Thanks all... we do have AAA, though I would want her to call us first. And my thought about the gas is similar to gsciencechick -I'm going to figure out what I've been paying and offer her that, and the rest is up to her. Like daisy, our oldest just didn't push the limits, so life was easier. I wish we could go to bed and set an alarm, but honestly, neither my husband nor I seems capable of doing that. DD is and always has been a really energetic, fun-loving girl, hell bent on making life a grand adventure. Nothing wrong with that of course, and to her credit, she has steered herself well away from the 'party kids', so I don't truly worry about that, but I sometimes just feel like it's exhausting just supervising her. The last two days of school they were released at 10:45... She went to the mall, then to lunch with friends, then to a pool party, then to dinner, then wanted to go to the mini-golf place at 9. Repeat the next day. She works so funds this herself. I'm sure there was a day when I lived life at that pace too, but I can barely stay awake past ten these days. Our rule is that she must text us from the place she is at prior to moving on to another location. She bristles even at that (who knew texting while you were out with friends could be so invasive LOL!). Her view is that as long as she's home by curfew, we don't need all the details. Mmmmmhmmmm. So while I don't honestly worry about 'partying' (though of course I am always looking for signs of anything along those lines) I do worry about her general safety. In the car, on fast roads, in parts of the city they ought not to be, etc..... When I was a teen, I was a very straight kid with lots of great friends, and I had super strict parents. I was always the one in our group with the most limits. I not only resented it, but remember thinking, "This is so stupid, all this wasted worry and energy on things that are never going to happen." For example, my bestfriend's parents were going to be out for the night, so we would want to hang out at her house. It was just so great not to be under adult supervision all the time. We'd watch a scary movie, throw popcorn at each other.... the idea of having a party or sneaking booze in was not even in our universe. But that's what my parents would express to me. "How do we know you aren't going to .... blah, blah, blah." It all seemed to stupid. Now I feel a bit like I'm on the other end of it. Thanks for all the thoughts. Hoping others will continue to weigh in....

The important thing is to set one's own standard and then try to live up to it. There is something profoundly satisfying in living a life according to one's own principles or articles of faith, and especially in getting through the rougher patches of life without violating the standards we have chosen for ourselves. To me, that is what is important. If I think that telling someone that Santa is real is a lie, then it is important for ME not to do that. If someone else does not regard it as a lie, then s/he is not violating his own standards by promoting it. And in this short discussion we have already seen that the concepts of "truth" and "lies" may not be as related as we like to think. Saying "I am fine" when clearly you're not is not generally considered lying, but it isn't the truth, either. The gray areas exist, defined by each of us in accordance to upbringing, beliefs, life experiences and knowledge gained over a lifetime.

I love the blue and green you’re going with. Funky’s right with it being ” fresh and clean.” I know you don’t want to buy anything, but when you mentioned plates, I thought of fans. Some of these are exquiste and perfect in a bedroom. ‘Sorry this link is so long. https://www.google.com/search?source=univ&tbm=isch&q=framed+antique+fans&hl=en-us&client=safari&fir=4WUSi763HWdRPM%252CzTs6eESIGvmoMM%252C_%253B1mWYsh7PZc001M%252C0r6CNqH7yEc4NM%252C_%253BydG7syObzM-cNM%252CxBL3W9MJjKRt5M%252C_%253BVFKIoA_BLbn_iM%252CYJ6rtN4ebNN45M%252C_%253Bu-ICU0inLJXcgM%252CWhSNByWP8MYDWM%252C_%253B9GIJ4hicsQJVHM%252CU_hZ7G_lvUPZsM%252C_%253BkWGGPA7qa21z2M%252CAqTt8sVRYgZJAM%252C_%253Bh7a1ebarBZCA9M%252C2-ynV_3Ddzf3TM%252C_%253Bfu0Ose68TevSCM%252CMntSAgP7TQQvhM%252C_%253BSQNmgWTUuM_ymM%252C4kmtZiq1LP9IZM%252C_&usg=AI4_-kTt2fyiblsbK-eTSJmhPYFf9L6lcQ&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwimi6_84MD0AhXbRTABHfSGCNMQjJkEegQICBAC&biw=1121&bih=1298&dpr=2#imgrc=Hz26C4qp1L_6IM

@nicole___ Yes, that style is quintessential raincoat, designed by Burberry for the British Army in the late 1800s and popular ever since. It is a sort of "you can't go wrong" look but pretty unremarkable. I may keep it, but not for Iceland necessarily since it has no hood. I am not sure if I need it though since i have the identical one in black from Burberry. @Bumblebeez SC Zone 7 I confess to considering buying two. It is a little like my buying pale pink luggage and then needing a sleeve to protect it. @jsk I liked 5 for the simplicity but on me, as opposed to on supermodels, it looks more blah than simple. @Kswl I don't like the chemicals, plus I am afraid I'd apply it unevenly and see it. I've already warned the family that i bought a white raincoat, and it's going to be "a thing" on our trip. Please avoiding touching me unless absolutely necessary, and a small bounty will be on offer to anyone who can spot hazards for me. DH will need to carry Lysol wipes to prepare all surface before milady is seated. Half-joking. Half. In the dictionary under "high maintenance" is white raincoat wearers.