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have you re-read your school annuals?

3 years ago
last modified: 3 years ago

As you know, I was on a work trip this week. One of the people that I was traveling with is a graduate at the same high school I attended. Her parents are the same age I am. She was spouting off names of people I might know, so when I got home I went down and collected my annuals. I found one of the two people but not the other.


In the process of doing all this I started reading all the different things people wrote on my annual. So many people said I was sweet and nice and hope they'd see me again, and I have no idea who in the heck they are. Sorta made me sad we're not still friends, but I also realized youth is fleeting, and we never know where we're going to go. I cried (I was stupid and didn't go buy an annual at the correct time my senior year, so I made a scrapbook instead. I now wish I had done it every year. I came across the cards y grandparents, and my mother gave me, all who have long since have past) and laughed! My favorite quote was "To my future wife -Mike" I have absolutely no idea who wrote this. I first thought it was funny, because I sure as heck didn't date in high school, much, and even harder when I realized he probably wrote it in every girls' annual. There are so many people I have forgotten, who wrote in my annual we're such good friends.


I guess life is like that though, we make friends and move on, some we keep in our hearts and some we keep in contact with.


Do you ever go back and look?

Comments (37)

  • 3 years ago
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    Yes, I worked on high school reunions so I looked at it often. I have a box of high school memorabilia in the attic which i haven't looked at in years.

    The funniest note in my yearbook is one where a girl thought she was writing in her other friends yearbook, not mine. Its full of gushy messages that have nothing to do with me.

    My best friend was so cute and funny. We were best friends from 8th to 12th and spent all our time together. She wrote ”sorry, i didnt know you very well”. We still keep in touch.

    There was a saying under each person’s senior picture. Mine says ” Success come to one who works faithfully” Whaaat?

    I have yearbooks from 7th to 12th and somehow ended up with my ex’s yearbooks as well.

  • 3 years ago

    I have my high school yearbook, and look at it every few years. There were only 44 girls in my graduating class, so we all knew each other well and many of us have stayed in touch over the years. I loved school, so reading what people wrote to me and seeing their 17 or 18-year-old faces is lovely nostalgia.

  • 3 years ago

    Yes I have year books from Jr year of High school to Sr year of college. The H.S. books I've looked at recently because nephews wife is daughter & niece of my classmates. Every so often I look at college books. I bought Sr year books for my own kiddos and told them to hang on to them as they become more useful as the years pass. No one signed the books in the 1970's. Or else the schools I attended were too big.

  • 3 years ago

    My cousin and I went to the same high school. A couple of years ago his wife wanted some of his pictures from the yearbook for a birthday surprise. I started reading what fellow classmates wrote. Apparently we were close and did activities together, but who in the heck are they? Lol. No way would I remember everyone in my class. We had over 800 kids in my class graduation.

  • 3 years ago

    I have not looked at one of those books in a long time. We were 70 girls. We still have class correspondents and hear news of one another quarterly if we are no longer in touch irl.

  • 3 years ago
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    Never fear about not having purchased yearbooks! I did some genology research (and I am a total beginner) on ancestry.com, and I found my dad's and father-in-law's yearbooks from grade school through graduate school (in my Dad's case). I know for sure that his parents were too poor to consider purchasing yearbooks. They were all there! Of course there were no messages from his friends, etc., but what a joy to see photos of my dad when he was young!

    Additionally, you can put a search into ebay for your old yearbooks. They do come up now and again.

  • 3 years ago

    British schools didn’t have yearbooks until relatively recently. We just had a school photograph ... which I didn’t buy.

  • 3 years ago
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    I had to recently. Was at a nieces wedding. My nieces and nephews all go to the high school I graduated from. A sister of one of my classmates and I were chatting. I said yes I remember your sister-the cheerleader. Nope she was not. She was a swimmer I was told. Some things you don't forget. I looked it up and there she was, Senior squad for football and basketball, cheer squad, mean, haughty with, attitude. I only went there two years as my dad just retired from the USAF. I don't expect to recall most as they flew through my life so quickly. What I did learn is there are nice people and mean people all over. What's hip here is gouache there..it's all such silliness. My mom would only spring for one for all of us--meaning there was always a sibling or two to share with. I remember back in the day thinking how insane I would let anyone write in my year book! Year books tend to be all on line now if you search around. I found the pic I needed from the alumni web site. My sister took ownership of our Annuals centuries ago. She went there three years to my two so no loss for me IMHO.

