You've received good advice, you do need to think past the disagreement you were having and realize that you would have most certainly made up. The idea of writing a letter is a good one. My daughter was 13 when she died 2 1/2 years ago and she is survived by a sister 4 years older as well. My other daughter also went through some guilt of feeling like she wasn't the best big sister she could be, but has realized really how much they loved each other and that minor recent disagreements really didn't matter anymore. You won't lose memories of her......but her death is so recent you need to be kind to yourself. Lean into your grief and let yourself cry when you need to, don't rush it and don't minimize your feelings or allow anyone else to either. The holidays coming up will be hard and if you decide to do something, plan ahead but try not to be too elaborate about it and be willing to back out of your plans if you get to those days and you can't handle it. Also, you might want to try something to honor your sister during the holiday season, donate to or volunteer for her favorite cause. Something I've heard of but haven't tried is writing letters to our loved ones, reading them on Christmas Day but leaving them in something like a stocking till the following year. Then you can get them out and read them a year later and see how much you've grown during the year. Angela

This sister is not the one with weight issues. In fact she is a beautiful girl. But I know she has some self esteem issues. She is on meds for anxiety because she has social anxiety. And she gets mad real quick. She is always mad at at least one sister. Her latest is that she is mad at one of my sisters for being friends with her bf on facebook. Even though her and her bf hung around my other sis and her bf everyday for weeks and they all became friends my sister was mad at her sis and bf for being on eachothers friend list! Its insane.

I am wondering how old all of you are? just curious..I have two step sisters we are all in our early 30's. About 10 years ago my step dad had a retirement party where the younger step sister got very very drunk and made a scene. Our parents were gone. She was saying this like you and your mom are two peas in a pod..your mom likes you better than us and on and on and on. My mom had a conversation with her shortly after and she told my mom that it bothers her that we talk about our careers (since at the time she didnt have one)..The older step sister and I have never been really close because she is very snoody apearing but, now I realize very insecure. Their mother died when they were teenagers. Fast forward 10 years...she got married last year and asked me to stand up in her wedding. I was not really sure why she was asking me we were not close but, I did not tell her no because she is a very nice person. About 7 months ago I started dating their best friend and we are still together. Since we started seeing each other she now has to tells everyone at every family function how they are the favorite. Mind you we are in our 30 our parents in their 50's and my mom and step could care less about the favorite garbage. I find the whole thing so silly and it shows her insecurity. I have to wonder if it is because my mom is the only mom she has had since her mom died? Anyway, my point that I am trying to make is I think that there is always some competition with families. I know alot of families that have it among sibilings. I do not have this with my bio brother. If your step is the way you say she is..than you are not the only one to know this.. As I said I have 2 sisters. The older one plays these games with her younger sister. My younger sister will rant and rave about her sister. My response??? Why do you let her bother you? Why does your step keep this up? Because she can sense it is bothering you.. Forget about her girlfriend...Once you stop letting it bother you she will get bored... My step will call my mom, step dad and step sister and get them all going.. She never calls me...WHY?? because their is NO reaction here to the nonsense... Just try it for a little while. You will hold the ball in your court you just dont know it. I know you would rather smack her in the head lol...believe me I have been there...a smack is 2.3 seconds from start to finish. Not letting her bother you anymore...PRICELESS!! ok that didnt make sense but, it sounded familar. Please let us know what happens. good luck

Well, Patti, we both had salads at Marie Calendar's because we also knew we would be having PIE too. I had a Chinese chicken salad, and I did not like the salad dressing as it had too much soy sauce in it for my taste. (I love Mimi's Restaurant dresssing for the same salad.) Then we had lemon sour cream pie and it was delish! On top of it all, we had a coupon for 1/2 price on one of our salads! We had lots to talk about since my sister wanted my help in selecting what she will be wearing to our future daughter-in-law's shower, rehearsal dinner and wedding. So I helped her decide on things a friend gave her to use and on some purchases. Then we shopped in her jewelry box for accessories. She is organized and ready to go. Now I have to get on the ball and organize me too!