Older or younger ... can I play???

13 years ago

I thoroughly enjoyed the "Do you look older (or younger)" thread! What a beautiful bunch of people comprise this very special group! Can I play too? - Although I think many of you already know how old I am, because I've said it a number of times in previous posts.

Never mind the fact that I look like a sweaty pig in this photo. I was taking an 8-year old to see the Jonas Brothers at an outdoor venue. In August. In Texas. That should explain a lot.

;-)

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IdaClaire
Original Author
13 years ago
Oh, and obviously I started a new thread because the previous one has reached its 150 post limit.
:-)
golddust
13 years ago
Auntjen!! Yay! Welcome back. We all missed you! I am not good at guessing ages so I won't even venture.
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stinky-gardener
13 years ago
You look about 26 in that photo AJ! You weren't sweating, you were glowing! You look gorgeous! Great to see you!
Boopadaboo
13 years ago
Hope all is well Aunt Jen. :) You look great. I have to ask - your hair looks freaking amazing. Is this after the low lights highlights you had done? Am I remembering correctly that you did that? if so, I am making an appt ASAP. I have been on the fence about it!
IdaClaire
Original Author
13 years ago
Thanks so much for the kind words! Stinky - 26!? I love you, woman! ;-D

Boop, yes I have now had a combination of highlights/lowlights done twice and am really happy with the results. I'll be needing a touch-up fairly soon - the only thing I don't like is having to fork over the $ to have it done. Ah well ... such is the price of beau-taaaay. ;-)
Faron79
13 years ago
AJ-

Shut up!

You're a total BABE in that picture!!
What's your phone # ya hottie...??!?!
;-)

Seriously, on a quick glance IMO you looked ~ 32. Dead serious there!
Damn good to "see you" back there Girrrrl!

Faron
PS...Sheesh! In my purple-pic at the end of the other thread (night b4 surgery!), I look ~ 72 LOL!
marlene_2007
13 years ago
Jen, you're beautiful! And, you do look like you're in your 30's. Love your hair.
neetsiepie
13 years ago
Don't let her fool you folks....she's actually a well preserved 64. ;>
CaroleOH
13 years ago
Speaking of well preserved, pesky1 weren't you looking into eye surgery? I am so envious and would love to hear if you've scheduled it etc.

AuntJen, Welcome back, we've missed you. Of course, you look younger than you are, so I'm going to guess early 30's.....Just because you've been on this board pretty long and I'm guessing you didn't start posting in college!
teacats
13 years ago
auntjen -- about 30.

Welcome Back! Missed you! Have you been travelling?

How about that welcome rain today! And somewhat cooler weather by Monday! LOL! :)

Jan at Rosemary Cottage
IdaClaire
Original Author
13 years ago
Thanks so much for the kind and welcoming words! I just celebrated my 48th ... can hardly believe I'm coming up on 50 at such an alarmingly fast rate! It's a little (ok, a lot) scary to realize how quickly our lives go by.

Jan, this rain was most welcome indeed! Well, except for the fact that we got so much of it in such a short time that the ground beneath one of my big planters in front of the house shifted and the whole thing toppled over. Luckily the planter didn't suffer any damage (it's a heavy cast iron thing) and it didn't break the concrete step it landed on. My plants look a little worse for wear though.

And yes, I'm thrilled that cooler weather is on its way. I'm running a 5K in the morning - first one I've done in years and I am completely unprepared - but at least it shouldn't be as hot as it has been around here.

We spent two weeks in Puerto Vallarta last month, but that seems like a long ago dream now. :-/
susan209
13 years ago
No matter your age, you are just plain beautiful. As usual it's so nice to see your name here again and pic....always enjoy your thoughts!
leahcate
13 years ago
I had a rough idea, so not a true blind guess. However, in in this pic( and others I've seen) you appear to be about 36-38. Did you do Keratin treatment? Hair looks verrrry nice:>)
Shannon01
13 years ago
Liar! Liar! Pants on Fire! You are not a day over 35!

Ha! I thought you were either a few below or above me, I just could not remember. You look fab as always and the color is really pretty on your complexion.

