Being alone wasn't so bad, how was yours?

6 years ago

Son, wife and grandson in Virginia. Had a nice call from them, plus friends to check on me.

My Christmas brunch was enjoyed with eggs over easy, on biscuits and bacon. Slept late, and made it thru the day and was pleasant.

How was yours?

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Ladydi Zone 6A NW BC Canada

6 years ago

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So happy to hear that Glenda. My day has been very quiet as well. Received a phone call from my two sons, grandkids, and my partner's daughter which made my Christmas. For a change the day turned out sunny (a wonderful surprise during our coastal winter season where we get alot of rain instead of snow). When we moved here a couple years ago I kind of inherited a cat when his very elderly owner next door broke his hip and was unfortunately moved to a senior's home. I've never had a cat before and what a delightful surprise he has turned out to be. He was basking in the sun shining in the house as well. It turned out to be a good day as well.

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drewsmaga
6 years ago
I am happy for you that being alone was okay!
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Glad you had a good day, Glenda. Nice to have a phone visit with your son and grandson too. It was nice and sunny here, wasn’t it?

We hosted all our kids and grands in Sunday. After having brunch and more gift opening at my DD’s this morning, we came home and spent most of the afternoon in the back porch. We put our new smoker together and enjoyed the day. DD and my SIL had to go to work tonight, so needed some rest this afternoon, and DGD will likely go visit some friends, or just rest herself.
amylou321
6 years ago
last modified: 6 years ago
I'm happy to hear you enjoyed your day. It was like any other for me,save dragging the man out of bed to open his presents. After that, I went to bed and slept until I had to get up and come to work. It's been a slow,rather peaceful night. The other people working tonight are having a midnight breakfast thing and I am making 2 monkey breads for it,one regular, one with pecans. The regular one is done the pecan one is in the oven now.

Heres the regular one. I bought cute platters to put them on but they are plastic and I'm leery about it so I put some foil down. Not pretty but whatever. I can't leave my immediate area to join the party so someone will come pick them up in a little while. I dont eat at potlucks anyway. My family Christmas party will be this sunday,and I will be cooking a little every morning when I get off work until the day. Maybe that day will feel more like Christmas.

Merry Christmas everyone.

ETA: The pecan one:
peacockbleau
6 years ago
I stayed home today. Family celebration was on the 24th. Weather was summer like. I used the long handled loppers to trim the ends off of some low hanging branches that were potential eye pokers. Decided that a BLT was a perfect lunch.
sweet_betsy No AL Z7
6 years ago
Friend and I were each going to be alone on Christmas since we celebrated on Saturday with family. We decided to meet for a quick lunch at Waffle House and then spend the afternoon at the movies. We saw Little Women which was okay but had a slow start. Anyway a new Christmas adventure for us. It could become customary.
OklaMoni
6 years ago
My friend Esther and I ventured downtown on our bikes on the 24th, to pay our house taxes... but they were closed, even though the website proclaimed open.

For the 25th I had planned on a bike ride with another friend, that was also going to be alone that day... but last minute invited him to join me for my Christmas Lunch Meal.

After eating we did a nice loop ride here in the city, before coming back for ice cream desert.

All in all a very pleasant day... but alas, in the end not solo.
georgysmom2
6 years ago
I'm really tired......there's a lot to be said for staying home alone!!!!

We will have another celebration this weekend when DD will be home from Europe. I will keep that one real simple for sure.
marilyn_c
6 years ago
Not technically alone....my husband was here, but I spent most of the day cleaning his truck and packing his bag. He left this morning to go to Houston to see a lung specialist that the VA wanted him to see. From there he is leaving to go to Florida for a week or so. I am going to be home alone. Yesterday I also put out 2 round bales of hay for the horses. They already had some out there, but I gave them two more, which will hopefully last until he gets back.
socks
6 years ago
Very nice day with family. Luckily our rainstorm delayed getting to us, so freeways were safer for Christmas Day drivers, at least in our area. I'm happy it's behind us, though. Ate too much.

