Kind of spinoff of Mtn's Etiquette post
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Comments (34)"Should I say something to my brother the groom? Or just keep quiet as to not cause any drama?" Nope...don't say anything. Keep quiet. Let it go. Your poor brother is caught in the middle between his bit** of a mother and siblings that he probably wants to include. Let him enjoy this time without any added stress from a family fight. You and the other siblings should go out to a nice dinner and toast your brothers happiness....See Moreetiquette mavens
Comments (134)All of this jello talk reminds me of Ambrosia? A neighbor growing up used to make it with mini marshmallows, sour cream, coconut and those canned mandarin oranges. I always loved that but I doubt anyone but me would eat it. So, in re last year's shameful culprit, I took Gramarows suggestion and simply texted her essentially " if I didn't mention it before, everything is pretty much covered, so just bring your appetite!!" She texted back that she was glad to know that because she is so busy with xyz and didn't really have the time anyway, etc etc. On the day, she did show up with cookies, but that was actually great because they are easy enough to store, and certainly didn't overlap anything, and even though we had a lot of desserts, a cookie or two is always welcome. A different guest called me on their way up and told me they would be driving past an open grocery store, so just let them know if there was anything I needed last minute. I thought that was really nice, and as it turned out I did need a lemon and it was nice not to have to run out (plus our local grocers were not open at all on that day). We drove up last Tuesday night, and opened the door to a stench. DH had stored bait in the basement freezer, and the landscapers working on the stone patio for the pool popped a circuit breaker and the fridge was off, for several weeks. Thank goodness we aired things out and it was all fine ... or we would have had a plein air Thanksgiving. Which might have been possible as it was so mild, and hit 60 iirc on friday! Last year we had snow, which i prefer. I brined turkey breasts this year, a first for me. I was surprised at how easy and effective it was. I brined them only three hours in 4qts of water, 1/2 c salt and 1/4 c brown sugar, each. Then airdry in the fridge overnight. Stuffed 4T seasoned butter under the skin of each one, then cooked it 425 for 30 min and 325 for 1hr (each breast was about 7lb). Perfect, except as Rococo mentions the pan drippings are salt water. Good thing I made gravy in advance with turkey parts. I did almost all of my cooking Wednesday, with everyone helping, so the day of the holiday was pretty easy. I was so glad to have two dishwashers, because we also had a full house (and then some) sleeping over, so you really want a clean kitchen in the morning. So you can dirty it all over again! This was only my second time hosting a ThxG meal for a large group at the beachouse, and only the third time hosting ever. Growing up, our family lived far away and ThxG was usually immediate family for dinner, and a then a sort of openhouse dessert party with neighbors and their guests --- that was fun. As an adult, I used to go back to my Mom's house, then my sister's or brother's. Once i had it at my house, but it was inconvenient for everyone else; they are all in the same town. By the time we had our own kids, we started the tradition of going to our lakehouse for the holiday (which is far for any of our relatives) and it just being the five of us. Ski season always started the next day and that was part of the tradition; skiing the day after. I do miss that about having the lakehouse; really nowhere to ski near our beachhouse. Anyway, it all went very smoothly and the biggest controversy was over board games, which we all play to the death!...See MoreHHIreno et al in re SC and Snow-birding
Comments (120)Homebody here too. My homes are my sanctuary. Ours are not that far apart, only a 50 minute drive. Our primary home is in the suburbs and our vacation home is at the beach. Our house at the shore truly feels like a vacation / get away each time we are there. It feels as though my stress melts away as soon as I see the water! Our ultimate goal is to sell our primary home and move to Florida when our son goes to college in 6.5 years. Then we will keep the shore house in NJ, have a house in Florida and go in between. Like Mtn, I also feel guilty about the vacations we take during the season but having another home is not going to stop me from traveling....See MoreWWYD - Vacation Home Hosting Request
Comments (54)"Running I’m wondering as well, if they hit it off with everyone at Christmas, they may genuinely also want to see you and spend some time and may be under the impression you had just as much fun." No the texts stated that they are coming to the Keys with their friend and asked if the friend could stay with them after I invited them based on the broad hint that they wanted to stay over Saturday night etc. As I've commented before it is clear they are NOT coming for a visit to us. To be fair however I will try to reserve judgment till we see how things go. The lesson in this situation is the familiar one: fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. From now on with this relative and with everyone else we won't be caught off guard. We will use our polite spine which is a great phrase I picked up on the internet somewhere. If we feel ok about hosting we will. If we don't we won't. We definitely need to get our minds right about how we will manage access to our place. It's pretty amazing for visitors: deep water (ocean) access in the Florida Keys very close to some of the best dive/snorkel reefs and a house that was fully remodeled by the previous owner. So not only is everything nice looking and fresh but we have stocked it with canoes and kayaks and we even have a pool for lounging and sunbathing. My son leaves his flats boat there (small skiff type that can poke into lots of shallow fishing areas). We sometimes take the boat out for dinner at local waterfront restaurants. As is normal down there the house is two levels. The apartment is a full 1/1 on the first level that is completely separate from our living area upstairs. We've already hosted almost every holiday since we bought it for our extended family and love having them and good friends visit. I just need to be clear about how much family and friends can expect to decide when they come rather than US deciding when they come LOL....See Morefurbydaphneoscar
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