a packed lunch for camp, but I make sure that there is ALWAYS a fruit w/it, and that the treats I pack aren't *too* bad! Anyway, SS didn't eat a bite of the sandwich b/c he doesn't like wheat bread, he wanted white, which is what BM buys. But he DOES eat wheat over here all the time, we never buy white---I guess he had just grown accustomed to BM's food. He didn't eat the blueberries and didn't eat the fig newtons either. So I guess he had Pringles for lunch yesterday. oh well. He will re-adjust---haha, just in time to go back to BM's, and then we will start all over again when he gets back!...See More- 4 years ago
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