Please accept my condolences on your lost. What a shock indeed.
Remember there are no guarantees in life, and how we go isn't ours to choose. Many would chose a death like this if they could.

I'm so sorry Rosemary.

So sorry Rosemary.

Sudden deaths like this are especially hard to comprehend... you have my sympathy.

So sorry to hear of your loss, Rosemary. I'm sure you are somewhat numb, as I can only imagine....

I've hear it said that a young and healthy person will likely die if they have a heart attack simply because the heart is stronger and more powerful. An older and weaker person's heart doesn't have as powerful of an attack. I've never researched it, just heard it a few times.

I am sorry for your loss. It's hard to imagine, but it happens frequently. Years ago, my cousin's DH dropped dead at work of a heart attack--he was 36 years old, and had had a complete physical the week before. Often, there are inherited health issues that are undiagnosed.

I hope you find comfort in the good memories of him, and I will say a prayer for him and the family and friends.

I am sorry to hear you lost a friend Rosemary. Hugs

Oh, Rosemary, I am so sorry. I am sure you are just reeling from this news. What a sad loss for you. My heartfelt condolences.

So, so sorry for your loss. (((((Rosemary)))).

((((((Rosemary))))))
I'm so sorry.

That's awful. I'm so sorry.

What a shock -- my thoughts are with you and all of his loved ones.

I'm so sorry, please take care of yourself during this awful time.

What a terrible shock. I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard to understand.
Joann

(((Rosemary)))

There seems to a theme running through this winter.

The Sandy Hook tragedy.

The mother of one of the other babies that were in daycare with my son 9 years ago, was killed instantly in an accident right in front of her two children last week, driving along in clear weather in the afternoon, no other vehicle involved.

My sister lost a 17 year old neighbor this week - he died at school, possibly of diabetic shock.

All reminders to try to make the most of every day because you really don't know which day will be your last day or one of your loved ones last days.

Rosemary, so very sorry for your loss! Cherish your memories.

So sad. Sorry for the loss of your friend.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss, Rosemary. And Paula, so sad.

There are no answers to questions like this. Unfortunately
it happens a lot. Locally a runner, thin, totally healthy
young man in his early forties, dropped dead of a heart
attack. Like I said, who could possibly know? How did
little three year old Bradley get a brain tumor? How did
the little 4 week old baby get leukemia, and was having a
transplant the same time I was?

I'm so sorry. Very sad.

Thanks.

Last night, I was beside myself. This morning is better.

This is the third time I've lost a good friend (in their 40s or 50s) in the blink of an eye. Here one second, gone the next. It scares the hell out of me.

It's hard for me to reconcile my fundamental belief of a friendly universe with people getting snatched away so tragically and quickly.

I'm still struggling with it all.

Thank you very much for the many kind, and heart-felt replies. Each and every word was a healing balm to my weary and heavy heart.

Rosemary, you and the family of your friend are in my thoughts and prayers.

Praying for the loved ones he has left behind.

The trainer at our gym, 53 years old, jogging in his neighborhood, drops over dead from a heart attack. A trainer!
I know what you mean, one minute we have them, next minute , they're gone. It's the shock factor to those of us left behind, that is so hard to take.
Condolences to you.

Love and Peace to you and his family, Rosemary~~

Rosemary, this is indeed sad and I also send my best thoughts and sympathy to you and all this young man's friends and family. Please know that you can email and talk to any one of us - we are here to listen any time.

So saddened by this post...Rosemary . I have found it harder to deal with a sudden death, than some poor soul who has suffered with an illness for a long time. The shock of it all just seems to be harder to get over.
My condolences to you.

Maybe it was due a sudden onset fatal arrhythmia.
My cousin, at age 52, while dancing, fell. Fortunately there was an RN next to him and started CPR. He survived but would not have had no one started CPR. He now has an internal defibrillator/pacemaker. That was ten years ago.
He was healthy, too.
So sorry for your loss.

