Need help with 90 y.o. used-and-abused wood floors !
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Wood flooring decision. In a quandary, need help!
Comments (1)Go with the finish you want. This post was edited by Toolbelt68 on Wed, May 14, 14 at 20:08...See MoreMy 14-y/o son and his angry stepfather
Comments (6)Thank you to bnicebekind, outinthecld, and amberjul for your response and insights. I want to say that first of all, I am protective of my son. I also worry sometimes that my son takes advantage of things and can be a bit manipulative. The day that I wrote my original post, my husband had gotten into one of his moods and there were a bad scene. This past weekend, however, while my husband was gone, I asked my son to do something (move some wood behind the garage) and he refused to do so. I should tell you that my son was in the store with me shopping one evening and he went to look at the baseball cards while I was in the grocery dept. When I went to look for him, I was paged. Going to find him, thinking he paged me, I found that he had been stopped for shoplifting--which was pretty confusing since neither of us had left the store and he had over $30 in his pocket that I had given him earlier. Anyway, the store made me pay $200.00 to them as they can charge the parent 10x what the kid is allegedly stealing. My husband and I agreed that he had to work it off. Actually, I was quite humiliated and upset and couldn't even speak. My husband actually surprised me and was the calm one and talked to my son. Since that time, even though it was agreed that my son had to work off the $200 with chores, he refuses to do them (usually when it is just me around) and this weekend when my husband was not home, my son got very angry with me, called me names, threw my kitchen chairs around, hit things, slammed the doors, etc. My son is getting to be a good size guy and truthfully, I am not sure I could live with him alone any more. AS for protecting my son, I do. When my husband went after my son once like he was going to hit him, I stopped him and I told him that he or anyone would ever put a hand to my son. I stood my ground and looked him in his face and he knows that I am dead serious about that. Yes, I do feel that some sort of counseling is needed so we can set some guidelines as to what our rights and responsibilities are. Such as, I would never spank one of stepgrandchildren and I don't expect my husband to spank mine...he sees it differently. I have again talked with my husband and I have taken the advice of a counselor in that if my husband loves me, I should be able to get him to see my reasoning. I think he does love me because I did stand up to him and say to him that I do not want to "castrate" him in our home and make him feel like he is not the man of the house, however; I cannot raise my son in fear. I told him that I do not like his temper; I cannot deal with people with bad tempers and if he did not learn to control his temper and learn to think a bit differently, that I would have to let this relationship go. I told him that I did love being married to him and I love the large family that we have together and I love the grandkids, but if that was the way that he raised his kids (I suspect it was and I suspect that was how he was raised, also), that he needed to think differently. I also came up with some compromises for my son and our rules, which he agreed to and I did let him know firmly that we needed to work on this and that I did think counseling was needed. His daughter told me that he had tried counseling before and it failed. I have been to counseling quite a long time for the depression, etc. of my first divorce, the relationship, tragedies, etc., so I do have insight into what needs to be done. I was a very self-sufficient, independent woman, yet now at my husband's request have lowered my income and work at home. This is all right as now I am here for my son when he gets home and I am here when he goes to school, too. I wonder if my husband doesn't have a hormone or chemical or sugar imbalance that brings on his moods as he gets very upset with himself when he gets upset. I am working on the rules and have talked with my son and asked him to work with me. My son knows I love him and I will try to look after his best interests. So, I do appreciate your comments and I wanted to let you know that I will not stick my head in the sand, I am workikng to resolve the issues, I am looking into counseling, and yes, I do protect my son. But, I simply needed to know if I was being one-sided towards my son as a mom and a stepchild myself, was I being unfair to my husband? The thing is, when you talk to someone, it can get you thinking...sometimes my son is in the wrong and sometimes my husband does overreact to things and goes way out of proportion. These are the issues that need to be worked on...now, just to find the right counselor to help with that. Thanks again...See MoreNeed help with flooring color to go with existing wood floors.
Comments (5)That's probably sheet vinyl. It is an EXCELLENT option in a rental. It is relatively cheap, durable, water proof and easy to install/replace as needed. I would do this for the kitchen and baths. I would replace carpet with carpet. It looks REALLY WEIRD if you use a 'stone look' product in an area normally reserved for wood or carpet. Like REALLY weird. So weird your renters will know you are cheaping out on them. Your counter tops are laminate. You have a small kitchen with nice (but basic) cabinetry. You have carpets in the living areas (what about the bedrooms). I would NOT put in expensive hardwoods. They will not increase the value you can ask for as rental income. To increase the rental income you must have real stone counters (although I'm a fan of laminate counters...they will out last several owners). You must have a SINGLE floor throughout the home, etc, etc, etc. I'm going to guess you will have a moderate income rental on your hands. I would recarpet the carpeted areas. I would reinstall updated sheet vinyl in the kitchen/wet areas. And expect to have those items replaced every few renters (every 7 years). Yes hardwoods can be sanded down and refinished...but that normally happens every 25 years...not every 7 years. If a hardwood floor is ruined/damaged to the point of full sand/refinish, you probably have to sue your renter (good luck with that!) to recoup the costs. A full sand/refinish costs $5/sf. It takes 3-4 days for the procedure and then ANOTHER 10-20 days for the floors to CURE. That means rental income lost for an entire month AND you have to pay for refinishing your hardwoods. You will lose money AND lose income. Best to stick with stuff that can be ripped out and replaced in a single day. Carpet and sheet vinyl will do the trick for most rental units that rank as modest or moderate income renters....See MoreHELP us update our faded and 90s shutters and front door!
Comments (13)That arched window is waht is throwing me off so I for sure would not add shutter to enhance it since it does not work at all with the style of the house.The shutters on the main floor make that porch feel very dark and really are not the right size either. That will them allow you to either keep the front door as is or another color . I would do white trim and widen the trim around the bottom windows instead of the shutters. I think I would do a railing on the porch even thought code wise it probably doesn’t need it. A fall off there could break a leg. Then you need to work on landscaping ....See MoreRelated Professionals
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