I'd do my best to find one you can both be happy about. Neither may get their first choice, but both should get something they reasonably like. My dh has had very few things he cares about and it is hard to predict which item will hit him one way or the other. I ask his opinion all the time and he often seems to want me to just go ahead without him, however, I went to the fabricator and chose the master bathroom faucet to be offset to the left side of our vessel sink and he absolutely hates it. I had no idea he'd care either way. Since we are not broke, he has to deal with it at least long enough until we can afford a new vanity top. I suspect he will get used to it and it won't bug him, but counters are larger and more noticeable. I also did not do something he hated intentionally. I mean, I intended for the faucet to be placed where it was, but had no intention to do something he hates or even that it would register on his radar. That is why I continue to run things by him because no matter how his eyes may glaze over sometimes, and he may say to do what I want, when it comes down to it, he does have opinions about house stuff sometimes. I also agree that if you have made most of the decisions on the reno, you may want to give him this one. You may not go with his first choice of stone, but if that were true, I'd try to get one close to it that I could live with. The one he picked is not my cup of tea at all, but I could probably use it to find one close enough for him and yet still be better if I were going to have to see it every day. One to consider might be Yellow River granite. It is not so far from what he likes, but has more movement and is more interesting. I'd also take a peek at Bardiglio, which is a marble, but is primarily gray with black and white in it. It would get away from the green he does not like and lighten up the soapstone that you do like. The quartzites would also be on the top of the list to consider. They are lighter than you want, but there is no green and they could still be better than the one he chose to you. Just don't order anything until you are both getting enough of what you want to not resent the choice. It is not worth the annoyance and disappointment to have someone "win" if it makes the other "lose".

I have the suede finish in Silestone, White Zeus extreme. I love it, but after living with it for 3 months, I notice that it can stain easily if spills are not wiped up right away. Does any one know what is a good cleaning product to use? They caution against using cleaners with bleach. Any ideas? The stains I have are not obvious ones, but I can tell they are there.

Thank you, everyone, for this post. I read all of it. My kitchen is still in the state of being renovated but mostly finished. I did my homework on granite before I okay'ed it (Joseph..I about fell out of my seat when I read your message about the "man of the house". That has been my issue with my guy giving the ok 😂). Anywho...I'm having both problems here. Parts of my counter are darker where items have been sitting and vice-versa. I didn't take the granite guys word on anything except to seal it monthly (they were the subcontractors for the local kitchen remodel company). The company my guy hired SUCKS!! I've had to fix many F-ups of theirs and F-ups on the granite, too. I went ahead and bought a kit (StonePro) to resurface my granite. This is the second time I'm doing it when I ran across the dark spot. I am thinking it was the original sealant as it is kinda far back and I'm kinda short so I may have not gotten it properly the first time. My random orbital kinda gets "stuck" where the dark place is. I'm going to go over it again and if that doesn't work...I have 20 and 30 vol. developers I'll give a whirl. 🤞

Actually a bit of an update on this. We went to a bunch of showhomes on the weekend. A couple of thoughts. 1. The 48" between the stove counter and island is overkill for us. We could live with 42" but i think we will be at 44". 2. I was so adamant about a 15" overhang as per all the websites but we found 12" is perfectly fine for a counter height island overhang. We may go 13" or 14" tops. 3. I am a little worried about the length of our island. The counter will actually be 86 3/4" with a 1 inch overhang contrary to my plan. The side of the island is 32" from the kitchen table. Not ideal but not terrible either. BUT if we go for a smaller width cabinet next to the sink (say 21" or even 18") then i worry the island won't look symmetrical. ARGH. 4. I feel the depth at 56" is too big. I liked the 48" depth and could live with 50" or 52". 5. The cabinet place suggested back to back cabinets so a depth of 24" cabinet + 12" cabinet + 12" overhang = 49" countertop depth or perhaps 24" + 16" + 12" overhang = 53" countertop depth or 24" + 12" + 14" = 51" countertop depth. 6. On the side of the island, do i go with a 1" overhang or 0.5" overhang? Any additional thoughts would be greatly appreciated.