"To name a plant. ED Brown. I have seen it look bad in our garden and only have around 2 way with 6 buds. And we move it and the next year have 4 way with 25 buds. Same bed. Not moveing it 100 feet. We are talking 5 feet or so" writes Michael. Your making my point for me.. Many plants do show finicky requirements for culture. My point is.. why bother with them. Why propagate slow developing genetics. Yes the many DL's take 2.. and 3 yrs to show in gardens. Again.. why not breed from the best genetics.. for vigor.. ability to withstand stress. Chasing internet faces is why it TAKES 2-3 yrs..even in warm climates.. for some plants to show. Crossing "face" genetics.. slow developers and primarily internet wonders.. with the same type of plants.. only means more of the same. The "GH/Green House Daylily" is a reality.. but how many people owning and enjoying daylilies are going to grow them in GH's......... Thing is... some of us aren't selling the listening group anything.. just relating experience. Others are marketing for all their worth.. some via 2nd parties. Sales.. raking in the $$.. has a way of ignoring facts... often the seller is what is being sold.

Thank you all for the lovely comments :). OA: The wedding was held at a friend of ours 70 acre gated estate. It's a complete castle style complex of over a football field in size with his private residence tucked into the center. His young daughter Lacey had always dreamed of living in a castle and he promised to build her one but she got sick, suffered a toxic reaction to the medication and passed away in Jan 1987. In honoring what she had always wanted, he started working on it in 1988 and laid each rock hand by hand until it was completed. Now , it is a foundation commited to preserving & allowing the return of the indigenous spieces. He serves now as a wildlife management area, improving habitat, and aid in research studys, environmental issues, and wildlife habitat conservation. A truly peaceful and lovely place completely untouched by building highways,subdivisions ect.

Yep yep yep. You are lovely friends, giving a party in honor of your friends who got married. You are being careful not to make the slightest suggestion that anyone expects guests to buy gifts, or even any acknowledgement that they might. Also, don't worry about whether to call it a post-wedding reception or something like that. In fact, if I were doing this, I would just word the invitation something like, "Please come to/You are invited to to/Mary Smith requests the pleasure of your company at [or whatever the formality of the occasion dictates] a party in honor of Cuthbert and Petunia Jones [or Cuthbert Miller and Petunia Jones, if they have different last names, or I guess also if the invitations go out before she changes her name]/date/time/place" You don't even have to mention anything about the wedding on the invitation. I wouldn't. Anyone close enough to invite to the part presumably knows that they are getting married, and that's obviously why you are honoring them. The less you refer to it on the invitation, the less likely anyone will think that the idea is to rustle up some gifts. But it seems to me that anyone as nice as you probably travels in a circle that doesn't assume nastiness, and the invitees' response will be more like, "Oh, isn't that nice of Mary to do that. I'm glad we'll all get to celebrate, even though it's going to be a small wedding. I wish I'd thought of it myself." I don't see anything wrong with this even if they had had a big wedding. So there! :-)

Ducky, it sounds absolutely beautiful. I can't wait to see pictures - I'm planning a backyard wedding as well and am interested to see how REAL people do it (as opposed to magazine pics). Your tips sound pretty good too...I think I'll save those. Your first dance at sunset with the bubbles sounds perfect. Do you mind if I borrow the idea?