I am in awe of your courage, Jasdip. Hugs and prayers for you and your dear husband.

Thinking of you.

sending prayers, strength, peace and a great big hug., so sorry you are both going through this...

You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs and prayers

Sue

It sounds like the hospice turned out to be for the best. There will be people to care for you both through this end. Prayers.

I'm a fan of yours jasdip. You cooked wonderful food and I have some of those recipes. I can picture you and your husband. Did I see a picture? And a cat too. Anyway, I hyperventilate for you. I thought you and hubby had figured out a great partnership. Equal partners. You have been a star on this page every time I slip back in. I don't want this for you at all. I hope and I will continue to hope that you'll be able to handle this better than you think. It's in our DNA to face this stuff somehow. I'm sticking close to this page to take care of you With your friends. Write when you can sweet woman. Kisses to your husband too.

Sounds like you arrived at the best decision for both of you. I'm glad he agreed to the move. God bless.

Keeping both of you in my prayers at this difficult time.

Sounds like you found the right thing to do for you and your DH. Sending prayers and hugs.

Hugs

So sorry Jasdip. Comforting thoughts to both of you.

Jas, I don't have the words you need but know you and your husband are in my thoughts and Prayers.

((((HUGS))))

Jasdip, what you are doing is exactly what my DH and I have planned on doing, if one of us becomes terminally ill. Neither of us want to unexpectedly find the other has passed, and be alone, (like you mentioned) so hospice care at the end is our choice as well. I wish your DH a peaceful and painless passing, and wish you an ample source of support from family and friends, afterwards. You and your DH are in our hearts, during this difficult time.

(((jasdip and hubs))) I've been thinking about you. I'm with you in my heart.

You and your husband are in our thoughts. Hospice is a really wonderful place, and they will be there for you and DH with whatever you need.

I just got a call from Hospice, and they've seen changes in him today.

I spent the night in his room in the recliner last nite, and was planning to go back this afternoon for the day and night again.

Please pray for a safe passage for my dear Tom.

Jasdip, may your precious husband Tom have a peaceful passage when his time arrives. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself, also.

On another thread, someone asked what songs you listen to. I posted this as one of my favorites. The hope is that the words will make you feel better. He's singing a brand new song.

I am praying for you and your Tom.

Yes, you've given each other strength all these years and will do it again. Strength over strength for what each of you need.

Jasdip, you will find an inner strength you didn't know you had as you see your beloved Tom through his journey down this path that neither of you want him to take. I hope you find comfort in knowing that his days in hospice were peaceful and that so many of us here are holding you in our thoughts today and in the days to come.

May your dear Tom have a gentle and peaceful passing and also wishing for you peace during this transition and in the days to come.

Thinking of you and Tom, wishing you peace, and strength in the ways you need.

Thinking of both of you. May you find the peace you need.

Peace to you and your husband.

Prayers continue for both of you. Sending gentle hugs your way.

Jasdip - may you find peace. ((Hugs))

Take care, Jasdip. Peace and comfort for you both.

I'll pray for both of you. May you both find peace.

You and Tom are in my prayers.

Having worked in a nursing home for several years, death is something that I have found to be a release for the family.

Once, I was in a room with a gent as his life was ending. His wife and two of his sons were there. What made it special for me is that his three sons had the same names as my three sons. Bob died peacefully as I looked on and one of his sons said to me, OK dad, thanks for being here.

Jasdip, May you and Tom find peace and comfort. Hugs to you.

I just want to put this little thing out there: many people choose to pass when loved ones are not in the room. If this happens, please don't feel badly as it is common. Tom knows you're there with him most of the time and that you love him dearly.

Thinking of you, emotionally exhausted...and grieving before and after he passes. It's draining, then the void is so infinite. (At least it was for me when my DM died at the end of a long illness.)

(((((Jasdip and Tom)))))

Jasdip - you and Tom are both in my thoughts. I saw the picture of him on the other thread and the picture showed a lovely, nice-looking man. I wish for a peaceful passing for him

Jasdip, This is the 1st time I've been to the KT in ages and this is the 1st post I opened! Please know you & Tom are both in my Thought & Prayers. (I have been where you are)

I'm sending good thoughts and offering prayers that peace may fill the hearts of both of you at this trying time.ed

I'd thought of writing a few days ago when you referred to the situation, offering to come if you'd like.baker

I expect that at present I'd just be in the way ... but can come if you'd like me to.8829

You can message me @gmail.com, using the three-part address uninterruptedly as shown at the end of the earlier sentences.

Or 519

May you find these last days and hours together a time of blessing, peace and love.642

((((((((((((((((((Jasdip and Tom ... plus family)))))))))))))))))).1133 ... son's number: leave a message.

Love you.

ole joyful

Beautiful message joyfulguy.

I know my posting doesn't matter to anyone, and that's ok. Just wanted to send you a hug and let you know, along with a lot of others, how sorry I am. I

could have almost written your posting several years ago. Everything you

wrote pretty much fit my DH. He was only 57 when we lost him. He was

a workaholic and always put off going to the Dr., etc. When he was finally

forced to go, it was too late. He did go through the Radiation, meds, etc.,

for almost 2 years before he left us. Please, everyone....please....get your

DH, brothers, sons, male friends, etc., to have this Medical checkup. It is not just an old man's disease, like some seem to think, either. It

is a curable type of cancer if caught early. Saying prayers for Jasdip and

family for comfort and coping....and all who have gone through the beating

that Cancer does to us. A couple of Widow/Widower sites help me a lot. They

are out there, if you need them. They helped me to accept that it doesn't

get better...but does get easier with time. Hugs.

Uptown Gal - Your post does matter. Thank you!

Uptown Gal, I agree with Summer - of course your posting matters. I'm sorry for the loss of your dear husband.

Yes, your post does matter. It could encourage some wife, sister or mother to encourage her loved one to have a check up.

It was also too late for my husband. He died last December after four years of pain, stents, chemo and radiation that did nothing.

I'm so sorry to read this. I know just how hard it is to watch a parent suffer like this but I think it must be 100 times worse to watch a spouse decline. My sympathies for you. It's so hard on your body and your heart, I hope you're able to take care of yourself in some small ways, Jasdip. Big hugs.

we are with you Jasdip in heart and mind. Im praying for a pain free peaceful passing for your beloved husband. And im praying for strength and peace for you. What you have to deal with, ugh, it's just so damn hard.

((((Sherry)))) call Ed.

Uptown Gal, yes your post does matter. If it encourages but one person who reads it to get a sognificant person in their life to get a regular checkup, no matter what their age, it is worth repeating.

My DH’s favorite youngest brother passed away 8 years ago of kidney cancer at 50 because he ignored symptoms. He lived alone and was full of regrets after his diagnosis. I don’t know how many times we heard him say, ‘I should have (fill in the blank)’.

Thinking of you every day, Sherry!

Any news from Jasdip?

Yes maggie...I guess you missed it:

https://www.gardenweb.com/discussions/5532464/hubby-passed-this-morning#n=163