Will- Your Abies balsamea 'Piccolo' looks okay to me. Abies fraseri 'Fastigiata Compacta' - this is likely the result of propagation of a side branch (tertiary, horizontal, rather than secondary vertical) and would be considered a cultivariant. It should develop a leader within a few years. Unknown fir: look up Abies forrestii Abies koreana 'Glauca' - could be 'Glauca' - do you have a spring/early summer photo, would be easier to make a guess. Abies koreana 'Green Compact' is likely the same as 'Compact Dwarf' Cheers- Brent

People won't care about your husband's clothes. Yes, that is fine. It's not an event for fashion critics. Condolences for your loss.

Just going to weigh in. Happened to find all this today. "Going to Communion" in the Roman Catholic Church is "receiving the Eucharist". The Eucharist is the Body and Blood of our Lord Jesus Christ. It is His entire body and soul, blood and divinity, having been changed from bread and wine into Christ Himself. (see Scripture: This IS MY BODY, do THIS in memory of me) When a Catholic goes to Communion, the priest/minister says "the Body of Christ" or "the Blood of Christ" and the person responds "Amen". Amen means "Yes" or "I believe". So unless a person can say yes to that, and knows what it means, it doesn't make any sense to receive the Eucharist. I for one do not want to assent to any beliefs that I don't actually believe. That would be lying, and all Christians assent to the 10 Commandments where that is forbidden. This is not about exclusion, it's about where one's soul and mind are on the journey of faith.

Nnanatricia, the idea of sending stamps is wonderful! I'm keeping that one in mind for the future. Death is a personal thing and each person's family likes certain things and dislikes certain things. To me it should be based on the decedent's wishes. For instance, my mother loved flowers. Any gift of flowers made her week, or month. To not have an overkill (excuse the phrase) on flowers at her funeral would have been a shame. We ordered 2 large pots plus the casket spray and knew that there'd be a lot of flowers coming, which they did. Turns out the funeral director also owned the flower shop he could "get a discount through" and not only charged us more, but gave us about 1/3 the size it was supposed to be. Needless to say we weren't happy. Then shortly after my aunt died, (my mother's only sister) and I immediately ordered a large arrangement for her. At the last second my sister and I decided to fly down for the funeral. No flowers from us. My uncle was going, oh you didn't have to, you're not expected to, and all that, but I said, no, I PAID for this and they were supposed to be here! That's the point. I was very embarrassed. This was a big flower outfit and surprised me they did this. They claimed they tried to get a hold of me, no message, hmmm. Then said they'd send something to the house afterward. But I'm getting off the point. If you're in a financial bind, you should NOT stress yourself more. Send a card with a note about a memory or something your mother said about the departed. That'll have far more value than the flowers in most cases. I'm also a little sensitive about sending flowers since some churches are now requiring people to leave the flowers for them! I was shocked when I first heard this! But it's happened a few times. That did it for me. No more flowers. Another thing you could do if you wanted, and when financial times are better is send something to the grave for Memorial Day or her birthday or something. That could be thoughtful. I don't think expectations are appropriate for memorials at funerals. It's up to the giver what, if anything they wish to do and more importantly, can afford. Don't try to keep up with the Jones'. I say go with a card and a kind word. And FWIW, if you are thinking of a plant for later, or a tree that the recipient is expected to plant and maintain, make sure it's wanted before you give it. Not everyone likes plants and the trouble to maintain them. Some, especially if they are alone, might leave for a while and who will care for them? Think before you give something just because *you* like it. I don't know many people who don't like or can't use cash! And make it cash (or a check to them) not a gift card! And for donations, I think the person donating should make the donation and tell the family. It was a lot of time, effort and stress for my father to deal with the number of checks and stuff sent to him, one is to be given to Ladies' Auxiliary (who handled the funeral food), another to Diabetes Research, another to Cancer Society, another to the in-town church, another to the church where she was buried etc. Sheesh! He insisted it be done right away. I said put it in a box and we'll do it in a couple weeks after things settled down but of course his feeling was it had to be done immediately.