My best friend, Linda, died today. Thank you for all your prayer

12 years ago

Thank all of you for your prayers. Linda died at 3:45 p.m. today. She had had a heart attack, respiratory failure from the heart attack and her brain was swollen. Now her daughter, Noelani, needs lots of prayers. Yesterday she didn't want to let her mother go and said she would take care of her but the doctor explained that she was not going to make it. I called the church this morning to call our friend and Bible Study leader and he got there about a half hour before she died and said a prayer. she slipped away peacefully.

They lived in section 8 housing but it was a new place and nice. But Noe won't be able to afford to stay there by herself. They were/are on Medicaid.
When Noe was born they gave her too much oxygen and she was blind in one eye and very limited sight in the other. She is also a little "slow". She's not retarded and can do a lot of things and keep track of her money and helped take care of her mother. She is so sweet and kind and a good Christian. She's almost 50. The biggest problem is that they kept taking in stray cats. There are 5 there now and she doesn't want to leave any of them and no one wants to take her in with all those cats. The landlord had said they could have 2 but . . . .

A cousin will stay with her tonight and they will get her papers together and call the funeral home. They had just gotten home yesterday from getting her birth certificate.

It's been a hard day for me. We had been friends for years and before she got sick and her leg withered and became a club foot (The doctors didn't really have an explanation for that) we ran around a lot ~ shopping, lunch, laughing and joking in her old clunker. When I couldn't see well enough to drive my car anymore my daughter would take us out and take them to doctor appointments and shopping and the bank. She used to always give me pedicures because she loved to give people pedicures. She got too shaky this last year to do it anymore. '

Thanks for listening and thank you for your prayers. Since I can't drive or get out much anymore she was my last friend and I'll miss her but I know she is in heaven running and leaping and rejoicing. We talked just last week about how she didn't want to be on life support and how she was tired of being pretty much bedridden or in a wheelchair now and had to wear diapers and those UGLY heavy shoes when she went out ~ to help her stand enough to get from car to wheelchair and vice versa. Not that she was anticipating dieing any time soon.

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rhizo_1 (North AL) zone 7
12 years ago
Oh, how sad this is, Dorothy. Noe has some very hard times ahead of her and some tough decisions to make. I wish the very best for her in all things. And I'm so very sorry for your terrible loss.
lucillle
12 years ago
My condolences on the loss of your friend, and her daughter will remain in my thoughts and prayers.
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Marilyn Sue
12 years ago
I am so sorry you lost your friend and I pray a good solution will be found for her daughter.

Prayers Sue
wanda_va
12 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Special friends are hard to find, and so very hard to lose. My prayers are with her daughter and with you. Hugs!
iowagirl2006
12 years ago
My thoughts are with your Dorothy. I was lovely to hear about how great a friend Linda was to you.

Do remember you have lots of friends here. Not the same as someone right there with you - but friends none the less.
Georgysmom
12 years ago
So, so sad. It always makes me wonder why some people get so piled on with so many problems. Special thoughts and prayers for you and Noe.
patti43
12 years ago
I'm so sorry, Dorothy. It would be hard to lose such a fun friend. Sure was hoping for a better follow-up. Please try to keep us updated on what Noe will do now. I hope she has caring family around.
sleeperblues
12 years ago
Dorothy, I am very sorry for your loss. You wrote a very touching tribute to Linda. It sounds like she was a very good friend to you, and she will be missed. My prayers are with you and Noe.
jkayd_il5
12 years ago
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. Prayers for you and her daughter.
lydia1959
12 years ago
Sorry for you loss. Hoping for the best for Noe.
YogaLady1948
12 years ago
Peace and Love to you and Noe, Dorothy~
glenda_al
12 years ago
Extending my sympathy, dorothy!
gadgets
12 years ago
I'm sorry that you and Linda's daughter are suffering this loss. I pray that the best possible solution is found for her daughter.

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blfenton
12 years ago
I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and Noe.
kacram
12 years ago
I'm so sorry, Dorothy!
kittywhiskers
12 years ago
So sorry you and your friends family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Zipper_TX
12 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers are added here for you and her daughter.
clubm
12 years ago
I'm so sorry. Sending special thoughts .
hounds_x_two
12 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss.
chisue
12 years ago
What a lovely description you've given us of your dear friend!

We know you will miss her and miss her, but in some circumstances death is the kindest gift. You've lost a friend, but I see you are grateful that Linda is now free of her previous troubles -- and will not have to endure the effects of this final blow.

My sympathies. I hope the KT can ease your loneliness following this loss.
susie53_gw
12 years ago
I am so very sorry for your lose. I will pray for all of you. I know you will be there for her daughter.
momrox4
12 years ago
Friendships like yours and Linda's are rare...praying that your memories of the good times sustain you. Sorry for your loss and my heart breaks for her daughter.

Peace.
nizza
12 years ago
So sorry for the loss of your friend Linda. I will keep her daughter in my prayers.
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12 years ago
Sorry for the loss of your friend. I also lost a dear friend from brain cancer in the fall. I miss her too. I know what you're going thru.
rob333 (zone 7b)
12 years ago
((((((((((Dorothy, Noe, and all who surrounded her in life)))))))))
sjerin
12 years ago
I'm so sorry to read this, Dorothy. I fervently hope Noe has friends and family who will be in it for the long haul for her. I haven't lost a friend yet and dread the day.... Please accept my condolences.
tami_ohio
12 years ago
I am sorry to hear this Dorothy. You have my sympathy. You and Noe are in my prayers.

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Terri_PacNW
12 years ago
I'm sorry Dorothy. Tough loss for all.

Since Noe is in low income, can they not adjust her rent to her income only?
Are there any organizations that you can do the "leg" work on to get her some assistance/counseling for the changes in her life?
lindyluwho
12 years ago
I am so very sorry for your loss.
kittiemom
12 years ago
My condolences on the death of your friend. My prayers for you and Noelani.
pudgeder
12 years ago
My prayers for you and for Noelani.
May you find peace.

My best friend, Linda, died today. Thank you for all your prayer

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