The Biology of Grief
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Switching to organic
Comments (12)Uncle al, Go for it. I don't see any info where you live or what zone you are in, but if the soil temp is near or above 60, you can apply organics anytime. I've used alfalfa , soybean meal, corn meal, and milorganite. I like soybean meal the best, but it is way to pricey now, over $20 for a 50# bag. So now I have Bay State fertilizer which is the same as Milorganite, just made in Boston rather than Milwaukee. I don't think you have to wait until late May or June to start. Get a full application down the first time you mow. If you grass is growing, there will be microbe activity as well. It can take up to 3 weeks to see the green up, but the first time I applied organics it was 6 days when I could see the spots I missed, they were still yellow and everything else was turning real green and growing. Also, the cycle for organics is usually 6 weeks, so I started applying a full dose up front, followed by 1/2 doses every 3 weeks all summer up until October. The lawn loved it, it never got a chance to look pale. The only thing is I was mowing ever 4 days, but I enjoy it so it works fine for me. This year I'll cut back to 2/3 doses once a month and see how that goes. And despite what others say, by the end of this year you will have a major increase in soil dwellers such as earthworms. Within two years, you will see an increase in wildlife. Yes ther will be more birds, more toads, squirrels, chipmunks, field mice, rabbits, snakes, and possibly larger animals depending on where you live. Nature's cycle will benefit tremendously from your simple choice to use organic fertilizers....See MoreGrow lights
Comments (45)Good observations, Earthlark! There definitely would be differences in the percentage of light that was usable, especially because plants' ability to use light of different wavelengths is not linear. To really evaluate the situation, you'd have to do some fancy calculations (there are a couple of different ways to do it, but both are beyond easy explanation here). If you look at the light output v. wavelength graph of a typical florescent bulb you'll see that there is a peak that tapers off on both sides but it's not a simple bell-shaped curve. The graph of light that is usable to a plant is a little more complex and will actually include multiple peaks resulting from multiple chlorophyll structures. You'd have to combine these graphs to get an idea of exactly what was going on. As to the 100 lumen difference in the different lights, I wouldn't worry about it for that difference in price. If you were buying lights for a large facility, it might be worth lots of evaluations. In the case of a simple seed bench, as long as most of the light from the bulbs you choose is usable by the plants (which in the case of a 6500K bulb, it is), the difference isn't going to be great. The bigger problem (as far as fluorescent bulbs go) is mostly on the lower wavelength end. Yes reflectors can make a big difference. It's been a while since I was fixture shopping, but the last fixtures I got had economy-grade reflectors and were actually a little cheaper than the ones without reflectors, from the best I can remember. The economy-grade reflectors weren't quite as efficient, but their small size allowed me to add another fixture for each shelf, which gave me even more light and better plant performance....See MoreHeronswood being moved to pa.!!!!!! oh nooooo
Comments (2)Shock. Denial. Anger. Grief. Acceptance. Going to Newbury Perennial Gardens to drown my sorrow. Typical of a big corporate buyouts. At the purchase time, the line is always that "we like it the way it is. If it ain't broke don't fix it." But in a few years, that always changes. Don't let the fox in the hen house, no matter what it promises before about not eating the chickens. You know it's the nature of the fox to eat chickens. Big businesses are about cranking as much profit as possible, and finding ways to make an already profitable business more profitable usually involves a very big change, as Dan Hinkley discovered. I hope he starts a new operation after the no-compete period is over....See MoreIs this normal? What now?
Comments (8)Kristina, I can understand your pain. I really do. Losing someone we love so much so suddenly is a hard thing to swallow and just "get over". I lost my 19 year old daughter and my mom. I'm glad to hear that you WANT to get on with your life and turn this into a positive. That is the first step. Only YOU have control of your attitudes and emotions. I'm sure that your dad loves you as much as you love him. You are his child and loving parents want their children to be happy and live long, productive, lives. Your dad most definitely wants that for you. He provided you with an education and a loving home. He showed you how to love and now you are marrying and will love a spouse and have a family as he did. Part of your dad is within you because of biology, but also your dad is within you because love does not end at death. You carry that love with you in whatever you do and where ever you go. Your dad will always be there with you, in your heart and his spirit beside you. I'm sure that it will make him very happy for you to live on and take advantage of the good life that he provided for you. Try not to waste any more good years of your life letting this grief destroy days of happiness that he would want you to have. Being that you were a senior in college, your dad knew that you would graduate and I'm sure that he was very proud of you before he passed away. He knew that it would happen. He also knew that some day you would marry and have a family of your own, and he wants you to be happy with that too. I believe that he sees you and your accomplishments and it would not want for you to let his death dampen a day of your life. If you had a child now, you wouldn't want that for your child, would you? Do what he wants. You have certainly grieved for him, you have shown that you love him, now try to move forward and be happy that you were fortunate enough to have a wonderful dad as you did. He gave you life and now you have to try to live it again, happily. Please continue to come here or email me if you need to "talk" more. Sincerely, Lulie Cosby Here is a link that might be useful: Christin Cosby Memorial Web Site...See Moreblfenton
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