How would you handle this, or would you ignore it?
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Comments (9)LOL you guys! You're giving me lots of good ideas. ~evil grin~ Comettose......I really wish I was that kind of person, but alas, I'm not. Its VERY hard for me to just be nice to people. ;) Brenda......I have been thinking about getting a loudspeaker and playing back the exact same sounds that their dirtbike and 4 wheelers are making. Or.....get some of those canned airhorns and have a go at it. I get sooooooooooo p****d off at people who have absolutely no sensitivity to what their activity is doing to people around them. We've lived in peace and quiet here for 25 years......and then they move here and start this crap up. When these people moved in and I started hearing 4wheelers back there, I composed a "howdy neighbor" letter and put one in each of their mailboxes. I said how lucky we all were to have a part of a big woods, considering how much development is going on around here, and had they heard the barred owls in there? And I told them there was better birding here than anywhere else I'd been and let's try real hard to preserve this wonderful place. I thought that was a nice way of hinting.........instead of saying what I REALLY wanted to say!! I have a strange reaction to sounds I hear that I don't want to be there. I sort of fly into a rage. But as my therapist has said "how's that workin' for ya?" hahahaha He's right......it doesn't hurt anyone but me. So I need to either figure out a way to tune it out, or confront them. Sometimes just letting them know they are ticking me off helps relieve my anger. I couldn't believe this. The people who live in the woods across the road from us had a dirtbike and 4wheelers, and moved away last fall. We were so happy! But I think they sold all their bikes to the new neighbors behind us. Grandmapoo......you're right about something else replacing something that finally goes away! Since it doesn't bother anyone else in my family.....I guess I start feeling like it shouldn't bother me. But it does! Brenda.....I just told my husband that sometimes you bug your DH so much he finally yells at the offenders, just to shut you up. lol! I told him "Sounds like a plan to me!!" hahaha Comettose........I have to admit, I have evil thoughts too........maybe the little jerk will hit a branch?? Maybe his bike will skid into the creek??? I guess I'm evil......but it does help to bring my blood pressure down. hahaha I thought of another letter. My whole life I have forced myself to always confront people directly.......no matter how scared I was. I'm really running out of the steam for that. Now I'm more into the anonymous thing. Maybe I could send them a piece of paper, using cut-out letters to form the message "Lose the dirtbike or else............" I try to picture a sweet little kid on the bike, whose had a really rough life.......maybe just recovering from cancer or he has no friends. That only works for about 10 seconds, then I'm ticked again. In this day and age, I find it strange that there aren't more noise laws. We've asked the owner of the woods if he'd like to sell some of his woods, but he doesn't. He said "I really like the woods". Yeah right. Well, thanks for listening to me vent. Now I have to get to work on a plan...........an anonymous letter.......or a granade? Perhaps a wire placed strategically in the middle of their path??...See MoreHow would you handle this? Have we been swindled?
Comments (44)Thank you to all who've helped guide me through this!!! Racin' I sure hope someone comes along that knows what causes that coloration on the rose stems. How many plants have you lost that displayed it? Hopefully it was only the one plant. Although even losing one plant is too many. (Especially if you cant identify what the cause is!) I will alwayz be grateful ! In the midst of a storm, there's always a silver lining, ;-) âÂÂ¥Lyna...See MoreHow would you handle this? (long)
Comments (38)cynic, I didn't quite understand when you wrote "The husband should still be invited and should still attend family affairs. He's been a good father and husband...so why should he be cut out?" My sister's husband would certainly be free to attend any family get togethers in our home. It is my SISTER who my husband will not invite to our home any more, because he lost all respect for her, due to her treatment of her children, during all this. It is his achilles heel, as he feels a parent should always set good examples for their children, even if they are grown. I do too, but she is my sister and I'll never estrange myself from her. My DH certainly gets that, "she doesn't owe her kids to be at their beck and call 24/7..." However, we were receiving multiple phone calls almost every day from them, telling us that my sister was staying in her bedroom the entire day and night (she doesn't work) on her cell phone and IPad with her new guy, and only coming out to grab something to eat. Apparently she wasn't taking phone calls from her eldest child, and shouted through the bedroom door (to the 3 who still live at home) to leave her alone and stop trying to talk to her, because she was talking with her 'soulmate' and didn't need to hear any of their questions or concerns. Keep in mind, she only knew him for 6 weeks, over 25 years ago and had recently only been seeing him for a few weeks when she decided to end her marriage and move in with him. That is happening this weekend, at just more than 6 weeks from their 'reconnection.' My sister loves her kids with all her heart, but sadly, she has never been one who puts her own needs/wants behind those of her children. If you reread my posts, you will see I am not condemning her new guy at all, he could be a wonderful man, and I'm sure I'll form an opinion when I visit my sister and get to know him. My husband isn't condemning him either, or 'cutting him out' but it seems unlikely they will ever meet each other, since DH no longer wants a relationship with my sister. My children are in their 20's and DH and I are certainly not 'prohibiting' them from talking to or visting my sister, whom they love very much. I'm sure they will, once their cousins can re-establish their own relationships with their mother, which were damaged by her refusal to speak with them about her warp speed decisions. sylviatexas, I WISH we could stay out of it and let some time pass. But my sister keeps calling and trying to get me to come visit her soon. She doesn't understand that she needs to work on her relationship with her kids, before she invites other family members to come calling. She's in one heck of a hurry to get us all on board with her new partner, considering it's been less than 2 months from her announcing she was ending her marriage, to her moving in with him. ellendi, again, you understood exactly what I was trying to express. My sister's kids had an amazing step father for 17 years, and they feel their mom owed him the decency of letting him know if she was not feeling the love anymore, rather than just stepping out behind his back with someone else. This came as a HUGE shock to him and all the rest of us, as she has always sung his praises so freely. They have always struggled financially, so we can't help but wonder if her new guy would be just as appealing if he couldn't offer the well to do lifestyle that she hasn't had with her husband. Her children begged her to slow down and not see the new guy for just a few weeks, so she could consider things more carefully before ending a long marriage to move in with a man about whom she knows so little. But she said she wasn't willing to have no contact with him, even for a few days. So I'm just praying things will work out for her, and she won't have damaged so many relationships for a quick flash in the pan....See MoreHow would you handle this?
Comments (16)Thanks everyone for your opinions. It's good to know that I'm not the only one who sees it this way. And thanks cynic & joann for your kind works about DH & me. DH is just trying to be nice. We haven't been buying gifts for the kids until now. We only see them maybe once a year, since they live about six hours from us. That was another reason that I was against buying something so expensive for them. The kids barely know us. I would be fine with getting them a doll or games or something of that nature. He was planning on only buying one & having them share. DH has a good heart & I think part of this is because we don't have kids....See Moregrammyp
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