Ivan passed away.

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I am starting this post for Linda. She is unable to start one. She posted this on my Mia's heart thread
Raven, I can't seem to be able to start a post and don't know why, but I wanted to tell you and everyone else, that my husband Ivan passed away today, July 30 at 1:45 PM. peacefully the doctor said. He has gone to our heavenly home to suffer no more. God's will was done and for that I am thankful.
Linda I can't even imagine what you are going through. My heart is breaking for you. He is at peace. Please let me know if you need anything. My prayers are with you. ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏

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schoolhouse_gwagain

My sympathies to you and your family, Linda.

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My condolences to you and your family.

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So sorry for you Linda.

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I am so very sorry Linda.

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I'm so sorry, Linda.

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stacey_mb

Deepest sympathies. ((((Linda))))

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socks

Linda, heartfelt condolences. I remember you were agonizing over his health when he was in the hospital. I hope you have friends and family surrounding you, offering you comfort.

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I'm so sorry, Linda.

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kadefol

I am very, very sorry for your loss, Linda

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nicole___

Linda I am so sorry. It breaks my heart to hear this.....(((hugs)))

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Fun2BHere

Sympathies to you and your family on your loss.

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amylou321

(((((HUGS)))))

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pudgeder

There are no words. Please know you're in my prayers!

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salonva

I am so sorry .

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happy2b…gw

So sorry for your loss, Linda.

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jkayd_il5

So sorry Linda. Hugs.

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Jasdip

I'm sorry to read this Linda. Please accept my deepest condolences.

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terilyn

Linda, I am so very sorry, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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OklaMoni

So sorry, Linda.... my condolences.


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Lucille

My condolences, I am so sorry, Linda.

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greenshoekitty

I also send my condolences to you( and yours). I am glad he is now at peace, and not in pain.

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OutsidePlaying

Linda, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Wishing you comfort and peace during this difficult time.

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morz8

I'm so sorry and offer my sincere condolences. I wish you comfort during this so difficult time. ((((hugs))))

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samkarenorkaren

Linda you have my heartfelt condolences.

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wanda_va

Linda, I am so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in your faith and in knowing that Ivan is with the Lord. Prayers for you and your family.

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Lukki Irish

Linda, my heart sunk when I read Raven’s post. I’m so sorry for your loss and I wish there was something more we could do to help. I just lost my husband over Memorial Day weekend, so unfortunately I’m sadly able to relate to the amount of pain and sorrow you are going through. (((hugs)))

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glenda_al

I'm so sorry, Linda.

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georgysmom2

Oh Linda, I am so so sorry to read this. My sincerest condolences to you. May your 50 years of great times, great memories bring you comfort at this time.

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mama goose_gw zn6OH

My sympathies, Linda. I've been where you are now, and I know difficult it is to think or even to breathe. I hope you find peace.

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murraysmom Zone 6a OH

Condolences to Linda and Lukki. I'm sorry for both your losses.

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blfenton

I am so sorry to see this Linda. My thoughts are with you during this tough time. Hugs to you and your family.

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Annie Deighnaugh

I'm so sorry. Sending you thoughts of condolence, comfort, strength, courage and healing in this difficult time.

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tami_ohio

I am so very sorry to see this. My sympathy and prayers.

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donna_loomis

My sincere condolences to you and your family.

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PattiG(rose)

My condolences to you at this difficult time, Linda.

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desertsteph

so sadden to hear this news. my prayers are with you and your family.

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yeonassky

Linda I am so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace Ivan.

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lindaohnowga

Thank you Raven for posting for me and thank you everyone for your kind wishes for me. I can't even find out how to thank each of you.

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Ava

I am sorry to hear your sad news. Linda, please remember to take care of yourself.

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bragu_DSM 5

Thoughts and prayers to you and yours, Linda.

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Granny J

My condolences to Linda and family.

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laceyvail 6A, WV

So sorry, Linda. It's always a tragedy to lose a loved one, but somehow in this very difficult time, the tragedy is even harder to take. My deepest sympathy.

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maire_cate

I am so sorry Linda. Sending hugs and prayers to you and your family.

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Marilyn_Sue

I too am very sorry Linda that you lost your husband, hugs.

Sue

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Uptown Gal

I am so very sorry. Keeping you in a prayer for coping and comfort.

