stepfamilies
When I found this forum I was so excited. Finally, a place where I could talk to other stepparents about the joys and trials of stepparenting...or so I thought.
Instead stepparents on here seem to get badgered by bm's. Either stepparents love their stepkids like their own, which to some is completely unacceptable. Or, they dislike their stepkids, which is also unacceptable. And for some reason we are supposed to take care of our stepkids when in our care, but then are not supposed to take credit for doing anything for them. We are supposed to help support them, but have nothing for ourselves. If we for some reason live better than the ex then we are at fault and "stealing" money that should support the ex wife? We are not supposed to complain, because we are in fact the second wive and first wives have so much more to complain about? And no matter what bm's are never wrong because they in fact carried a child for 9 months and went through hours of labor! So, if they managed that then they can do no wrong and if they do it is justified because they are bm's? And stepparents should not complain about the ex or children because we are in fact second class citizens on here? And the stepparents who HAVE to step-up to help their spouse raise kids left behind by their other bioparent deserve no credit because after all they are not moms, the woman who gave birth and left is much better?
IT IS RIDICULOUS! Some of the bm's on here have just gone insane with their views, mostly because they are women scorned. Well, I am not the one who broke up your marriage. I am not a husband stealer. I am just a biomom myself who fell in love with a wonderful single father, whose wife had already left him AND the kids. I am just the person who married him and became a MOM to those wonderful kids. My child is the one who went from being an only child for years to now having siblings and sharing a home, toys, and a mom. And this all makes me a horrible person who is expected to put up with crap from the lady who left her kids behind and does not take care of them? SORRY, BUT NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! I have the right to have certain expectation and express my opinions on raising the kids. If bm's don't like it then do not abandon your kids and you will not have this problem! This situation would not exist if their mom had not abandoned them.
I come to this forum for advice from others in my situation, not to get torn to shreads by bitter people.
And I for one am tired of people using this forum as a way to get back at stepparents because they are not happy with the stepparents in their biokids lives.
annebel
lafevem
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