Glad it went well, Glenda, and I hope it was the same for other "loners."
Chi
6 years ago
It was just me and DH and we didn't do anything. It kind of made me sad but it was my own doing! Could have decorated, made a nice meal, etc. I'm missing my family in Florida.
marylmi
6 years ago
Mine was good. I cooked Slow Cooker Herbed Turkey Breast and it was very good. So tender an juicy. The gravy was just right, it didn't need anything extra. The recipe called for one half cup of chicken broth to cook it in but I added closer to a cup. Was able to watch my soaps so all was good! :)
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6 years ago
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Glenda....your good company for yourself! Glad it went well...

DH is trying to organize spare tool-emergency kits for the vehicles....so he spent the day in the garage, not under foot. :0) I spent the morning cooking-baking, walking the cat....the afternoon...sewing seat covers. Then we watched the movie "Time Lapse". The movie was so weird... like a tragic comedy. It felt like I was watching a play, on a stage. The characters physically stayed in a small area. Since it wasn't probable, the ending wasn't predictable. My brain kept picking it apart. All in ALL.....a perfect day!
Rosie
6 years ago
I'm glad your day turned out well, Glenda. I was hoping you'd have a nice day even though you were by yourself.

We had a great day. We followed our usual morning routine - tea/wake up time was followed by working out, breakfast and then present opening. We had socks stuffed with little gifts and gifts from my sister under the tree. After that, we showered, got dressed and spent the rest of the day packing and cleaning the house as we are leaving town this morning and won't be back until New Year's Day. I love to come home to a clean house so house cleaning is always on the agenda the day before a trip.

Our dinner was leftover enchiladas because we are also trying to empty the fridge before we leave. Breakfast today is going to be a hodge podge of breakfast casserole, enchiladas, fruit and yogurt.
matti5
6 years ago
Amylou, your monkey breads look absolutely yummy and I'm putting that on my agenda to make tomorrow.

Glenda, glad your day went ok, enjoy your upcoming brunch.

I woke up this morning feeling quite thrilled the holidays are over :)
rhizo_1 (North AL) zone 7
6 years ago
Ladydi, congratulations for joining the ranks of those of us who are hopelessly beguiled by a cat. I think that it's wonderful that you've taken that beauty into your home.

Be sure to ask here if you have any questions about cat idiosyncrasies, of which there are many!
lily316
6 years ago
WE had a nice day with most of the family and the day after I am always glad it's gone for another year. I don't like Xmas any more and I loved it in my younger days
cooper8828
6 years ago
It was just DH, me, and the cats. This year we left everything in the boxes they were shipped in. The cats had a box jungle and went wild, with the assistance of fresh catnip. It was a good, low-key day.
Fun2BHere
6 years ago
I’m happy it is the day after Christmas. I can relax. I had to jump out of bed early this morning to put the trash containers out on the street and I have one more load of dishes to put away, but then I’m free until Saturday when we will be celebrating with my mother’s side of the family. I’ll go help set up, but it’s not at our house and I don’t have to cook, so minimal effort on my part. Yay!
Ladydi Zone 6A NW BC Canada
6 years ago
Thanks Rhizo-1. I was so lucky to get a cat who was obviously well loved and taught impeccable manners. He goes outside to go to the bathroom, sits outside our bedroom door early in the morning voicing little (almost soundless) meows for someone to get up and fed him, doesn't jump up on counters, shred the furniture, and is the best lap warmer ever. I just love him. I believe he's about 9 or 10 yrs old.
glenda_al
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6 years ago
Sounds like a good one for all! :o)
Kathsgrdn
6 years ago
Work was okay, busy at times, very slow at others, especially toward the end of shift. I read, played games on my phone, read the news in between calls. I also went for a 15 minute walk on one of my breaks because it was 66 degrees out yesterday. Beautiful day. My foot and leg hurt when walking but wished I had taken my lunch break out.
gardengal48 (PNW Z8/9)
6 years ago
I spent most of my day alone.......well, the dog was there :-) I had a leisurely brunch, watched A Christmas Story (which I had never seen before!!) and then took the dog for a walk, as it was lovely and sunny if chilly. And my daughter and I talked by phone....won't get to see her until tomorrow.