Rosemary, I have been away all day, and just now seeing this. I understand the shock and loss. One of my friends called to tell me she was in the hospital, but I wasn't home, so talked to Jody. He said she sounded good and would call me the next day. She died that night. I didn't know she had Hep C. We had gone out to eat a few days prior and she thought she had indigestion. I guess the pain was from her liver.

It's a reminder to us to hold our loved ones close and make every day count.

I'm very sorry for the loss of your friend. The shock makes it that much harder to deal with when it's so sudden like that.

God bless his soul. I'll pray that you and his family can eventually find peace.

Rosemary, I am so so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. My deepest condolences. Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for someone who is seemingly healthy to die suddenly. It could be a heart attack, arrhythmia, brain aneurism, abdominal aortic aneurysm, stroke, to name a few things that can happen suddenly or go undiagnosed.

Sorry for your loss!

"How could this happen ... .?" I think that you already know the answer so I will not burden you with details, but move on to more importance.

I am so sorry for your loss. We can not know how you feel, but do know that at times like this, you will continue, fueled by an inner strength and a strong conviction.

I know how you feel. I lost my father from sudden death. He sat down
to read the newspaper and that was it. I had just spoke to my dad on
the phone 45 minutes before. I asked myself the same questions.
I'm so sorry for your the lost of your friend.

I'm sorry for the loss of your dear friend. "Suddenly" is a terrible shock, and more rare today with modern medicine and (hopefully) better eating habits.

DH's father collapsed at 55; got up to use the bathroom early one morning and died of a heart attack. He was overweight and a smoker, but his last physical was OK. A favorite uncle of mine fit the same pattern. "Indigestion" one evening became a fatal heart attack at 56.

The fit father of 4-year-old twins came off duty as a Chicago cop; locked up his gun; took off his uniform; laid down for a nap with one of the twins curled up beside him...and died in his sleep. He was 38.

All hearts do stop. My mother found my grandmother, 93, fully dressed, sitting in her favorite bedroom chair, waiting to go downstairs for breakfast. Mom 'missed her' by about an hour.

Does everyone here know CPR? This thread might encourage us to learn.

Hi again ((((((rosemary))))))

Not only can we not know what tomorrow will bring ...

... we don't even know what's five minutes ahead.

Which might make us more obsessed to focus in on the moment.

But we need to plan for the long run as well.

But enjoy our time with family, friends, and favourite activities while they are with us.

ole joyful

Rosemary, I'm so very sorry. And I completely understand; we lost my FIL the same way--he was on a hike with my DH, and had a massive MI, and was dead when he hit the ground. He was 57, and the greatest guy ever. I wish I had words of comfort--

Same story with my BIL but luckily my sister was there and EMS arrived immediately as they were in the neighborhood(someone was looking out for him!).

Rosemary, did you find out if it was in fact a heart attack which is what it sounded like to me.

The viewing was today. I just got home and am still in my "fancy" clothes.

It was wrenching, but I'm so grateful I attended. I met so much of his family and they were so kind.

They said, "He loved you and talked about you a lot."

I'm sure that was an overstatement, but it comforted me immensely. IMMENSELY.

I shared a few stories with them about their loved one that I'm sure they'd heard before, but they enjoyed hearing it again.

David was a remarkable, wonderful, authentic, honest soul.

It was SO GOOD to be around the people who loved him and appreciated him.

Someone told me today that they think it's more likely that it was an embolism. His leg had been causing him a tremendous amount of pain for several days. The last day of his life, the pain in his leg "disappeared," but they think it was a clot that went to his heart.

Thanks again for the kind words.

Rose

I bet that is what happened so CPR would not have helped in his situation. I've always said I want to go fast just like that but 50 is too young! I'm hoping more like 85 or 90! I just turned 50 so to me that seems terribly young!

I am so sorry for your loss Rosemary... but these things happen.. I remember so clearly two years ago.. My beloved Husband was getting dressed to get his hair cut and the next thing I knew... I was planning his memorial service...

None are guaranteed tomorrow.. and when God calls us home.. that's it.. We don't understand it.. but one day God will make it all clear to us..
My condolences to you and to his family..