Tragic news for a very close friend of mine

10 days ago

My friend Pat are very good friends. She and her husband rode in the Ride for Dad for years and we met them when Tom was the Honorary Captain the year he died. Her husband and Tom passed within 2 months of each other and Pat and I really became close.

She and I go for toots in her convertible, and she hosts "game nights" with several friends. We play pool, play cards, shuffleboard, darts. Food and music. I love going. The white-out is an adult water bottle!

Anyway, her son was rushed to the hospital with a heart attack. They did surgery and he was in the hospital for several weeks due to complications. He passed away last week, and he was only 43. Leaving a wife and 3 kids. She only has a daughter now, losing her husband and son. What a shock.

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lindaohnowga
10 days ago
So sorry for your friend's losses.
girlnamedgalez8a
10 days ago
That is very sad, my condolences to your friend.
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rob333 (zone 7b)
10 days ago
(((Pat))) unbelievable. Shocking, really. So so young.
lettersatoz
10 days ago
Oh, Jas, that IS tragic. Sorry she is having to endure all of this. You are a caring person and I know she will feel lucky having you as her friend.
Olychick
10 days ago
Oh, that is so tragic for her and the rest of his family. I imagine outliving a child is one of the most difficult things a parent can go through.
pudgeder
10 days ago
Such a shock at any age, let alone 43. (((Jas))))
roxsol
10 days ago
My sincere sympathy. Such a sad story for your friend.
lucillle
10 days ago
I am so sorry for her sad loss.
pekemom
10 days ago
Very sad news, so sorry for your friend.
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9 days ago
Seems like everyday there are more and more 'younger' deaths. Heart is often the culprit. Very sad for everyone.
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9 days ago
I am so sorry to hear this, Jasdip. Losing a child must be awful under any circumstance or at any age. May you all find peace.

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tsugajunkie z5 SE WI ♱
9 days ago
Very sad. Condolences to you and your friend.

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Stacey_mb
9 days ago
Very sorry to hear about your friend's losses. She is fortunate to have your support as a good friend through this difficult time.
cindy-6b/7a VA
9 days ago
So sad. Very sorry to hear about your friend's losses.
Annie Deighnaugh
9 days ago
That's awful news. So sorry to hear this. Tough on all involved. Sending you all thoughts of comfort, strength, healing and solace in this most difficult of times.
carolb_w_fl_coastal_9b
9 days ago
Yes, how devastating and terrible. My heart goes out to anyone who loses a loved one.

I was talking with my aunt recently - her husband died from brain cancer at a similar age, and she said his mother said to her, "Why couldn't it have been me instead?"
Fun2BHere
9 days ago
@Jasdip and @outsideplaying, I’m sorry for your losses.
dedtired
9 days ago
So tragic. Life is so unfair at times. I hope your friend finds some solace in her family and grandchildren.
cyn427 (z. 7, N. VA)
9 days ago
Jasdip, I cannot imagine losing a child. With time, I hope your friend, you, and all her friends can think more often of the happy times like that in the photo. It is the sort of tragedy that makes one want to throw her arms around the whole group and hold them tight.
donna_loomis
9 days ago
Heartfelt condolences to you and your friend.
chisue
9 days ago
So sad. I get the idea, though, that this family knew how to LIVE, not just let the days pass by. That's some small consolation in this time of sorrow. Your friend is lucky to have you -- and you to have her.
blfenton
8 days ago
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I am so sorry to hear about your friends son. So very hard for his wife and kids.

My brother died at the same age of a brain aneurysm and I don't think my mom ever got over it.

Tragic news for a very close friend of mine

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