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Comments (39)I see that you already made a decision with your vacuum purchase for your parents, and am glad it is working well for them. I realize you don't need this info, but posting in case helpful to anyone else. I have an Oreck XL 21 that I purchased 9 yrs ago when pregnant (it has 21 annual cleanings/maintenance), but this was when they were still made in US, I believe. Works well, and I love the lightweight aspect and huge bags (they hold lots and lots of dirt/animal hair!), which are easy to change. I also have a small, rechargeable Shark bagless for quick clean-ups for the fall out from my daughter's gerbils, and quick dog/cat hair pickup. Gotta say, I HATE emptying it, and digging out the hair collected in the filters. Have a 15 year old Miele White Star canister too (like many here, I do have a bit of an addiction to vacs). Give us another update after they've been using them for a while. =)...See MoreThings to Do For Elderly Parents When You Visit for the Holidays
Comments (16)I think others covered a lot but you say" over Christmas" so are there beds to be made up, linens to be washed, bathroom to be spruced up, fridge needing to be cleaned out, especially of outdated bottles & food in containers. Cooking for elderly doesn't have to be difficult. I often buy a couple of yams & cook in microwave(wash & poke skin with fork in several places so doesn't explode) when done cool yams & cut in serving size pieces (I remove skin but some like it) & put in sandwich bags(kind that just fold over & put in Ziploc bag & label with date & what is in the bag. I store, yams, green beans, squash, bread stuffing, etc & I never thaw anything out. I make soups & put in small round margarine tubs each holds 1 cup (So leave a little space so doesn't boil over when you make them up)so take lid off to side(so just partly covered) & reheat about 3 1/2 minutes. Chili same way, yams couple of slices about 1 minute(microwaves vary) just add butter to serve. I make a meatloaf in a 9x5 loaf pan & freeze slices in amount I think I will eat in sandwich bags & then in Ziploc bag & can have hot meatloaf sandwich in 1 minute or meatloaf, yams, green beans in about 3 minutes. it's very easy to eat well. Leftover steak from eating out, bring it home & pkg it in sandwich bags & in Ziploc bag for 1 or2 meals in few days. Couldn't eat that big baked potato, cut it in sizes you will eat at 1 time & slip in sandwich bags, zip loc bag& freeze, I simply fold over the sandwich bags or twist & fold over before putting in freezer Ziploc bags. Can use cheaper Zip loc type bags or wash & reuse, throw out the sandwich bags after food is heated. Use Sharpie pen to label Zip loc bags & use up foods in couple of months to 6 months. Spaghetti mixed with sauce & meat, macaroni, casseroles, scalloped potatoes & ham, all freeze great in single serving sandwich bags & reheat in microwave in about 3-4 minutes at most. I did this for my folks for years. If you can't cook & like something like hamburger helper made it up & freeze. I cook chicken breasts & use half of them for sandwiches & rest becomes chicken soup, so make ways to make it, with noodles, rice, cook bag of mixed veggies up in microwave & add whole thing including water you cooked veggies in &add seasonings, can add low sodium tomatoes from can of tomato sauce, mushrooms from can or barley etc. Lots of choices. Anyway hope you are well armed with ideas to make things go smoother. Merry Christmas to All!...See MoreHow to plan logistics in advance for an elderly parent?
Comments (37)I've dealt with handling affairs for a dying friend who left us his estate, and we are in the midst of dealing with my MIL who has dementia. Just a few thoughts: -Power of attorney, even 'durable' etc. is no longer a simple process or document that will easily open access to people's accounts and allow someone to handle financial issues. I suspect most of those who are insisting it's an easy and painless option haven't tried to use one recently :). As mentioned banks don't accept blanket POA docs any more; there have been some legal standards updates in the past few years and they now need to be fairly explicit and detailed as to what is covered and what's not. -Be aware that, as has also been pointed out, with elderly folks life can and often does change in literally a moment. One fall, one illness that spirals into complications, one stroke, and everything that was fine yesterday is now a huge and enormously complicated mess. Or the decline can be a slow process in which the reasonable parent becomes the paranoid mess, utterly convinced that the kids are just trying to steal his/her money. And then there is the parent who is clearly sliding deep into dementia while adamantly insisting he/she is just fine and anyone who says different is simply wrong. For most of us pinning our hopes on the dream that mom or dad will live to be 100+ YO in their own home, competently managing all the activities of daily living until some far off day when s/he goes peacefully to sleep and doesn't wake up is probably not the wisest way to prepare for the future. -Spend some bucks to hire a reputable estate planning attorney. This is one area of life, IMO, in which Google and DIY legal forms are not your friend. A good lawyer is well worth the expense to get things set up right. Elderly folks need to have all the docs mentioned: wills and living wills, medical proxies, power of attorney using *updated forms*, trust documents if appropriate, joint accounts if necessary and so on. In my life, the friend who died left a will, but he was an odd bird who refused to set anything else up legally so probate was a royal mess. It took almost 2 years to get everything finalized and things that I would never have imagined being difficult were ridiculously hard: it took court orders for example to transfer titles for his car and motorcycles and that took months and months and months to complete. My MIL had started showing signs of serious mental decline as I was working on the estate and I pushed my husband and BIL *hard* till they took her in to the same estate attorney and got everything done-trusts, medical permissions, bank account signatories. And sure enough, within 3 months after that she fell, broke several bones and the resulting physical injuries ratcheted the dementia to a level at which she could no longer live safely at home and had to go into assisted living. I can't imagine how difficult it would have been if things weren't in place legally. Then too, the lawyer insisted, as he is legally obligated to do, that my MIL answer and respond indicating she understood what was happening. She was foggy at the time and if we had waited even that few months, regardless of the fall there is no way she would have been legally competent to sign off on the arrangements....See MoreElderly parents almost scammed
Comments (47)Sadly, this just happened to my 83 year old parents on Friday morning and they called to tell me about yesterday after the scammer tried a second attempt. I am so stunned that they fell for this scam and are now out $4000. They were told to get $4000 in Visa gift cards immediately as their grandson "Tommy" was set to appear before a judge at 11:00am, so they went to Best Buy and purchased several cards. The "officer" that called even said that they may be questioned why they are buying so many cards, but to tell Best Buy it is for a friend you are helping out. The officer told them he would be calling them at 10:30am to get the card info. He called right on time and my mom read the numbers and pins on all the cards. She asked if she could talk to her grandson and they put "Tommy" on the phone who kept begging my parents not to call his wife or parents. Apparently he had been in jail for 2 days. My mom said it sounded just like "Tommy" and he even called her "Nana". Second attempt happened yesterday morning when the officer called them again saying that "Tommy's" bail was increased and he needed another $4000. This time my dad wised up and asked to speak to "Tommy". It took about 10 minutes for "Tommy" to come to the phone and my dad asked what is your sister's name (he doesn't have a sister). Tommy kept laughing saying "oh come on you know what her name is, why are you playing these games with me." This went on for a few minutes and "Tommy" hung up. My dad then called the real "Tommy" who was home with his wife and quite stunned by what my dad proceeded to tell him. It makes me sick as I write this, I can't believe my parents fell for it because they know about all these scams, we talk about them quite often and this incident is so not my parents. FYI, "Tommy" is my son and has never been in trouble with the law. My parents feel so embarrassed and upset about what happened, so there was no lecturing from me. I feel bad for them....See More- 6 years ago
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