  • 3 years ago
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    Nope. My mom keeps any yearbooks we got. There were 32 kids in my graduating class,maybe 9 girls, and while I got along with all of them and certainly hope they are doing great,I am in no way interested in revisiting that time. If I wanted to keep in touch with anyone it would be relatively easy,I could just get a Facebook account and find them. Funny enough, one of my older sisters is Facebook friends with most of my high school friends. Good for them....

    My mother likes to talk about our school days and I have no idea why. Any sort of interaction with my mother turns into her reminiscing about people i went to school with and her filling me in on what they are doing now. I have no idea why. Its rather irritating. But I let her do it. I believe she goes back and looks through our yearbooks for whatever reason. She also looks at my siblings wedding videos amd albums over and over and over again. Even the marriages that are long over. She will not let them go. I worry about her sometimes.....

  • 3 years ago

    In high school, I was very popular & friendly. I knew everyones name. I didn't date....I didn't want the drama. I hung out with people that I'd known since Junior high. I've since run into people I went to HS with. It was "weird". NOT fun at all:


    #1) Leaving a grocery store, one grocery bag in hand. Chuck & his friend stopped to chat. Asked if I had a hot date, seeing T-bone steaks on the top of my grocery bag. He took them out. Told me I was spoiled...became angry....his friend grabbed the steaks...told Chuck to stop...and pulled him away...so I could make my escape.

    #2) I was sitting at at a contractors desk ordering a 42 yard concrete pour, dictating a schedule. He remembered me, asked if I was going to our 25th HS reunion? . He was a total stranger, we'd never spoken before or had a class. He acted like he wanted to "hump" me. I had to "set him straight".

    #3) Sandy, got a job at the place I worked. She was on her 3rd husband. Said she kept getting into abusive relationships. She was pregnant her senior year.

    #4) Brook. Apparently worked construction, for years with my husband. He thought he needed to ask me if I remembered the twins, Carolyn & Marilyn? He'd slept with Carolyn....told me the seedy details. Yuck!

    #5) Curt. A trusted friend all through junior and high school. We hung out watching Monte Python on his TV, late at night. Those were fun times! He got a job where I worked. He'd just gotten married for the 2nd time, to a gal, he'd accidentally knocked up. Could barely make his truck payment, hoped to buy a house someday. Still gorgeous and women swooning over his looks pissed off his boss, he said. His boss hated him. He was going to stick it out for 3 years.


    None of those encounters were "fun". None of those people were happy with how their lives had turned out. It was "upsetting"....I've thought about them often....

  • 3 years ago

    Nope, not unless someone tells me about a classmate and I want to look them up to see if it twigs a memory. Otherwise, it never even occurs to me.


    Actually, I don't even have any from high school or undergrad; the only yearbook I have is from vet school, which I kept for 2 reasons: 1) it was the first time that a graduation felt meaningful, because it was the first time I really felt I had really learned and achieved something, and 2) I loved the name of our yearbook (Borborygmos), and our class mascot (each class chose a different animal as a mascot).

  • 3 years ago

    I actually feel sorry for those who didn't experience what my school seems to have gotten correct. The day you got your annual, the entire school was allowed to wander around, lingering in halls, getting students, principals, and friends to write thoughts. It was so much fun! And bonding. I have them from all the other years they were offered, junior high and high school. You missed out.

  • 3 years ago

    My yearbooks were stored in a cardboard box in a closet. When I moved out they got moved to the basement. It got flooded while my parents were on vacation and they turned into blocks of mold. I wish I still had them to read what people wrote 52 years ago.

  • 3 years ago

    I recently found my yearbooks from prep school. It was a very competitive environment and I was just a middle class girl among a group of very wealthy students so I was not really close to anyone. There are a few notes in my yearbook but nothing of substance.

    I went to my 5th class reunion but haven't been back since. 50th is coming up in a couple years but I still have no desire to reconnect. Attending that school, I got a fabulous education but no life long friends out.

