Losing an elderly parent
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Comments (39)I see that you already made a decision with your vacuum purchase for your parents, and am glad it is working well for them. I realize you don't need this info, but posting in case helpful to anyone else. I have an Oreck XL 21 that I purchased 9 yrs ago when pregnant (it has 21 annual cleanings/maintenance), but this was when they were still made in US, I believe. Works well, and I love the lightweight aspect and huge bags (they hold lots and lots of dirt/animal hair!), which are easy to change. I also have a small, rechargeable Shark bagless for quick clean-ups for the fall out from my daughter's gerbils, and quick dog/cat hair pickup. Gotta say, I HATE emptying it, and digging out the hair collected in the filters. Have a 15 year old Miele White Star canister too (like many here, I do have a bit of an addiction to vacs). Give us another update after they've been using them for a while. =)...See MoreThings to Do For Elderly Parents When You Visit for the Holidays
Comments (16)I think others covered a lot but you say" over Christmas" so are there beds to be made up, linens to be washed, bathroom to be spruced up, fridge needing to be cleaned out, especially of outdated bottles & food in containers. Cooking for elderly doesn't have to be difficult. I often buy a couple of yams & cook in microwave(wash & poke skin with fork in several places so doesn't explode) when done cool yams & cut in serving size pieces (I remove skin but some like it) & put in sandwich bags(kind that just fold over & put in Ziploc bag & label with date & what is in the bag. I store, yams, green beans, squash, bread stuffing, etc & I never thaw anything out. I make soups & put in small round margarine tubs each holds 1 cup (So leave a little space so doesn't boil over when you make them up)so take lid off to side(so just partly covered) & reheat about 3 1/2 minutes. Chili same way, yams couple of slices about 1 minute(microwaves vary) just add butter to serve. I make a meatloaf in a 9x5 loaf pan & freeze slices in amount I think I will eat in sandwich bags & then in Ziploc bag & can have hot meatloaf sandwich in 1 minute or meatloaf, yams, green beans in about 3 minutes. it's very easy to eat well. Leftover steak from eating out, bring it home & pkg it in sandwich bags & in Ziploc bag for 1 or2 meals in few days. Couldn't eat that big baked potato, cut it in sizes you will eat at 1 time & slip in sandwich bags, zip loc bag& freeze, I simply fold over the sandwich bags or twist & fold over before putting in freezer Ziploc bags. Can use cheaper Zip loc type bags or wash & reuse, throw out the sandwich bags after food is heated. Use Sharpie pen to label Zip loc bags & use up foods in couple of months to 6 months. Spaghetti mixed with sauce & meat, macaroni, casseroles, scalloped potatoes & ham, all freeze great in single serving sandwich bags & reheat in microwave in about 3-4 minutes at most. I did this for my folks for years. If you can't cook & like something like hamburger helper made it up & freeze. I cook chicken breasts & use half of them for sandwiches & rest becomes chicken soup, so make ways to make it, with noodles, rice, cook bag of mixed veggies up in microwave & add whole thing including water you cooked veggies in &add seasonings, can add low sodium tomatoes from can of tomato sauce, mushrooms from can or barley etc. Lots of choices. Anyway hope you are well armed with ideas to make things go smoother. Merry Christmas to All!...See MoreElderly Parents
Comments (37)I realize this comment is a bit off topic, but the conversation has touched upon this issue of having parents clean out their houses themselves before they check out of this mortal coil. I am a bit mystified by this new requirement we are placing on our parents. I come from a family that keep their houses and possessions in fairly meticulous order, so that may color my thinking. However, even if my parents did live in more cluttered houses, I cannot understand the need to torture people over their possessions. Are we asking our elderly to clean out their houses so they can quietly dig their own graves? If you come from a family where people are untidy and collect too much stuff, so be it. You can offer to help clean up and if the offer is refused, then you cope with the issue once the time comes. Did your parents ask you to clean up after your diapers and projectile vomiting? Did your parents refuse to launder your clothes or help you move from place to place as you grew older and went away to school and got your first jobs? Were you left to fend for yourself (my husband was, so I know it happens), but it is relatively rare. What I think happens is that our parents refuse to live as we wish. They refuse to accept our dearly held beliefs about the value of stuff and perhaps more importantly the value of our time, and so we become self-righteous and demand that they divest themselves of things that hold meaning for them and rob them of the last vestiges of control they have over their lives as their health fails. I think that is a terrible way to treat our families. Now, with respect to the actual question at hand, Cookie, I don't think you can help your parents out of this situation. They have built their lives this way and you can only help pick up the pieces once they fall- you cannot help keep the pieces from falling prematurely. Advocate for your father to get some help and have rest and relaxation. He should not suffer more for your mother's choices....See MoreSafest railing options for elderly parent
Comments (0)My father recently fell and broke his hip. Currently, the only way for him to get to the toilet is walking up three stairs with only one grab bar. We need to install dual free standing railings to make it safer (ie: they will only be attached at the door frame, no walls on either side). Any thoughts as to why one type of railing is safer than another? Wood vs metal system? I’m leaning towards a metal system just for aesthetics but couldn’t find any safety info on railings in general....See Moreeld6161
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