What I wore was nothing I had planned.

I've been having lots of digestive issues lately...getting persistent enough now that I will go see the doc about it. I went to put on the dress yesterday, and I was so bloated, it was tight, tight tight. So I went back to my closet and pulled out my Ralph Lauren which was much looser and I felt most comfortable in it. I changed up the jewelry too and wore it with a sequined teal shrug as it was chilly in the place. And I had a rhinestone clip from MIL that I wore at the neckline to dress it up. I felt very comfortable, fit right in and was happy with my final choice. While I didn't wear what I had planned, had I not gone through the process, I'd've never been able to make that last minute switch.

Dress:

Close up of shrug and clip:

Glimpse of bride's gown...

Bride and maids..

oooooh, that looks beautiful!!! So sorry you are feeling bloated. The setting and the girls are all lovely!!

I'm so glad it went well and you had a wonderful time!

Very nice to hear all went so well. Sorry to hear about your issues Annie. Having gone through gut issues last year and while different from yours, no fun.

Im glad the day was so nice and that you had a good time with the groomsmen. I like the dress and you looked beautiful. Hope you're feeling better soon.

You might have IBS. That's what I have. It is a frustrating autoimmune disease. But luckily for me, between some tips I learned from the IBS support group, and luck, I don't have very many flare ups. It can be managed.

You looked FABULOUS. Those colors are so flattering, as was the style of the ensemble!

Don’t you feel great when you’ve planned enough that you can confidently make a switch without missing a step! Your outfit looked great. Sounds like entertaining the groomsmen went very well. How clever to plan for the wedding in an outdoor but protected location!

I am so happy the day turned out perfectly. What a fabulous gift you offered the groom to be and his family and friends. And you looked wonderful. The teal shrug was spectacularnwith the navy.

So glad everything was a success and you were comfy in your outfit. The shrug was just right. I hope you feel better soon!

Everything looked great, and it's nice that you had options. I like the shrug!

PS...the couple stopped by today to pick up a few things they'd left here, and to thank me...bought me bouquet of flowers and a bottle of wine. They are so sweet!!

Lovely, all around.

So sorry about how you are feeling. Hoping you get to the bottom of things soon.

It sounds like a wonderful, very successful day!

Good job of planning ahead and having a back-up. That's something that I should keep in mind but don't always do. Which of course leaves me standing in my closet desperately trying to pull something together. I really like that dress! Glad you had a good time and I'll bet the photos of the guys are fantastic.

Glad the hosting worked out well-am sure they were grateful for all your help. The shrug was a nice touch. Hope you get to feeling better sioon.

I LOVE the color combination of the dress and shrug.

Sounds like a lovely day! Feel better soon.

What a nice day! And the sequined shrug is perfect with the blue dress, well done. I hope you feel better soon.

LOL! I saw the original thread and left shaking my head. Good to hear all went well.

Sorry for your discomfort and medical issues but man that dress looked wonderful! I think navy and teal are my new favorite combo. Love that shrug!

I have a couple of questions though...

1) Why is the music always screamingly loud so you can't hear yourself think let alone converse with anyone else?

2) How is it all these young people from all over seem to know the same dances and dance to them. As far as I know, they were from different parts of the country and still all seemed to know the words and know the moves? I only ever see or hear this stuff at the occasional wedding....where do they go to learn this stuff?

you look so pretty! What a lovely gift you gave these newlyweds!

LOL you are funny.

1) Why is the music always screamingly loud so you can't hear yourself think let alone converse with anyone else? When you hear a song you love, what is the first thing you do?

2) How is it all these young people from all over seem to know the same dances and dance to them. As far as I know, they were from different parts of the country and still all seemed to know the words and know the moves? I only ever see or hear this stuff at the occasional wedding....where do they go to learn this stuff?

Wasn't it the same thing when you were a kid? Everyone knew a few dances, yes? They spread even easier now with social media.

I was curious, and found this surprisingly interesting, on the subject of loud music.

https://blog.loopearplugs.com/why-people-love-loud-music/

Well, when I was younger I didn't go to dances because it was too loud! I'd leave with my ears ringing for hours. Hated it.

But they weren't just kids...one gal is in her 30s, another in her 50s and others in their teens and they all knew it...

I could only imagine that adults go to clubs to dance maybe?

I do line dance and our teacher/dj plays the music at a comfortable level...we can hear it without going deaf.

American Bandstand was how kids from all over the country knew the same dances when I was a teen. Now they watch music videos, tiktok, etc. to see what's the latest 'thing.'

I could only imagine that adults go to clubs to dance maybe?

Hmm, not that I have ever heard of. I mostly see group dances at weddings, bar/bat mitzvahs, things like that. And girls like to practice them when they get together sometimes, too. When my girls were younger they'd make music videos w their friends.

You may have a greater sensitivity to sound.

I don't think I'm extra sensitive, but I even held my ears shut and it was still too loud. I should've put in hearing protection. I left the room to go to the rest room which was down the hall, and I could hear the music just fine from there!

FTA: Loud music relieves stress? I literally let out a sigh of relief between songs....which wasn't often as they mixed one piece into the next quite often.

“But they weren't just kids...one gal is in her 30s, another in her 50s and others in their teens and they all knew it...”

I was excellent at ’The Stroll’ (older sister taught me) and missed the whole Electric Slide beginnings. ☹️ After the first wedding where I saw it, my preteen child was able to quickly teach me. Now as an old lady, I’m still just ok, often turning the wrong way. FYI the cha-cha slide is different as is the cupid shuffle….

Out of curiosity, I googled it:

Many bands and disc jockeys play music at 100 decibels (dB). If you're not wearing earplugs, 100 dB can cause hearing loss in just 14 minutes, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. A telltale sign that music is too loud is when you need to shout to the person next to you just to be heard.May 30, 2017

I googled it too, because it is such a comment complaint, that i wondered *why* people play loud music; to some extent all of us do. I thought the points made in the article I linked were really interesting about why, as i said, most people reach for the volume when a favorite song comes on.

Frankly, I think some of it is because the DJs who are exposed to the loud music all the time are hearing damaged, so they crank it up even louder.

I am with you. We just went to a 75th surprise birthday party and honestly you couldn’t hear the person across from you. This was just music over a sound system, not a DJ.

The last wedding i went to was a nephew. They kept the music low throughout the coaktail and dinner. Then the music got louder, but not extremely for dancing, but only after the entree.

I loved it.

I absolutely understand bars pumping up the sound because it gets the customers to drink more raising their revenue, but weddings and personal celebrations?

Yes eld, especially when they are one of the few occasions where friends and family from afar can get together and want to catch up with each other and *talk*.

Also, newer construction materials are not good for absorbing sound. I've been to some concerts at new venues where the literature bragged up on how fantastically engineered it was for acoustics. Heck no. They must have had a good salesman though . . . the ways of the modern world . . . They were designed for a certain aesthetic and then they thought they could jimmy-rig engineer good acoustics by duct taping acoustical tiles here and there. No. (not literally).

We had the same problem at our wedding. The acoustics in the room were terrible, (it was a camp dining hall) and folks wanted to talk, so we had to keep turning the music up for dancing and down for talking . . . we didn't utilize the five hour mix tape hubs made anywhere near to its potential . . .

You look so pretty! Glad everything went well, mainly vecause you had put so much thought and preparation into it.

I'm so glad everything went well. You looked great, Annie.