Hugs.

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graywings123

Linda, I am so sorry for your loss. Sending a virtual hug your way.

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hallngarden

Condolences to you, remembering you in my prayers.

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Ninapearl

linda, i'm so very, very sorry for your loss and for you, as well, lukki.

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sprtphntc7a

Linda, so sorry for the loss of your husband. ((((hugs)))) to you

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marilyn_c

Linda, I am so very sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Michele

Linda, I’m so sorry for your loss. I pray for strength for you to get you through this painful time. To you too Lukki and anyone suffering a loss

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sleeperblues

I'm so sorry, Linda

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chisue

Heartfelt sympathy, dear widows. Gasp! That dreaded *word*! That *missing*! That sudden silence, with only absence where your mind and heart still look for his familiar, loving presence. How I dread this! Sending you sympathy and courage.

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Yayagal

Linda, you have my deepest sympathy and I will keep you and your loved ones in my prayers.

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DawnInCal

I'm very sorry for your loss, Linda. My best wishes to you for strength, courage and peace of mind in the coming days and months.

Lukki, I wasn't aware that your husband had passed. My deepest condolences to you too during this difficult time.

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sjerin

Oh Linda, I'm so very sorry to read this. I hope you have much support and will say a little prayer for you. And for all the recent and long-time widows and widowers.

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ritamay91710

I'm so sorry, Linda, may he rest in peace.

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Kathsgrdn

I'm so sorry, Linda.

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katlan

Linda, I'm very sorry you lost your husband. I wish you peace from your grief. You have so many friends here, please lean on us anytime you need to. Good bless his soul.

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Ont_Gal

I am so very sorry Linda.

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Cherryfizz

My condolences to you and your family.

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Bluebell66

I'm sorry, Linda. Thinking of you. Hugs.

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WalnutCreek Zone 7b/8a

Hugs and my condolences, Linda.


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joann_fl

So sorry for your loss ((((((((Linda))))))))).

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lisa_fla

I’m so sorry to read this. I can’t even imagine what you are going through. An online grief support group might be helpful.

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Dolly

My condolences, Linda. Hope you have someone close you can rely on to help you.

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phyllis__mn

Caring thoughts going to both of you who have lost their husbands recently.

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woodrose

Linda and Lukki Irish , having lost my husband on July 15th, I share your grief and heartbreak. You have my deepest sympathy. I know my dear husband is with the Lord and that is a great comfort, but I feel the loss greatly. I feel so alone, even though I'm surrounded by family. There is nothing that can replace that one very special person in your life.

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phoggie

Sending you prayers for comfort, strength, and peace.🙏🏼

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lindaohnowga

My sincere sympathy to those of you who have also lost your husbands. May God give you all of the strength and comforting you need as you begin your "new Normal" as I am doing.

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ravencajun Zone 8b TX

Linda how are you doing? I have been thinking of you constantly. I hope you are eating and taking care of yourself.

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yeonassky

So sorry woodrose. I hope you find solace and comfort in memories.

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Lukki Irish

Hi Dawn, thank you for the kind words. I didn’t post a thread about it, I tried but couldn’t get through writing it.

Woodrose, I’m so sorry for your loss as well. It is a very lonely space to be, the sadness is overwhelming.

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lindaohnowga

We won't talk about eating Raven, but I take all of my vitamins which are many and try to drink a daily Ensure to get needed nutrients. I always eat my usual breakfast of 3 pieces of toast with grape jelly and some coffee. It is supper meals that are hard. Frozen dinners are yuck to me. I try to order at least one meal a week delivered from my favorite restaurant. May have to do that twice a week. Wish I had a neighbor who liked to cook who would share with me, but I don't. In time I may need to look into meals on wheels. I can't stand for any length of time to try to make a meal and with one hand on my cane, that leaves me 1 hand to try to carry anything.

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yeonassky

Lukki I am also sorry for your loss. I thought I had commented to you but my migraines are getting the best of me these days and I am forgetful. (((((Lukki)))))

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lily316

I'm so sorry for your loss, Linda. And it's even more difficult in these trying times. I hope you can find some peace.

