Dear beauty2009,

Well spoken! I'm 50 I started menopause 7 years ago. The last 2 years being the worst. Panic and anxiety attacks, sweats, tremors, insomnia, crying, bloat, sadness, off-balanced, head rushes, etc. Been to many doctors had many tests. More than I could list. I am on Bio-identical hormone replacement therapy. Works for some symptoms not all. My body can't seem to hold on to estrodial. I am currently working with a lovely doctor who is trying to help me. I am taking lots of supplements along with hormones. She found out I have a leaky blood brain barrier due to gluten allergy which I never knew I had. I could go on and on but what I want to say is you are right. My husband and I have been married almost 26 years. He has been my rock. I have shed many a tear on his shoulder. He has listened to me for endless hours and has taken me to most of my
doctor appts. The only thing that is getting me through this hell is his true love. I don't even know how to thank him. I will love him until the day I die. So yes love is a very powerful medicine in trying to heal and cope.

I wish you the very best. I feel your pain and know you have been posting for a long time. I hope the light shines upon all us menopausal sufferers soon.

Terri

Hi lostnj Terry, so nice to read your post how lovely to find a kindred soul so full of love and appreciation for your husband so many ladies out there just do not seem to get the love , understanding and total support that we are so fortunate to bathe in .
If everyone was in the position we are fortunate to be in maybe then this time in our lives would be easier to bear i feel all the pain that all women feel when going through this time thank god we are in time when women can share and men can if they try truly empathise with our enduring plight i live in england and i think that advances in meno care are way behind the understanding which your doctors in america seem to have and may i just say while im here god bless america for ridding the world of an evil murderer it sends a true message of hope for the world i speak for all english people maybe some peace now for all the sad loss to all the families who,s loved ones were taken by the murderer who was to all of us a total coward.
Keep your chin up stay in love keep on truckin xxx shelly

hey there beauty and lostnj,
Just reading the posts and loving the fact that as usual, I realise I am not alone. I have been living with my symptoms for 10 years and my husband has had to put up with my wingeing and crying and constant moans about not feeling right. He's also been brilliant and I think we are really lucky to have found men who really care about us. My husband is 8 years younger than me (hes nearly 43) and I feel so bad for him cos our sex life isn't what it used to be. I had a fantastic sex life in my early 40's!. I'm not taking HRT and I take lots of supplements. I have also had quite bad vaginal dryness and itching and I found that organic Aloe vera gel has worked wonders for the itching and I have also been recommended to use a lubricant called Silk which is all natural. I really trust the lady who recommended it so I am going to give it try. She was also the one who told me to use Aloe vera. I have occassional hot flashes during the day but I still have unbelievable flashes during the night. Strangely, in the past week I am constantly cold during the day and am finding it difficult to keep warm. I also have cold spots on my skin which is really bizzare. Today I had light headedness and just felt that odd out of it way I sometimes get. I have got to the point where I am sick and tired hearing myself complain about how I'm feeling so I say nothing these days and pretend I'm fine. I still get overwhelming tiredness and some nights I'm in bed by 9 and out cold. I'm hoping this is all going to stop this year as I haven't had a period for 16 months. Sorry for going on a bit. Keep well both of you and hang on in there. Susan

Hi hun49 nice to know im not the only one who moans so no period for 16 months thats good hope they stay that way for you im always tired ive hadloads of muscle aches this last week in my legs and pain under my armpit again but iv had tests on that so i know theres nowt wrong with it really but it does bother me a lot its a pain getting up everyday with a new ache n pain have gotten some sleep tho last 2 nights i dont get the lighthead unless im on the bp tablets which i now refuse to take im going au natural at mo and feel a bit better for it looking forward to me holiday next friday that should perk me up a bit take care shellt x

I found this site and I thank God I did. All your posts have made me feel better about how I've been feeling. I am 45 years old and this past year I have felt like life wasn't worth living anymore. The anxiety, depression, mood swings, constant crying. Today has been one of the worse so far. Because of the insomnia and feeling sick I have literally felt like if I can't ever be normal and happy again I don't want to live. I won't hurt myself but I find myself wishing I would rather die than to feel this way. I joined this site just so I could tell all of you who took the time to write about your story. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. And from your stories I realized something important. I need to find a new doctor and not give up. Giving up just makes it worse. Again thank you so much for your stories.

i would like to thank this site from the bottom of my heart i am suffering from all of the above and although i have tried to explain how i have been feeling to my family it has not come out quite right. i have often resorted to saying as many woman do theres nothing wrong im fine which has made them especially my partner whom i adore feel like they themselves are the cause of my unhappiness. i was thrown into the menopause five years ago at the age of 44 due to the sudden loss of my beautifull mom then due to her death two years on my dad deceided to join her. i knew i was in the menopause but in january i hit a low that i have not been able to claw myself back from i have tried to deal with it on my own but realised last week that i was unable to ihave to as you all above had numerous symptoms hot flushes during the day night sweats aches pains dizziness complete loss of sex drive(very active before) vaginal dryness crying hugh mood swings from one minute to the next but the loss of emotion is my worst symptom. i deceided i needed to tell my family what was happening but all i could muster was moans and groans and im old old old and so very sad. so i trawled lots of sites to help me find the right words and none of them helped, then i found this site and i rang my partner and read each comment to him i spent three hours on the phone with him as this enabled me to talk to him and show him how life had become for me i then went on to explain to my daughter last night today i got out of bed feeling happy for the first time in a long time that i have now shared how im feeling and that my family are going to help in everyway they can especially my beautifull partner who is kind sensitive and has felt that he was causing my unhappiness not only have you helped me but i have introduced a friend to the site and she breathed as she read it. im now ready to do battle and will combat this awfull stage in my life. but can i say to all ladies out there do not hold it in share it with your loved ones thankyou so much xxxxx