Changes to Windows and the elderly
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Elmer J Fudd
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Out of state, elderly relatives--what to do? (long)
Comments (9)Good morning all, and thank for the feedback. Agnespuffin: unfortunately, we don't know the original attorney and now Aunt is saying that "he was too expensive, maybe I need to get another attorney who is less expensive and closer to where we live". Otherwise, I would have been on the phone with him immediately to discuss the situation. But you're right, we may have to just do some detective work, sit down with the attorney and hope that he will talk to us (keeping confidentiality in mind) and give us some guidance. You also make a good point about their level of resistance may be in direct proportion to the level of difficulty they are having and don't want to admit to. Fairegold: you really went through it with your mother--she was lucky to have you during those last few years. I had thought about the trust account too and didn't know how to set it up...again something to discuss with the mystery-attorney. Chelone: "most elderly have no idea how the system is stacked against them...." You are SO RIGHT. Especially here, because Aunt and Uncle, for various reasons, avoided the day-to-day care of their parents as their (the parents') deaths approached. They have absolutely no idea. UPDATE: Although DH is the person that Aunt and Uncle have asked to do these jobs, Brother is the person who seems to have the most sway with Aunt. Brother called this weekend and threw his support behind DH and me, as far as getting these things done, it won't be that expensive, very important to take care of the POAs, etc, in case Aunt is unable to make decisions for Uncle, and vice versa. Unfortunately, the feeling that Brother came away with is that Aunt and Uncle somehow have the idea that all this is because we are "after their money". Despite the fact that we have emphasized over and over that that is not the issue....taking care of them while they are alive is the issue. It is disheartening to be thought of as underhanded. If letting this go didn't mean more work and heartache for DH later, I would just throw up my hands and let it go. But he'll just keep at it (when the time comes) and a failure of nerve now will just make everything so much worse later. Oh and another thing: now they want to name their neighbor as the Medical POA, because they're closer, etc etc. I can see that that could be a nightmare (ie what if Aunt and Uncle want no extraordinary measures but neighbor cannot agree to that, etc). It just keeps getting better and better. Thanks for all of your help. So much to think about....See MoreMaking life easier with an elderly cat
Comments (9)I had the same situation as sarabera with my 15yr.old cat. High blood pressure med has turned him around greatly. He's def. not a kitten anymore but he has energy, transitioned to a litter box last year (is an outside/inside, always went out to do his business but needs the litter box overnight). He jumps, he plays with toys, he runs through the house. Sometimes I tell him, "Slow down! You'll hurt yourself!". lol He never used a litter box in his life but when he started to pee on the bathroom rugs I just put the rug in the litter box and kept cutting it in smaller and smaller pieces until I removed the rug altogether. I use The Worlds' Best Cat Litter. No odor, clumps amazingly, but does track some. I scoop out the box as soon as I notice it having been used. But unless I keep the box pretty much full of the litter, he will use the cotton rug it sits on. (box sits on a small cotton rug, which in turn sits on a half folded vinyl tablecloth). I think it's because he doesn't like to step up and then down into the litter box. Not sure if it's preference or maybe the action cause some discomfort. Also the vinyl tablecloth will catch any litter thrown out that the rug doesn't catch and also if he (or the other cat) sits too close to the edge of the box and poop drops to the floor. I take everything up in the morning and only put the box back out in the evening or when I know I'll be gone several or more hours. He does pee often but much less since the BP med. Perhaps I'll only have a couple more years with him but like the OP says I try to make his life as easy as possible....See MoreHelping a elderly friend with their computer remotely
Comments (39)@ aputernut Was that a stream-of-consciousness moment ? There's like about a 100 words there, with no punctuation, no sentence capitalization, nothing . . . How are we supposed to parse something like that ? lol Btw, the way that link was made, it only goes to ehow.com . I did take a look though . . . as you probably know, ehow.com is by no means a tech site. They have people employed to dream up things to write "how-to" articles about, a lot of it being almost copy & paste. They may be correct on some points, but it's hardly a definitive or authoritative site for tech info....See MoreChanging windows to a slider and door to a window
Comments (7)If I'm on the same page with you the intent is to open the living area to the outdoors. The kind of door you may be thinking about would cost around $10K and a grand or two for installation. The demo, building a temporary support wall, a properly sized new header including engineering fees to size it and installation would be in the $15k range. The finish work on the inside another $5K-$10K because the sofit would need tore out and rebuilt on the wall . The finish work on the exterior would depend on the type of exterior material, but what I can see through the windows I'm guessing it's stucco and will run another $5K minimum to fix it up nice. So closer to Joseph's high estimate of $50K. If this home is built with cement block (Florida?) and not wood construction things just got a little more expensive. Total cost is in all in the details you haven't supplied. I noticed those 4 big windows are fixed and none can be opened and something I'd hate. I would replace the windows with a something else if it was me, and like opening the interior with the outdoors....See MoreElmer J Fudd
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