  • 3 years ago
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    @rob333 (zone 7b)...I've got that book. Everyone was WONDERFUL! Lots of joy! Lots of compliments! Lots of well wishing. We had the day off from classes to walk around signing. But now....now their lives....s u c k...I mean....they've experienced abuse. They're angry. They're working jobs they hate. That one guy was married and propositioning me....

  • 3 years ago

    moosemac, that's interesting. At my private school there were some fabulously wealthy families, many middle class kids, and some on scholarships. But the friendships went across socioeconomic lines: it was the 1970s, and money was never flaunted or even referred to, although you could tell a certain amount by the size of some people's apartments. It was only in later years that I understood just how wealthy some families were.

    I had a very famous person in my class for a couple of years. She took the public bus to and from school like everyone else. These days someone like that might be chauffered, but both her mother and the school wanted her to have as normal an experience as possible. It was a very different time.

  • 3 years ago
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    I've looked at my senior class yearbook several times over the years. I'd worked on it -- and the school newspaper. I could show you what Hilary looked like as a freshman. I could show you a candid of Harrison Ford rolling around a film projector as a geeky kid from the audio-visual department. It was a gigantic school, crammed to the rafters with the baby boomers who came after me. Half the student body went to a new school the year after I graduated and it halved again when another new school opened two years after that.

  • 3 years ago

    My brother has a friend who has a Beverly Hills HS yearbook with the Menendez Brothers pictures in it, and he said it is now very valuable.

  • 3 years ago

    Occasionally. I've had contact with a number of former classmates over the last 25 years and they're a a good reference. I have yearbooks from both Jr. High and high school. I was on the yearbook staff in HS, responsible for the sports pages. The few I've been in touch with are not in regular contact with others. Though we all grew up in a big city, life has a way of scattering people to the four corners of the Earth (not literally) and both I and many of my classmates people no longer live there.

  • 3 years ago

    I have four yearbooks from high school(9-12) and one from college. My husband has two , HS and Penn State which is enormous compared to mine. My high school boyfriend wrote in two of mine and my husband wrote in the last one. Most of the guys were not too creative..."Best of luck to a sweet girl"...lol I email one HS friend and have a few more as Facebook friends. My college roommates are friends on FB as well. My two closest HS friends are dead.

  • 3 years ago

    I spent quite a bit of time with my high school yearbook this past summer. I was involved with the planning for a 55 year reunion. One of my tasks was to scan and print a picture of each of the deceased classmates. Sadly, there were 27 out of a class of about 120.

  • 3 years ago

    Private schools have always served a variety of socio-economic classes, from the obviously rich to the stolidly middle class with some formerly rich and scholarship students. There was more socio economic variety at my children's schools than at our local public school. Being able to make friends from different walks of life is a major plus going up and down the line. Showing off is not a good look among truly rich people. That doesn't mean people are unaware, they most certainly are. Awareness of the differences need not mean caring about them, though.


  • 3 years ago

    One of my tasks was to scan and print a picture of each of the deceased classmates. Sadly, there were 27 out of a class of about 120.


    My step father's high school was in PA, but they held alumni events all over the ocuntry, like most private schools. Going ot those mixers/events with him became sad for him after a while for this reason.

    My husband and I have started to have deaths in our classes as well. They are still premature. It's always very sad.

  • 3 years ago

    I have looked through mine and lately have talked to a gal I remembered from HS. it was great seeing her, but sadly, she is recently widowed. She caught me up on several of the girls we both knew and it was rather shocking.

    Bubbly cheerleader. Mentally ill and has struggled her whole adult life. Multiple divorces.

    One in jail for manslaughter.

    I bumped into one gal and did not recognized her at all. I remembered her as so pretty, well liked beautifully dressed, from a wealthy family and got good grades. She is now a broken down alcoholic who looks haggard and filthy dirty. A bitter angry woman. I could not believe it was the same person.

    A few who were very ambitious and studious have become very successful in their fields and are community leaders.

    No-one is surprised I remained a nerd. Maybe only that I made money at it. :-)

  • 3 years ago
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    No-one is surprised I remained a nerd. Maybe only that I made money at it. :-)

    One of the great joys of adulthood, isn't it?

