I haven't wanted to post this, but I'm having an absolutely horrible time with our build. I feel like crying and screaming hysterically today and just crawling into a hole somewhere and telling myself everything is fine. Everything seems to be so much out of my control and our builder is so incompetent that nothing gets done when it should.
The end result is I feel like I'm losing my sanity. I'm not kidding. This horrific build, on top of the other terrible stuff in my life recently, has pushed me to the breaking point. I hope that by sharing maybe you guys can help me calm down.
Here's the deal. We were supposed to be out of our (crappy) rental house by March 15. We just found that out in late January. They're tearing it down to build a school. The landlord told me that on the phone, but didn't give written notice, so I pushed it. I waited and gave her 30-day written notice on March 1. She was really annoyed that I pushed it, but the school board met and discussed it and agreed we could stay the extra two weeks. (They did cash my rental check for March and they didn't give written notice as per the lease, so it wasn't as if they could legally throw us out.) But that means March 31 is it. We must be out by then and there's nowhere else to go with our three big dogs and cat unless we put them in a kennel and move in with my mom or temporary housing. So March 31. That's it. House must be done by then. My dear stepdad is dealing with terminal cancer, so I really don't want to impose upon my mom by moving in and you can't really get an apartment for just a month or two. (and yes, that's another stress, watching my mom and wonderful stepdad deal with cancer. he has been undergoing chemo nearly non-stop for two years after his colon cancer metastisized.)
Here are the reasons why it probably won't be done by then, even though our contract states 180 days, which is February 23, as the delivery date. And even though our builder told our bank that he'd deliver on March 21.
First of all, I found out two weeks ago that the front foyer window was crooked. Absolutely off-center. It was only 11/16" off, so it wasn't apparent until the walls were painted and trim installed to show the difference. I had our builder pull it out and redo. That was obviously a big deal considering the house was painted and trim installed at that point. But it was done and that has been fixed. And our builder had the nerve to say that technically it was our responsibility to pay for the fix since I had signed off on the framing. Well, I signed off on the framing to approve brick to be laid, but I didn't get up and personally measure the two-story foyer window (hey, there's an argument for ashley against two-story foyers!) Heck, he's the builder. he should have made sure the dang windows were straight! luckily, that window had hardie-board on the outside, not brick, so that was fixable, too.
That's not the big problem, even though it added tons of stress to my life. The big problem, the mother of all problems, is the leak in our breakfast room. I discovered it a couple of weeks ago after the room was painted and the ceilings finished and then it took our builder five days to even go take a look at it (after he lied for several days saying he'd sent roofers and they'd fixed it that week as he personally supervised. a complete and utter lie on his part.)
So, the builder ripped out the drywall and ceiling to remove the wet insulation and the room has been sitting like that for a week now. He finally went over Tuesday with a hose to find the cause of the leak, whether it was the roof over the bay-style window in the breakfast room or the brick above it where it met up with the breakfast room roof. Turns out the brick layer put weep holes in the brick with those little white cotton wicks and the water was seeping through there and pouring into the ceiling.
So the bricklayer is the one responsible. It took our builder three days to get the guy to return to the site to see the leak and fix it. Well, I say three days and that's only if he appears today as he's supposed to do.
The problem is, time is ticking away, fast and furious, toward March 31. Say the brick guy actually comes today (which I highly doubt.) He stuffs mortar in those holes today, then the builder wants to let the mortar cure "a couple of days." That means he can test for leaks again on Monday. If fixed, he can get the drywall guy to return on Tuesday, which takes what, a couple of days to drywall and mud and sand a room? Or more, since you have to let the mud dry before sanding? So that means that the painter can't return until, say, Friday at the earliest. And that means the hardwood guys can't start sanding and staining our floor until Monday. And our builder says it takes five days for the floors, which means the floors won't be ready until Friday. That is Friday, March 23 we're talking about at this point. And then there is still all the other stuff that must be done, such as bringing in appliances, final electric work, inspections, closing of the loan, etc.