I have been hanging out with my new BFFs. They are all 80. I am not kidding. Actually, that seems to be the age of the folks getting radiation the same days I go. I did see a young guy, maybe mid 20s, one time but that is it. Every time I see a new patient in the waiting room the first thing they say to me is that I am way to young to be sitting in there with them. How sweet. Makes me feel good. I tell them I agree and that actually I think that THEY are too young to be in there also. Always makes them smile.

Age is really a feeling. Most of the 80s ladies seem so much younger than my mom who is 77. She seems old which is sad for her. Luckily I vowed to never be like that. Our friends are always surprised to learn we are 44 and 50. I think a lot has to do with how you live.
golddust
13 years ago
Auntjen, because my DD is 40, I was guessing you were older than she is but I had no idea how much older. I was thinking 45.

This picture of Aimee was taken in August, 2010. This is her at 40. I think she looks great! Tony is 44. He looks pretty good too!
zipdee
13 years ago
Wow, I found the first post and what an attractive group! Not a one of you look the age you admitted being.

Aunt Jen .. fantastic picture, you're a beautiful lady! I would have guessed mid 30's also.

Here's a recent one of me when we did the Creeper Trail, as you can tell I love having my picture taken *snicker*. See the match sneers? *LOL*

Can't get more 'au natural' than this! Not a lick of make-up, windblown, comfy, saggy, baggy jeans to ride in and large fleece to layer under.. not a glamour shot for sure! :O We sure had fun though, It was a beautiful day!
IdaClaire
Original Author
13 years ago
Golddust, Aimee and Tony look like their in their 20s! I would have guessed maybe 28 tops for both of them. Zipdee, which teen are you? I'm guessing that's you on the left, but you look like you're about 18 years old, if even that!
dgranara
13 years ago
I really wanted to participate in the first thread, but couldn't find a recent pic of myself - they don't exist BY CHOICE :) I might be the least photogenic person alive. The only pics I ever look okay in are the ones I don't know are being taken! Hence the one I'm posting - blurry and zero eye contact. This was my sister-in-law's wedding in July, with my son and my niece.

Honestly, I really wanted to post because I find as I get older I have more and more trouble with estimating age. Usually, I think someone is around my age and come to find out they're 6 or 7 years younger. Maybe I'm in denial.
terezosa / terriks
13 years ago
danielleg, you are gorgeous and your son and niece are so adorable. And I refuse to guess anyone's age. I am sooo bad at it.
IdaClaire
Original Author
13 years ago
You call that non-photogenic? That looks like a photo out of a fashion magazine! What a gorgeous woman and adorable children! I'm going to guess ... 30?
zipdee
13 years ago
Danielleg .. wonderful picture! You're lovely lady and your niece and nephew are just adorable. I'm with Jen, low 30's.

Aunt Jen .. 18 ? Here let me give you a big ole hug! :) Yes, I'm in the cranberry colored fleece, that's my middle daughter with the hoodie tied around her waist. We both look a little worse for wear, we were close to the end of a very windy 20 mile trip. She'll be 13 at the end of December, so that gives you all a pretty good idea how old I am. ;)
Shannon01
13 years ago
I'm wondering what age you think a mom of a 13yr old is? I am hoping you will say something like 35? cause I am way older than that.

My sis is 6 years older than me and her youngest is 21. My youngest is 10. Her oldest is 29 and my oldest is 13. She started having kids young and I started when I was older. Now her oldest will start to have kids but I still have mine at home. Funny.
zipdee
13 years ago
Hi Shannon .. Oh, I don't have a set age for a mom of a 13 year old. :) I totally realize it leaves a large variance in ages depending on when I had her, but unless it was very young that would be early 30 on up.
dgranara
13 years ago
zipdee, I was just gonna say, "you must have had her very young!" I am terrible at guessing ages, but if you told me you were 28, I would 100%, without a doubt believe you!

Jen, very close! 31 (and a half ;))
zipdee
13 years ago
Danielleg .. I actually had my middle daughter Samantha about a month before my 28th birthday. :)

I'll be 41 years old this Feb 6th. I also have a soon to be 15 year old DD and a soon to be 11 year old DD. The time has just flown!

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