  • 3 years ago

    Not very often, unless one of my friends asks if I remember so and so, then I usually have to go look for who they're talking about.


    About 8 or 9 years ago I went back home to visit and met an old school friend, we kinda quit hanging out in high school but became friends on Facebook many years later. We decided to meet up in the current town she lives in. I was talking to her about this panoramic picture we took in jr. high and she said she didn't have it. I told her I'd send it to her if I found it when I got back home. She had many more friends in that school than I did and I thought she'd like it. I finally found it and mailed it to her.


    Before I did, I took a picture with my phone of my other old friend and sent it her. She was surrounded by other Indian girls. When I sent it, my friend said it just made her sad because every one of them had died. We were in our early 50s maybe by then?

  • 3 years ago

    I had all four years of my high school yearbooks, but have lost my senior yr book. I do know where I can buy a copy. Year books from many US high schools are available at "classmates.com". Those are bit pricey, about $100 plus shipping and handling, but where else are you going to find the one you want? These are used book sourced from other students or left over copies. Most will contain signature notes by classmates of that period.


    I attended my 60th high school class reunion when our average age was 78 yrs old. The statistics were correct. Half of us had passed away, and a few of the remaining were not fully cognizant. For me, it was more of a sad affair than a happy one.

  • 3 years ago
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    I haven't looked at mine in a while. Not even sure where I'd start to look for it. I now live in the neighboring district and coincidentally last night my daughter found an online archive of yearbooks that our library keeps. I've been poring over their yearbooks from my era all night (insomnia), finding some old friends, girlfriends, and people I know but didn't realize they grew up here. It's been fun.

  • 3 years ago
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    Many libraries have yearbooks from their communities. That was one of the sources we used to help adult adoptees find their birth families when I was with a search and support group, Truth Seekers in Adoption more than twenty years ago. (Much easier to do that and genealogy now, with the internet.)

  • 3 years ago

    I have my last high school yearbook, 1965….many students and most teachers are dead. My high school boyfriend and husband of 52 years and I live in another state now.

  • 3 years ago
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    I don't have any of mine - my mother would decide that I no longer needed such things and throw them out without asking or telling me (she started that with my dolls when I was about 9).

    But, honestly, I probably wouldn't have kept them myself for long. Let's just say that high school was not my favorite life period - and I remember very few of the people that were in my classes (that has been the case for decades). My graduating class had a 50th year reunion last month and I had no interest in going - haven't been to any of them.

    I would like to still have the ones from my elementary and Jr. high schools, though.

    Conversely, I encouraged my brother to attend his reunion last year. He was going through a rough patch emotionally, and I knew that his HS experience was very different from mine; he has lasting friendships from that time, and seeing people who would remember him and be glad to be with him would be good for him.

    However, I have a book (photos of the local area) that was given to me by my co-workers when I left CA for OH, signed by most of the staff with lovely messages. That I do treasure, because it brings back memories of some of the best years of my life.

  • 3 years ago

    I found mine a couple of years ago when I was cleaning out things and they went into the dumpster with the rest of the stuff I did not want. I moved on from high school and very few of the people would I want to do more than say hello to. Only person I have reconnected to was what I call my birthday buddy. We were born on the same day although he is I think two hours older than me. He was putting together a 40th class reunion and just happened to find a note with my married name.

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    3 years ago

    No. I have no reason to "reminisce" about being bullied. I threw mine away years ago.

  • 3 years ago

    (((mine2X)))


    I'm sorry to hear that.

  • 3 years ago

    How timely. I was just "cleaning out" some boxes of books my daughter had left here, and among them, I found her elementary school, middle school and high school yearbooks. She did not want them shipped to her. I contacted our town's historical society museum, and the curator did not have books from those graduation years in her collection. She were thrilled to get them, but not as thrilled as I was to pass them along and get them out of my house! I do not have any of my own yearbooks. DH does, but he was senior class president, so that probably explains it.

  • 3 years ago

    I do when planning a reunion...but it can be a sad time...so many are deceased or phyically can not attend. I do call each of the living girls every Christmas or if there is something they might be interested in knowing.