DD got her 'NY' present!!

12 years ago

Weeeeellllll....I've got a 21y/o DD now, along with me now a 50y/o!!

She was pretty shocked/happy with her NY tickets, etc.!

One of the presents was a fold-out map of Manhattan, etc.

She of course was looking for the Saks, Prada, YSL locations.........

Her & her Mom will have a fun time I'm sure!!

Early Oct. trip for 4 nights.

Faron

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Oakley
12 years ago
Tell her to get tickets for "Wicked", I hear it's great!
cyn427 (z. 7, N. VA)
12 years ago
What a great dad you are! Fun to have both landmark birthdays in the same year! Early October will be wonderful in NYC!
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DLM2000-GW
12 years ago
I'm up for adoption.
chickadee2_gw
12 years ago
What hotel did you all finally decide on?
les917
12 years ago
A lucky young woman! I hope they have a great time. So much to see and do.

Oakleyok, I saw Wicked when it was here in Chicago. I know it was a huge hit, but I really didn't care for it. One sign to me that a musical has 'legs' is that it has lots of songs that you want to hear again and that get stuck in your head. That wasn't the case for me with this one at all.
tinam61
12 years ago
They will have a great time!!! What a nice mother/daughter adventure.

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work_in_progress_08
12 years ago
That's great. Love the fold out street map of Manhattan. Handy for your purse and will save you a boat load of money as you can walk rather than cab if you have your map. Where did they decide to stay? Have any shows lined up? My first show on Broadway was A Chorus Line, boy was I hooked on Broadway after that. Shows my DD liked - A Chorus Line (who didn't love that show), Chicago, Riverdance, Lion King, Cats, etc. There are so many great shows playing right now!

Hope they have a fantastic time!
goldengirl327
12 years ago
What a wonderful time they will have! Anything Goes, Lion King (hint: try to get seats in the orchestra section), Mary Poppins (hint: try to get seats in right side orchestra), Jersey Boys, Avenue Q (presently off Broadway), Wicked...I've seen these shows with my soon to be 21 year old daughter (sigh/sniff) over the past several years and each one was a hit. They must be soooo excited!! Good work!
nancybee_2010
12 years ago
What a wonderful gift! And a beautiful time of year to be there.
texanjana
12 years ago
You are a great dad!
mahatmacat1
12 years ago
What a lucky daughter and I suspect, what a lucky dad : )

I had a far less desirable double landmark birthday: I turned 50 when my daughter turned 13. Hormones raging in both directions. Your plan was much better!
bestyears
12 years ago
Faron,
I actually planned a surprise trip to NYC with my 15 yo DD this past July, inspired by your original post wanting to surprise your daughter!

Ours was also a mother daughter trip, and it was beyond fabulous. We both came back wanting to move to NYC! Some of our highlights: We bought a $25 subway pass our first day, and hopped on and off the subway constantly. We had some amazing food in all kinds of little places that my daughter had researched prior to going. Truly ate and shopped our way through the city. We saw Mama Mia and How To Succeed... We purchased tickets for both at the ticket booths, one in Time Square and one near Battery Park. The Battery Park ticket booth was great -no line AT ALL. We paid half price both times. Dean & DeLuca was always a treat. MOMA was fun. My daughter enjoyed going to Carlos Bakery and to Kleinfelds (say yes to the dress). She also enjoyed the shopping at the boutiques in Greenwich Village, Chinatown, etc. And 7th Ave. (Fashion Ave.) had some fun boutiques as well.
les917
12 years ago
Ah, Bestyears, How to Succeed was the musical we did my senior year in HS. What a blast! I was Mr Biggley's secretary Miss Jones. I think I can still sing a good share of the songs, and it has been (oh gosh, I still am shocked by this) 40 years.
Faron79
Original Author
12 years ago
I think they DID get tickets to Wicked (orchestra section?!?!?!)!!
That was present #4 of 4!

Plane tickets were #1...Hotel info. was #2...Manhattan street-map was #3...Wicked tickets were box #4!!

DD is planning now how to get her fancy shoes there....;-)
(maybe a 3rd ticket???...;-))

Faron
maire_cate
12 years ago
Faron - here's a handy web site for things to do in NY.

Here is a link that might be useful: NY - Time Out

DD got her 'NY' present!!

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