WWYD - Vacation Home Hosting Request
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WWYD - Multiple 'Home Party' Invitations
Comments (27)There was a time about 5 years ago when I was getting hit with Cabi (clothing line) invitations by at least 4-5 different friends each season. I went to a few of them as I did like the clothes, but they were overpriced. Then, my neighbor, who was hosting these parties every season, starting complaining to me about certain people who would come to her parties but never buy anything, that they were only there to eat and socialize. That really ticked me off b/c....the more people buy at these parties (at full price) the more items the host gets at a discount. So yes, while my neighbor was supplying the venue and some appetizers and drinks, she was getting huge discounts on the clothing that all of her friends were having to pay full price for. Of course, that's typically how all these home parties work, but it just annoyed me that I was getting pressured to buy things so that SHE could get all these new clothes for much less than the rest of us. Though I bought several things that I liked, I bought a few things that I ended up regretting and never wore and had no way to return, so that was it for me. My other friends stopped inviting me as I wasn't going, but my neighbor continued to invite me. After going once or twice and not buying anything, then listening to her complain about other neighbors just coming to socialize, I stopped going. And it seems that Cabi parties aren't popular anymore - thankfully! However, now I get invited to all kinds of other parties (jewelry, purses, cooking gadgets, etc), some from mere acquaintances who I'm sure just scroll through their email address book and add absolutely anyone they think may have a remote chance of coming. I don't even bother responding anymore and I don't feel one iota of guilt....See Morepotluck etiquette reminds me of vacation home visitor article
Comments (10)I may be thinking of this situation differently but I know how a lake home can get out of hand. Suddenly everyone is your best friend or closest relative and wants to use your lake home. I'm guessing some of this is happening when the home owner is not there on the property. So, yes, in that type situation I can understand the home owner's cleaning/bedding instructions. The spreadsheet seems a bit much. I see your side also but I've seen vacation home owners taken advantage of so often. It gets to the point where they are "hosting" everyone and not getting "vacation" time themselves. Of course there is always a happy medium! Everyone pitch in. Just as you enjoy hosting, I would not dream of offering to wash bedding, clean up after ourselves and help with meals. An example is a vacation cottage we recently rented. Everything was provided. And everything was first class (bedding, towels, cleanliness, even kitchen items there for our use). All we were asked to do was to strip beds and leave the dirty linens on the beds, leave wet/dirty towels in the shower or tub and empty the trash! And we paid for that. For someone inviting me or allowing me to use their vacation home, I would want to go the extra mile. tina...See MoreWWYD - Vacation Home Hosting Request
Comments (3)So all three would stay in the downstairs apartment? If it were me, I guess I would probably let them, including the best man. The guy is obviously very close with them, and it sounds like you enjoy spending time with this couple, so I would imagine he is a decent guy - otherwise they probably wouldn’t be vacationing with him. If they prove to be awful guests I wouldn’t allow them back again. if you really aren’t comfortable with him being there, I would CALL her to explain that you simply aren’t comfortable hosting people you don’t know well. I think if you try to do it via text, it could go south on you....See MoreA WWYD?
Comments (36)My small neighborhood of custom homes has a happy hour in someone’s yard one Friday evening per month Spring thru Fall. I have literally only been to one bc Friday nights are just bad times for us (dd cheers football games Friday nights, and a few times in the Spring we were out of town, etc.) No one seems to care...and surely they don’t think I’m anti-social! (Surely? Lol) I agree with others that EVERY Friday is insane! We’ve been here 8 years, and in our little town 13 years before that (moved here as newlyweds) so admittedly We had a strong social network before building this house BUT...I will say that I have actually loved getting to know the folks who are older & in a different life stage than us. One of my favorite friends on our street actually is close to my parents’ age. They built bc they wanted to design a home that could accommodate all of their grandkids and kids when they visit. She shares my love of design and always shows me her latest acquisitions. :) I guess WWID....I’d attend an occasional Friday but certainly not fret about missing the majority of them! As long as you are friendly and warm...no one will call you anti-social. You are fortunate they only last an hour, regardless! I find it hilarious that they have such a sharp cut-off as to the time, you’d think they’d have the gatherings quarterly with a more relaxed beginning and ending. The way it’s currently set up reminds me of playgroup when my kids were little, lol!...See Moremaddielee
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