I did join the family late afternoon for dinner.....15, including 4 under the age of 10. I could have spent the entire day with them but that's way too frenetic and overdone for me although I enjoy seeing my grandnieces and nephews, just not through the chaos of overindulged gifting!

Dinner was fantastic - my hosting nephew is an excellent cook - and one of the dinner guests was a locally renown chef. He is actually a good friend of the hosting couple and they have invested in his business enterprises. That would have intimidated me but he went back for seconds so he must have liked it!!

It was a great day and just enough for me. But I am glad it is all over. Now I can enjoy visiting with the out of town relatives without all the Christmas Day hoo-haa.

btw, the family welcomed a new member as of 2:30am this morning (more out of towners). We seem to have a plethora of Christmas babies in my family! What exactly is happening in March, I wonder...........??
chisue
6 years ago
last modified: 6 years ago
Ahhh...thank goodness THAT is OVER! I feel burdened by 'jollity required' and much better when holidays are over. Give me lovely *ordinary* life, day to day. Fortunately, I no longer have to "Make Christmas Happen", as I did for decades -- an only child with an older mother and MIL. I guess I did all right, as DS now enjoys hosting with his DW -- 18 at table Christmas Eve. There was a Five in attendance, bringing our DGD (8) down to his level of frantic Santa-excitement. (Is there a filter for hearing aids against Sustained SHRIEKING?) it was a very nice evening.

Weather feels more like an unusually warm Easter. It's 60+ here at noon.

DH just called the pharmacy. They have his Shingrex in stock for his second dose, to be administered on Saturday. He had no trouble with the first dose; let's hope this one is also 'no problem'.

Wishing all of you here a Good New Year 2020!
phoggie
6 years ago
Although I do lIve alone, this turned out to be an extra special Christmas season. The 22nd, all of my children, their spouses, and my grandchildren were here to join me at noon, we played the fun Saran Wrap game, shared gifts, sent the grandkids on a “pretend errand” while my DDs set up a surprised baby shower for my first great-grand baby, who is scheduled to arrive the end of March.

Christmas Eve, I joined some other ladies for a beautiful service at church then took a drive around the town looking at Christmas lights.

One of my daughters did not want me to spend Christmas Day alone, so she asked me to come to KC to spend the day with her family. Man, can my grandsons cook! They are 20 and 27 and they prepared the absolute best Chicken Cordon Bleu I have ever eaten, several other side dishes and Cannoli for dessert...even making their own ricotta cheese to use in it! In the afternoon, we all decorated sugar cookies...before I drove back home facing the eye-blinding sun!

Today, I found out that my home-bound brother’s daughter did not bring them a meal yesterday that she had promised and they ate a TV dinner. To me this was heart-breaking...she only lives 2 blocks away, so I make them a home cooked meal and took it to them....they were so appreciative. But I am tired tonight and will just stay in and relax for the evening.
gardengal48 (PNW Z8/9)
6 years ago
"Today, I found out that my home-bound brother’s daughter did not bring them a meal yesterday that she had promised and they ate a TV dinner. To me this was heart-breaking...she only lives 2 blocks away"

I find that rather appalling!! She couldn't even manage that on Christmas Day....did she even get in a visit?? So good of you to pick up the slack and I don't doubt that it was much appreciated. Some folks just naturally invite good karma while others blindly blunder through life wondering why things don't turn out better................
phoggie
6 years ago
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Gardengal, I guess she must of thought seeing them for a few minutes the day before, when she said she would bring them something, had filled her Christmas obligation! And she is their only child! :-(

Being alone wasn't so bad, how was yours?

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