is there even such thing as "in season" anymore??
10 years ago
Featured Answer
Sort by:Oldest
Comments (22)
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
Related Discussions
So I was planting out a few things this evening...
Comments (2)Ontheteam, if I have anything you might be able to sell, I will gladly send it to you. Trying to sort through to fill two beds at my sister's house first. And there will always be the divisions this fall from overgrown clumps of perennials. On the other hand, do you think you could sell some oak seedlings? I have thousands....See MoreIs it even worth to date anymore?
Comments (5)You have to walk into the situation with your head up, and be aware of all the land mines. The son's attitude. This kind of behavior will destroy your relationship w your gf or wife later. Children will set you up in a triangle, because deep inside they are carrying so much the wish of having that family together. Best if you can wait until he is 18 and out of the house before talking about marriage. Even then, certain serious discussions w your gf to make sure you both can agree on how to deal with the step son's situation like college funding (who is responsible, what sort of help or entitlement, or expectation of the son ...), whether he can stay with her after 18. ect... The son will challenge and test you. You cannot win by dealing with it directly like he is your own son - he is not. So, don't take his bait and you have to take the high road and let the mom deal with him. If he is heading toward disaster, then just let it be and let the bio parents deal with that. You are just a stranger so don't try to a hero. But if they live with you in your world, then you will have to set some boundaries to protect your sanity like chores, safety concerns ... The problem is also w your gf who has ENABLED him to show such a disrespect toward with foul language. She needs to establish (not you) boundaries with him. A child can voice an opinion or displeasure of the task but she/he cannot be disrespectful with curse words toward the parents. That should have some serious consequences. If you gf cannot deal with that, then I think you should begin to walk away because you don't want to or will not break that parent-child bond. All you will hear is guilt and anger and you will be set up to take the bullets from both sides. Parents have their own right of raising their children the way they want, even if that way is bad. Just let them be and accept that as their fate and destiny. If you marry to her then you should move to a new place for both of you, where the son cannot feel a sense of owner of the place, or turf issues. By the way, teenagers have so many problems as they try to grow up and gain independence. One of the key issues I have noticed is like you mention, entitlement or laziness. Guess what, if you are not careful then he will be back at age 18, then 22 then 25, he thinks he can find a place to live and eat for free. You and your gf have to AGREE that you can help him but he has to step up to the plate as well. At certain points, the parent(s) has to cut the cord. There are so many books on blended family out there. Take a quick stop at the local library and you will lots to read. use search like :blended family, boomerang children, how to cut the cord, step wars ......See MoreLetting things go -- nice things I just don't need anymore.
Comments (54)My husband gave me a beautiful string of pearls with a saphire clasp for christmas last year...guess I'm old lady :) But then my newest piece of jewelry is probably 1950 with most of it being 1880's...so perhaps I"m just an old lady at heart :) I love jewelry with history. Sell it and enjoy the vacation...and know that the person who buys it is probably someone like me who will cherish it as much as the original family member of yours did. As to purging...well frankly, I like stuff :oP I love all the stuff ya'll donate to charity because I haunt the goodwill and habitat store looking for it. I use it daily and it makes me feel good. But that said...I rather enjoy purging too, but perhaps that's linked to the fact that I bought a huge house full of someone elses "stuff". I happily donate items to habitat. I like the tax deduction, and I love the feeling of doing something positive for a charity I support. I also do put things outside with a "free" sign (because I think it's cute how people will take ANYTHING!...no one does that in Alaska) but most of those are children's things (which must be taken during school hours so DS does not see it LOL). That reminds me...I have a slide for free to put out tomorrow when he's napping LOL My one hoarded...hang on, I don't know, thing is my son's cloths and cloths I purchased for a set of twins we lost. I thought we were going to adopt or have another child and now that we've give up on that I have to open the boxes. I have literally dozens of large boxes full of lovely cloths, regular stuff, and brand new things for the babies we expected. I know I have to get to that stuff...it takes up a huge amount of space, both physically and emotionally, but I haven't quite gotten into the zone to be able to do that one. Maybe we should make a pledge...those of us who have some purging to do...I'm peronally going to get through those cloths and give them to someone who needs them within the first quarter of 2011. Jak...maybe you should empty the barn by then LOL Ok that's probably asking too much heh heh...See MoreThings you can't buy anymore: 100% wool coat
Comments (17)LL Bean, Peruvian Connection, Talbot's and Garnet Hill all have 100% wool coats, so do the better department stores, at least in the northeast, but really, check your local thrift shops, I have (hangs head in shame) about 10 winter coats from thrift shops, all good brands; Pendalton, Lord & Taylor, Woolrich, J. Crew, department store brands and a J. Peterman (remember their wacky catalogs? lovely coat tho), some are truly vintage, some just used. You likely aren't going to get Chanel or Hermes level stuff t, but sturdy, warm and stylish coats can be had at local thrift shops, my favorite haunt charges $5 for coats, which makes them hard to resist....See More- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years agolast modified: 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
- 10 years ago
Related Stories

DINING ROOMSBenches: Not Just for Picnics Anymore
Add Character and Clean Lines with a Stylish Bench at the Table
Full Story
HOLIDAYS10 Things to Do Early for an Easier Holiday Season
Make a gift list and check supplies twice, then ensure that the house looks nice, and buy travel tickets if you’re leaving town
Full Story
GARDENING GUIDESGet a Head Start on Planning Your Garden Even if It’s Snowing
Reviewing what you grew last year now will pay off when it’s time to head outside
Full Story
GARDENING AND LANDSCAPING11 Ways to Make Your Sleeping Porch Even Better
Turn off that air conditioner and tune in to the delights of slumbering in the nighttime breeze
Full Story
REMODELING GUIDESHow to Protect (Even Enhance!) Your Relationship While Renovating
No home improvement project is worth a broken heart. Keep your togetherness during a remodel with this wise advice
Full Story
HOUZZ TVHouzz TV: This Dream Midcentury Home in a Forest Even Has Its Own Train
Original wood ceilings, a cool layout and, yes, a quarter-scale train persuaded these homeowners to take a chance on a run-down property
Full Story
GARDENING AND LANDSCAPINGLight Your Patio, Extend Your Evening
Cast a magical spell on a summer night with decorative outdoor lighting as sleek or as rustic as you please
Full Story
PETSHere’s How to Show Your Pet Even More Love
February 20 is Love Your Pet Day. Find all the ideas and inspiration you need to celebrate right here
Full Story



joyfulguy