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here we go...I feel like crying and screaming over our build.
Comments (51)Oh, KYgirl--Big hugs coming from me, too. I haven't been on his forum in a while because I've been dealing with our own build from He$$, and I didn't read all the responses in this thread, but I did read your original post. We've just gone through something very, very similar--different problems, but similar in scope, jerk of a builder, almost no on-site supervision, several horrible subs, lots of stress and tears. It has been horrible. We ended up moving into our house ten days ago while it was still unfinished because of having to be out of our rental, reaching our bank deadline for closing, etc. I just wrote you a long post, but realized that it ended up being about me, not you--and this is your thread! So, I guess I just want to say that I sympathize with you, and I think I understand a lot of what you must be feeling. It's a good day if I haven't cried more than once before 9 a.m.! This has been the most stressful, unpleasant experience of our lives. Friends will say, "Oh, you must be so excited to be in your house," and I feel like a spoiled brat if I don't respond positively. It has been a nightmare. There's still lots to be done here, dh and I are doing and/or redoing stuff that we've already paid contractors to do, but they either did a crappy job or haven't been showing up. It just sucks. As badly as I feel for you, reading your post at least made me feel as though I'm not the only one who has gone through this and I thought you might want to know you're not alone. The old misery loves company routine, I guess! Take care of yourself, and try not to let it get you down--I know how hard it is, but if we don't look at the positive side, we'll go completely crazy. Although, at least you could then plead insanity when you're charged with killing Mr. Peanut!...See Moreanyone feel like thinking about master shower tile?
Comments (14)We didn't do any accent tile in our kids' baths other than in the niche for the sides and bottom, but we did use the larger field tile to keep from having to scrub grout. Count me in as another one who HATES to scrub grout. You have a great color palette going on there--very minimalist spa feeling to me. I would be inclined to use a brick pattern using the larger format tile and use your accent tile in the niche. If you wanted a little bling on the walls run a 2-4" border of the accent tile at about eye level for the walls. Or a very different option would be to run the accent tile vertically along the center of the back wall or the side walls from top to bottom. The run the larger format tile either in a vertical or brick pattern. I think that would be a very dramatic yet simple effect allowing you to deviate a little from the norm and make a 'wow' statement. Here's a pic of the kids' bath using the larger format tile set in a brick pattern: Just my $0.02. Hope it helps! -Laura...See MoreAnyone feel like this?
Comments (3)Now, Cheerful1, on a more serious note, yes I have had a problem similar to what you describe off and on for about 10 years. I would go from feeling the worthlessness of depression and extreme anxiety to feeling perfectly fine. Fortunately, the fine lasted much longer than the bad. Now, for the past two years, a milder form of what I would call depression, but not severe, has been the case. It really really bothered me for quite some time. I tried acting like it wasn't there and I tried to keep a stiff chin. I finally got to the point where I had to come to some kind of peace with it. That's not to say that I totally love it, but it has spurred me to search for understanding and acceptance of it. A few months ago, I ran across this book that I never really thought would be that good, but I loved the author's previous book. The book is The Mermaid Chair. It's about a woman having basically a mid-life crisis and what she experiences. I'm sure it's fiction, but the story was so possible, that I found it intriguing. This book led me into doing further reading, not about mid-life problems, but about more serious issues in what I would call the "self-help" area. I have far to go in trying to understand all the dynamics, but it has taught me to be much more accepting of my faults and to even look for the value in them. I no longer despise myself, although I feel bad if I let emotional issues get too out of hand and spout off something that I will regret later. Anyway, alot of it for me is in accepting my faults and even smiling at them from time to time. I hope I'm not sounding too silly, but this is the only way I know to say it. I highly recommend books by Thomas Moore if you have depressive tendencies. He has a religious background, and I am not so, but his books are full of insight that has been very helpful to me. Some of his writing is a little too far-out for me to really jive with, but a couple of his books have been gifts to myself, and I wouldn't do without them. Mrs H...See MoreAnyone else feel like this?
Comments (15)I have walked in your shoes, and here is what I did. First, I joined a mommy and me (child) class and met other moms with a child the same age. Even though the class only met one morning a week, a few of the moms and I would get together with the kids and do things together. It felt so good to talk to other women who were going through the same things I was and we talked about all sorts of things. We would go to the park and talk, or meet at each others houses. We would go for walks together just to get out of the house, or get together at a McDonalds to let them play in the balls. We met each others husbands and would get together and barbecue. Some of those friendships have now lasted years as we have each gone on to have more children who attended preschool together (get on waiting lists now) and now the kids are in gradeschools, and several of us are still friends. Even those that went on to other schools and built new friendships...we still keep in touch and are there for each other if needed. As for alone time, we all need some! What we were advised was to get someone to watch the child one evening a week for a short time...like 1 1/2- 2 hours while my husband and I went out and got a bite to eat...just the two of us. Wednesday is great for this since it is mid week. Then perhaps on Saturday mornings, your husband could spend time with his daughter, while you go out to breakfast with your friends, or go get a haircut or work out at a gym. Also, if you have family who can watch your daughter on a Saturday night, it will do you both good to maintain "date night" with your husband. Even a quick movie or dinner can refresh us and give us energy to be better parents. Also, many churches have something called "mothers morning out" and they will watch your child for free. In exchange for the free childcare, like once every 6 weeks, you have to volunteer at the church to help watch the little ones on one of the mornings. The moms who take advantage of this program all take turns. Some towns also have Gymboree made expecially for moms of toddlers...it is an indoor place that has many climbing things for toddlers....it may be set up in a church somewhere in your town, or it may be a permanent business in a shopping plaza, but they also can be a great place to be with a toddler to "get out of the house" and meet other moms with toddlers looking for friends with children the same age, just like you. You will find how important these new friendships are because you are going through many of the same things at the same time with children the same age. They become very important for sharing all sorts of information. Through these friendships, you will build a life that is much more enjoyable. You need these friendships, especially if you do not have family in the area. Also, have a toddler seat put on the back of your bike and take your little one our for bike rides. you both will enjoy the change in scenery and the fresh air. You could also consider a jogging stroller and roller blades for more excercise. Watch the papers (classified) and garage sales as these often show up for sale when someones child outgrows them...we sold ours this way. And last, with a toddler who is having a tantrum...sometimes, by just putting the child in a stroller and going for a walk can help enormously. The fresh air and change of scenery can do wonders. Another thing that helps a cranky little one is letting them splash in cool water. It captures their attention and is very entertaining for them. Just watch them very closely. you can give them some measuring cups, plastic cups etc. Water can be an enormous help to distract them. Another huge help can be to play music and dance with them, or march and give her something to play like the musical triangle, or clickers or something, and march and dance around the house to gether to the music. And last...remember that naps are really important for her. They get tired and cranky, and it helps mom too. The days can be long but the years are sooo short. I wish you the best!...See More- 6 years ago
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