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Lukki Irish

Yeonassky thank you, I appreciate your kind words. I’m sorry to see that you’re experiencing migraines. I used to have them terribly and my sister is prone to them as well. She’s actually found relief by vaping CBD. I live far from her and don’t know much about it but it’s apparently worked miracles for her.

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Lukki Irish

Linda, your situation at home is concerning. Do you have any support from family or friends? If you would like some assistance with finding a meals on wheels type of program in your area, please message me. I would be happy to help you to find some resources. As for cooking and mobilization, do you have or have you considered getting a walker to use as well? If you think a walker would help, do you have the resources available to get one?

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Summer

Linda, my condolences to you on the passing of your beloved Ivan. If you lived nearby, I would love to cook for you. I miss preparing meals to share with my mom so much.

Lukki, I didn't know about your husband. You amaze me with how well you are coping. It must be very hard though.

Woodrose, I am sorry to hear of your loss, too. I am glad that you have family to surround you.

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lindaohnowga

Lukki Irish, I have canes, several walkers, a rollator, handicapped toilet seats that fit over regular toilets. I'm well supplied with medical equipment. I can call the local Senior Citizen's Center that helps seniors with various things and I do believe they have the meals on wheels program. My girlfriend gets my groceries and cleans the house once a week, but will come help me anytime. The man next door helps too and will take me to doctor appointments. Thanks so much for your concerns about me. I should be just fine.

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Lukki Irish

Summer, My DH was my world and soulmate. The grieve comes in waves, sometimes it’s a swell and other times a sunami.

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Lukki Irish

Linda, thank you for responding. I’m really glad you have resources available and a support system. I work in the healthcare industry and see so many who don’t (seemingly) have advocate help or know what to do, my heart breaks for them so I try to reach out when I can.

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chisue

So sad to hear we have three new losses among our KT friends. I can only guess how difficult it is to lose a spouse. I've only experienced the loss of my DM, 40 years ago. It took such a long time to accept the permanent absence of someone who'd been a constant, loving presence in my life. It was years before I could think of my mom without tearing up.

Courage, dear ladies! Courage!

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sjerin

What a lovely post, Chisue. After my mom and then within 18 months my sister died, I kept telling friends my brain has to relearn this new information all the time. It's better now, but man, do I ever miss them!

I too feel very badly for new widows and widowers; I tried to imagine what it will be like, but my brain won't let me go there. We're very attached to our people, aren't we?

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Lukki Irish

In my case, my Mom passed in July 2016, my sister passed this last February (on another sister’s birthday) and now I’ve lost the love of my life. I lived far away from both my Mom & sister, so it took a while to sink in, but with my husband, at times the grief is overwhelming and it’s only magnifying as time passes. Even though he was ill, I never imagined life without him.

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Elmer J Fudd

I'm sorry for your loss, I hope things work out for you.

Don't try to be a hero.

An oldster in our family, finding herself a widow (not unexpectedly because her husband was a dozen years older), was resolved to stay in her own home where she'd lived for over 50 years. One neighbor did this for her, another neighbor did that. Then a few different people went shopping for her when she stopped driving. She needed to hire a cleaning service when she couldn't do that any more and had trouble finding one that was satisfactory. A home care attendant service was found so that someone could come every other day to cook and help her shower but the turnover was sometimes monthly, a new person to meet and explain how she wanted things. It got to the point that her well being was declining and she'd really worn out her welcome with taking advantage of the good nature of others.

Very reluctantly, she agreed to move to an elder living facility. Forgetting how well she's been taken care of during the crisis of the last 5 months (that would have been impossible had she still been in her house), she's never had better care. Up until March, fun social interaction with more new friends than anytime in the last 20 years, better food, better medical care (the docs visit the facility), and more happiness. Something she should have done 10 years sooner and she says so.

So best wishes in dealing with what I know will be very hard changes. Please, don't try to be a hero. Don't wait until it's too late to get services or make living arrangements that will make your safer and more comfortable.

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lindaohnowga

Lukki Irish, how many years were you and your hubby married? Big Hugs for you.

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Lukki Irish

Oh Linda, not long enough! He passed on the 21st anniversary of when we met for the first time, we were married 3 months later. I’m thankful that he’s no longer in pain but we were inseparable, so I miss him terribly. I saw that you and your DH have been married 50 years. I can’t imagine the loss you must be feeling as well. ((Big hugs to you as well))

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