Are families with all children of same sex, more common now?
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please no more sex!!!!!!!
Comments (29)Taralee, it's obvious you haven't been reading my posts very clearly. Any tenant who disturbs another by making an unreasonable amount of noise needs to be reprimanded. Someone who does this deliberately needs to be evicted. A woman who used to live on the first floor here was unusually sensitive to sound (as well as inordinately stuck on herself). She complained constantly that residents shut the front door too loudly, stomped up and down the inside stairs, banged their car doors in the parking lot, let kids talk too much. When she first moved in, she griped about the couple above her having sex. Then they moved out and a new guy moved in. She claimed he raised his voice while on the telephone just to annoy *her*, and that he flushed his toilet right when he *knew* she'd be going to bed, etc. She went so far as to actually cut the phone line leading to the neighbor's apartment because she said *he* needed to be taught a lesson! (She also put poison on the tree outside her window to try and kill it, because she wanted more light.) This woman wanted management to make the perfect climate that suited *her*, ignoring the fact that someone else paid perfectly good rent to use his telephone, flush his toilet, etc. also; and that every other tenant who went in and out the front door was not being rude--just living here! When we first moved in, the guy on the other side of our kitchen came over and demanded we not make any noise in our kitchen after 8 PM, as he liked to lounge in his bed watching TV or whatnot and didn't wish to be disturbed. When I asked why he didn't just move his bed off the wall on the other side of our sink, he said the furniture "flowed better" that way and didn't want to move it. Therefore *we* should not turn our water on or whatever after 8 PM. I answered that I had a young daughter and a husband who worked the midnight shift, and would need access to my kitchen after 8. I offered a compromise of 10 PM, and stuck to it. This didn't satisfy the neighbor, who went to the manager. The manager stood by my compromise, saying I wasn't doing anything unreasonable and was being generous in my offer. (This was the same tenant, BTW, who wanted the guy underneath him evicted for snoring.) He moved out. Since then, there have been two other tenants over there, and I haven't had a single complaint from either of them. They are reasonable neighbors who understand I need to get a drink of water once in a while. I give them the same courtesy, by not getting upset when their relatives come over or they practice their music or watch their big screen TV. I am now assistant manager of the building. I see this from both sides. There are people just not suited to live in apartments--either ones who are too sensitive to anything not being exactly as they want it; or those unwilling to be respectful of other tenants' needs. Both extremes need to find more appropriate living arrangements. How saying all this makes *me* the bad person, I have no idea. But I am more and more thankful to be living where I am, every time I come to this thread....See MoreConsiderations for families with small children
Comments (36)Great post! We are in a similar situation. We have a two year old and four year old and plan to have one more child. We plan for this to be our house until our kids head off to college so we had many of the same concerns in planning. After initially planning all the bedrooms upstairs, we changed to a story and a half plan. We have the master downstairs, with one other bedroom (future nursery). We have two bedrooms upstairs for our boys with a bathroom and enclosed loft (this forum scared me too much about an open loft area!). The upstairs loft will function as a play/homework space for the boys in the future. If we wanted to have all three kids upstairs, we could close it off to make it a third bedroom if we wanted. Our plan is open concept with a playroom off of our great room, which will also function as a den/guest room as the kids get older. It has sliding barn doors that can keep it open to the great room or it can also be closed off (to hide all those toys!). We included a large mudroom off the garage with five lockers/cubbies. We also have a drop zone/desk between that area and the kitchen for keeping school papers, mail, etc. organized. We've opted for hardwood throughout the great room/kitchen/dining. Our builder is doing some distressing to it with the staining process so hopefully any additional wear and tear by our boys and golden retriever will only add to the look....See MoreWhat colleges still offer same sex dorms?
Comments (5)Are you the student or the parent in this situation? Either way, the MOST important thing about chosing a college should be to find the school that offers the best preparation for the career the child wants to pursue. If you're the student, I'd recommend that you discuss your preferences with your guidance counselor. He or she will be able to help you find a school that's right for you. If you're the parent? I'd have to say you're walking on a very dangerous line. When we try to micromanage our grown (and legally, 18 is adult) children's lives, we're likely to completely push them away. Do that enough and they may never find their way back. Also, I refer back to what I said first--getting a good and appropriate education, one that will provide the tools needed to be a success in the field the student wishes to pursue is the really important thing when choosing a school. If you attempt to limit your child to schools that offer same sex dorms, you may close the door to them going to a good school that would offer a much better education. You may find they are so unhappy at school that they don't finish. You may find they resent your rules so much, they will not want anything to do with you. Never forget, the goal of parenting is to make our job obsolete. We teach them when they're young, SO THAT when they are grown they can make good choices on their own, without us directing every decision. I don't know about you, but I do NOT want to still be raising my daughter when she's 40 and I'm 70. Look, if you'd done a good job of teaching your child, they'll do the right thing. And if they don't? Well, making mistakes and learning how to rectify them is also an important part of the learning process....See MoreWould you travel more/less children, or the reverse?
Comments (34)If you wish to have children, its best to have them when you are younger, not older. Besides the biological clock ticking away, there are other pratical considerations. Suppose you are 25 yrs old when the first baby arrives; you'll be 43 when this child is a senior in high school. If you have 2 children 2 years apart, you'll be 45 when the last one is a senior. If you delay the first child for 10 more years, you'll begin the family when you are 35 and will be 55 when the second one is finishing high school. This is unconfortable too close to the retirement years. The second consideration is physical activity. When you are younger, the parents are better able to participate in sports with their children: For example: teaching to catch a ball, bike riding a trail, dancing, and swiming. From my own experience, my dad was 40 yrs old when I was born and he was "an old man" to me while I grew up. Due to normal wear and tear on the body with age and stiff joints, he found it difficult to play catch, etc. We did do many things side-by-side, but it was all work related. The advice about buying a house now is good. Home interest rates will never be lower, and there is an abundance of homes on the market right now. You can have a house and babies too, but it will take planning and adjusting your sights. You may find that you will need to begin with a "starter" house with hopes to later on, graduate to a larger house. You will have to adjust your travel budget. And finally, take a long hard look at your potential earning power over your lifetime to decide, can I afford a child? For the guys, do not dwell on this too much or you'll never be comfortable with the idea of a child in your life. Your income will grow in unexpected ways and sweat equity can lower the cost of owning a home. Learing to do home maintence can lower the cost of ownership and enhance your abilities....See More- 10 years ago
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