I just met with a funeral planner
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Is all lost? I don't want to hold 3 plumeria funerals!
Comments (7)Hello Becky! Nice to hear from another UK grower, that makes 4 of us so far!....unless I have missed anyone else ('Freshwater' is from Cornwall, so look out for his posts, and you have already met Hazel, I think Hazel is from West Midlands area, no doubt she will correct me if I'm wrong on that!) I am also a novice plumie grower and have just the one plant, a Celadine that is almost 2 yrs old grown from a 6inch cutting my aunt sent me from Australia. It flowered last year for the first time. I think you will have success in growing them here in our climate as long as you follow the expert advice you find on here. The most important things to remember are to use free and fast draining cactus soil/perlite mix, dont overwater or let them stand in saucers of water especially when they have lost their leaves during the dormant stage (they don't always go dormant though) If in doubt....ask! someone will always come in to offer help. Where in the UK are you from, I'm from the Staffordshire Moorlands. What varieties have you got? If you open a free 'photobucket' account,(www.photobucket.com) you can add pictures to your messages on here, its very useful. Hope to hear from you soon. Welcome and Regards, Gill....See MoreMet with financial planner yesterday (retirement)
Comments (42)I'll be happy to help you with this. First of all, there are two different reduction calculations: one for the basic insurance and one for the option B insurance. It sounds like your question pertains to the basic insurance. As I stated in an earlier post, it appeared that your husband had calculated the basic insurance premium based on a 50% reduction at age 65. What this means is that starting with the 2nd month following his 65th birthday, the amount of his basic insurance will decrease 1% per month for 50 months until the amount of the insurance is only 50% of what it was when he retired. So, if he started with $150,000 of basic life insurance, it would end up being $75,000 when he is 69. The amount that he pays will change from .925 per thousand to .325 per thousand at age 65 and will continue for as long as he lives. He could also choose the "no reduction" option, in which case the basic insurance would never be reduced and the full $150,000 would be payable upon his death. However, instead of paying .925 per $1000, his premium would start off at more than double that amount. He would be paying $2.155 per $1000. Finally, he also could choose the 75% reduction which of course is the cheapest. He would start off paying only .325 per $1000, but at age 65 the amount of basic life insurance would begin reducing at the rate of 2% per month until only 25% was left. So, if he started with 150,000 worth of basic insurance, he would be left with only 37,500 by age 68. However, he would stop paying premiums at age 65 and the 37,500 worth of insurance would be free for the rest of his life. Similar choices must be made with regard to the optional insurance, but I believe that those choices don't have to be made until he is 65. Let me know if you want me to go into detail about the optional insurance (which represents about $300,000 of his coverage). I hope that this explanation has helped somewhat....See Morefuneral
Comments (3)the 12mth anniversary of my sons passing on the 17th sept was a lot harder than I thought it would be. It was like reliving that fateful day all over again, I just kept going over and over it in my head, it was really hard. I did some positive things, like taking flowers to the crem and I got some of my friends and family to light candles at 6pm the time of his passing and that felt nice.. my husbands 50th birthday was 3 days before but its always so hard having that birthday card missing. my fathers 1 year anniversary is on the 23rd oct but I am really going to try and be a lot more positive, and try not to get myself into a state. I like a lot of people just wish to know that they are all ok and together, but maybe I am just trying to hard....See MoreQuestion about funeral luncheons
Comments (29)I come from a family in a state where farming was a big part of the history. Customs were developed in the days when people would not be in a major metropolitan area. When someone on the farm died there were multiple hardships. First, the death of the person meant someone was not able to perform the chores on the farm. Another hardship could be that if it was the cook in the family, there was the obvious hardship. And to attend a funeral often meant traveling a long distance for many people and it wasn't just fly in and rent a car, or drive a few minutes or a few hours. It was horse and buggy and slow going. SO, therein lies history of how some of the traditions started. Bringing food to the family helped them out. Today, obviously, that is not such a big issue since you can buy ready made meals, get deliveries and more. The idea of a "lunch" after a funeral was to feed the travelers. Many would come a long distance and there weren't the drive-thru windows and restaurants along the way to grab something. Packing food for the trip was inconvenient so it was a nice gesture to feed them before they would leave. Again, this tradition has become obsolete as to necessity but a lot of people like to go with the old traditions. Seldom in a metro area have I experienced the food after the funeral. Often funerals are held in funeral homes and they don't have catering facilities. (Although I imagine the crematory could make a wicked pizza oven!) Smaller towns however it often is the norm to serve something, usually at the church or at some other place. Most of the small churches have kitchen facilities. There's still usually a "Ladies Aid" or "Ladies Axillary" who handle the food in various ways. Either they make it or they buy it, depending on the place. Otherwise, they're often catered. However catering isn't always like a huge formal wedding type of catering. For instance at my aunt's funeral it was "catered". The caterer provided an electric roaster full of scalloped potatoes and ham, canned corn, apple crisp, bread and butter, coffee, water and I believe something like a punch or lemonade. Not fancy but it met the tradition. When people close to me die, one of the last things I'm thinking about is eating. I really don't appreciate when people bring food for several reasons. Often it's not stuff I like or even should be eating (canned glop green bean salad for instance) and I'm just not hungry. I don't have to keep my energy levels going for farm chores. Things have changed. I agree with Archie Bunker on things I really dislike. Hospitals, weddings, funerals and opera. I don't like the morbidity of most traditional funerals. I prefer the "celebration of life" type of memorial. One of the best memorials I've attended was at a good friend's service. He was a television broadcaster for a long, long time and was inducted into the Broadcasting Hall of Fame. The Hall of Fame respected him so much they invited the widow to have the memorial at their building and they opened it special for that use. They also put together a great compilation of some of his broadcasting over the years and made room for chairs to have a sharing of memories and some of the other "celebrities", family and friends shared stories about him. It was hilarious and heart-warming. For food, the widow felt there needed to be refreshments so there were snacks, sandwiches, cake, etc. They had some of his items from his military service, old publicity items and the like. Sad to lose a good friend but he lived a long and very full life. He was catholic but became a reformed agnostic. So he was cremated. They also had a similar service in the small town where he lived the last 15 years or so and a priest or minister participated in that memorial but, being nearly 4 hours away, and with physical issues I couldn't attend that one too. Long-winded, I know, but the point I'm making is that traditions have changed a lot over the years, primarily due to peoples' choices, sometimes peoples' selfishness and a lot because the old ways just aren't needed anymore....See MoreAnnie Deighnaugh
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