We'd only have one measly week, Monday, March 26 through Friday, March 30, to get that done. And that's if everything goes exactly on the schedule I list above. Which I don't see happening.
This is why I want to cry in huge, gulping sobs and just shut out the world. I am borderline hysterical today, but no one knows it. I'm very calm on the exterior and no one knows how anxiety-ridden I am inside. This build is the most frustrating, joyless experience I have ever had.
I don't know if anyone saw my post on another thread about what money we wasted on the build, but I said our builder's 15%. It's because he is truly the worst builder I think we could have ever found. I end up having subs finding my number in the phone book and calling me because they can't reach our builder. They have each said that it's the first time they've worked with him and he doesn't return their calls for a week or two on end and then they start to worry that they'll never get paid and then, as has been the case with two of them that I know of, they've finally walked off the job and quit work until he calls them back and then he calls them up, cussing and screaming at them (they told me that part) until they tell him that's it, they're quitting the job and leaving permanently. Then, they say, the builders sweet wife calls them up and begs them to come back, that they'll only have to deal with her, not her husband, until their job is done.
We've also figured out that it's the first time that so many of them have worked for him because the other subs all break up with him as soon as they finish a job. For instance, our painter said he should have realized there were several red flags when the builder called him two days before painting was to begin on our house and asked him for a quote. He said on a house our size it was really bizarre for him to not have a painter already. We told him that there was a painter, that we'd met him, but obviously something happened because that guy quit two days beforehand. Two of the subs have told us that our builder is the biggest liar they've ever met. That they've worked in this city for 20 yrs and never met anyone like him before and that with all the good builders out there looking for work, how in the world did we end up with him? one person even asked us if we found him on the internet and hired him sight unseen. it's that bad. I won't even get into all the reasons why we hired him, other than the fact that he and his dad did an excellent sales job on us and promised they'd be avaiable 100% of the time on the phone and that they returned calls instantly. Then his dad, who is the good guy, disappeared and has been building another house and isn't around our site at all. I think this is the first project his son has done alone and it's really a disaster.
We've had several subs, who haven't been pushed to the point of walking off the job, tell us that they still can't believe how bad of a builder the guy is, that they've never seen someone who doesn't show up on the jobsite to check on work each day. I think our builder has gone 2-3 weeks before without going to our jobsite. Heck, it took him five days to show up after I told him we had major water damage in our breakfast room! And he lives just 10 minutes away.
He has also cussed and screamed at my husband, over that incident where we hired the professional engineer last November, if anyone remembers that circus. So we've seen his temper. My husband has me do all the dealings with him when there are issues because he knows that he'll lose it and fire the builder if he ever says one more inappropriate thing to him. And the builder at least speaks to me relatively politely since I'm a woman.
He told my husband once that he had spent time in jail because he lost his temper and that since then, he's learned to control it. Interesting that he considers screaming and cussing at homeowners and subs as controlling his temper.
Anyway...that's why I'm about to lose it myself. Oh, and I woke up with a severe migraine this morning and spent the morning throwing up. Any wonder, with all of this going on?
For your potentially horrified interest, here are a couple of pics of what our breakfast room looks like right now:
and here is the off-center window that I was supposedly supposed to have figured out on my own in the framing stage:
See why I feel like crying and screaming? This March 31 deadline is making me so stressed. Our builder has known of the earlier, March 15 deadline, since January, but he still has let the house sit empty for up to a week at a time with no subs on site. Now he accuses me of pushing him when he's "doing everything in his power to get us in the house" (his words) but what about those many days (such as the five days where he didn't show up to even look at the leak) when the house just sat?
Oh, and edited to say, I'm going to KILL mr. peanut on the pop-up ad on this site! I hate that little jerk and that stupid song. same goes for that awful wheat thins commercial. I swear I will never buy another mr. peanut or wheat thins product EVER!
(See? I really am losing it!)
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