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Comments (11)New evidence is coming out that sunscreens are not actually protective. They screen the rays UVB that cause sunburn but allow the rays that cause cancers, UVA, to penetrate. I personally don't wear any sunscreen at all and am out for hours every day. What I do is stay out of the sun during the high radiation time, say noon to 4 pm. I arrange my day to work earlier and then as much time as possible between 4 pm and dark, 9:30 pm at present. Dr. Mercola has a lot of info on his site. Sunscreens also block Vitamin D formation in the skin, which is very important as Vit. D is protective against skin cancer, and an article I read recently said may be protective against childhood autism, which may be fostered by lack of sunshine/Vit. D formation, as parents think they have to protect their kids from the sun and slather them with sunscreens or stay indoors. They also should be out without ss in the low radiation parts of the day....See Moreoff topic -- no good deed goes unpunished...
Comments (8)GGG -- That's a really good idea! I have a notebook with those plastic, looseleaf sheets for organizing 3x5 or 4x6 photos. They are about the right size for storing plant tags. (Although Monrovia ones have to be cut off at the bottom a little to fit.) If I get a lousy tag with very little detail from wherever, I still put it in there (so I can remember where I bought the plant), but I try to go online and print out whatever details I find there. Then, I fold it and put it behind the tag in the plastic sheet. It's not very pretty, but for most of the plants in my yard, I have some info. I also have a section for fertilizers I've used in the past. It is hard to remember the formula I like for a particular kind of plant (and I can never remember which number of the three is which). Walter Reeves has some kind of Saturday Night Fever dance that he uses to show people how to remember the numbers, but I still can't recall it when I need to! :)...See MoreOT - Neighbors Shining Lights
Comments (47)Moonshadow: I checked out that website (NFB -Neighbors from H***). I only looked at one thread but there was one person who described their NFH as not liking their boat parked outside her daughter's window, between their houses, and another who described their NFH as not liking their 6 sets of windchimes. I'm not sure who the NFH really are in these scenarios. One thread does not a board make, but I don't disagree. Used to read some threads there too that makes me question who the real issue was. (And saw others call some posters out on that very thing.) But that was the exception, not the rule. Many were dealing with genuine problems. And some real nut cases. Which is why I suggested it as potentially helpful. Had that board been around back when we had problems, there are some things we might have done differently or utilized (cameras, for instance). Hard to say, hindsight is 20/20. At the time we had no idea the ride we were in for. I used to read it after a couple in our neighborhood broke up. No one was particularly close to them. We all chatted with them in passing, but it stopped there, no extra socializing. The one who owned the house kicked the other out, got a restraining order, and a stalker was born. In the truest sense of the word. Imbalanced does not begin to describe goings on, and any nearby neighbors were fair game in stalker's attempts to get info. After one particularly disturbing morning, I went into the police department to get advice from an officer. DH and a few others wanted to punch the moron's lights out. They got away with so much, always just thisclose to being caught or being able to prove it was them. That person made quite a few lives miserable for a couple years, and we weren't even the real target. The remaining neighbor being stalked eventually left in the middle of the night. Just disappeared. And a couple days later the house was on the market. That didn't end it, things escalated (suppose it infuriated the stalker). But they finally ceased. No one ever would have suspected this of an articulate, intelligent, well-educated professional. My point is, you just never know who has issues and what will set them off. No one should ever be a 'victim' in their own home or on their own property, but it absolutely pays to proceed with caution and if the law gets involved, credibility counts....See MoreWe will see if no good deed really goes unpunished....
Comments (8)It's really nice what you've done mom2emall, hopefully it helps BM. Sounds like you already made the decision but your post has been on my mind so I'll still put my 2 bob in :-) You're right, it's better to stay neutral with BM rather then befriending her. There's every change that that would put you in the middle of BM's drama and that's not good for the kids, simple as that. The kids need you and that is your primary concern, so it's better to keep BM at a distance. My experience with people like this is that they take advantage of you, even if they don't do it with bad intentions. It's just the only way they know. They'll lean on you, unload on you, drain you of your energy. This is how they cope with their drama. BM might show up at your place one night after a fight with BF, imagine what that would do with the kids. You just can't afford to take the risk. You're home is their stable and safe place. You've done a nice thing, I hope BM is encouraged to take some action :-)...See More- 9 years agolast modified: 9 years ago
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