Be aware that if this turns out to be something on the motherboard and you elect to replace the motherboard it will also cost you an operating system because the current XP is tied to that specific motherboard. As Someone suggested that an overheating capacitor on the MoBo could be the problem you might study the capacitors etc with a magnifying glass looking for discolouration or slight bulging, you never know.

Bestlawn - Pure coincidence!! It was a shared office suite with 3 attorneys, 3 secretaries and a receptionist. One day, an attorney from a local city came for a meeting with my attorney. While there, she saw "her" and asked my attorney if "she" was working there. Seems the visiting attorney had been with "her" prior law firm when "she" used the firm's credit card(s). I can't remember if that's why she was let go or if she was let go and THEN took the cards. Its been a long time. In any event, my attorney told "her" attorney and his accountant started digging and found the $20k or so shortfall, at which time they stopped looking. This poor guy was struggling to put 2 kids through college and "she" was robbing him blind. However, he had given her carte blanche with the checkbook and SIGNING CHECKS and she kept all financial records, which was just asking for trouble. It was a nasty time; we were in a more or less open situation with no locks on the internal doors, only on the 2 doors to the main office area. We were afraid she might retaliate so had to hide all our discs and secure the computers until we could get the locks changed. You might check with your state labor commission, or some such agency, to see just what would be an appropriate response to inquiries so as not to set yourself up for a lawsuit :-/ She sounds like she might not hesitate to make trouble for you.

You need to sit down and explain to DH were you're at in all this SD drama. Just because you personally are 'done' (and who could blame you?) DH likely is not finshed trying. And that's ok. If DH wants to use his personal spending money to send extra care packages on top of his child support. Let him. If he wants to use his personal spending money to pay for a cell for Sd, ler him. But that really does mean him and his money. He can pick out and up the items he wishes to send, prepare to ship blah blah on his own. His daughter, his desire, his duty then. Same with birthday card/presents ect. You're not telling him he can't have a relationship (even if a onesided one) with his daughter....you're just removing yourself from all the drama. If she actually gets on the plane and comes, it's his 'daddy duty' to be the one who cares/tends to her while visiting. It's his 'daddy duty' to entertain her (or not), be around for the visit and hopefully work out whatever issues the two of them have. All that should be expected between SD and you is that you are civil towards each other. You can't shield DH from SD. You can't wave a magic wand and make all their troubles go away. Whatever happens in the relationship between Dad/daughter is not on your shoulders. You've tried to let her know you're receptive to meeting her and welcoming her...she's rejected you. But husband loves this child and you're going to have to let the two of them make or break their own future together. Yes, it's hard when you see someone being mean and appear to be only using someone you love (DH), but you have to be careful that you don't set yourself up to be blamed to be the one to push Dh into a decision he is not willing and/or ready to make. Odds are good from the sounds of it that SD won't come. Even if she does, it will be like one or two visits for a week or two a couple times a year. As long as daughter behaves, respects you as an adult in your home (she does not have to think of you as any more than dad's wife) you may have to accept her as a houseguest now and then. If she misbehaves, makes her visit unbearable, blah blah, make other plans for your. Go spend time with your family, work extra hours, go to the club and exercise. I'm not telling you to open your arms and heart to the SD...you tried that, she spit in your face so to say...but don't go all out and try to ban and/or control a relationship between the girl and her father. It won't work out well for you

I know that but it's no fun to see her drag her kids into it. I'd love to grab her, shake her or pound her head against a wall and yell "look what you are doing to your kids!!" " Don't you care????" and I know that I can't. Her relationship with her kids is her business but it doesn't make it any easier to watch. If she had called me, that's one thing. But, she involves SD by asking me through her daughter and she does that a lot. She's also got SD very excited about the wedding and SD brings it up frequently. I could be wrong, but I believe she has created a fantasy in SD's mind that everything will be wonderful when she marries BF... they'll be a family & she can go live there with them, etc. but that isn't going to happen. The craziest part of all, she HATES when SD and I get along. (more insecurity about that) but the more she ignores SD, as time goes on, SD turns to me more & more. I not only spend more time with SD, but I talk to her, I listen to her and even though she has an attitude with me, she knows she can count on me when she needs me. As she is realizing that, she has less attitude with me and we are actually becoming closer because of the way BM treats her. That only upsets BM even more, but instead of giving SD more attention, she has chosen to give less time & attention. It's really sad all the way around. I've also noticed other things she does to mimic our (DH & me) life. We ride ATV's, she went out & bought new ATV's for everyone last Christmas. We went to San Francisco for a weekend, she was going to do the same. We have an SUV, she went out and bought an SUV as soon as she moved there, even though her BF has a mini van that would accommodate all of them. She already had a new truck that her mom repossessed a few weeks ago. We've gone on a few cruises & now she's talked of wanting to take a family cruise. It's really humorous at times. She has no job, her BF's motorcycle & his kids dirt bikes were repossessed, her mom took back the truck she signed for because BM wasn't making the payments, they are about to be evicted & she can't or won't pay the $216 a month in support or any of the medical bills, but she is planning a grand wedding & all these trips. I think it's all in her head & she wants to create an illusion that she has a perfectly wonderful life. I'm not sure if she sees reality slapping her in the face... or if she just pretends it isn't happening. It will go away?